Date Report

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[FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2]I went out with this late 30's HB9 the other night that I met off the internet. She's a southern belle, daddy's girl type who looks very high maintenance......for some reason I always attract those types. [/SIZE][/FONT]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Overall, I had a blast and it was probably one of the best dates I've ever been on. I am fairly certain she had a great time as well. But as you know, women are women and first date success isn't always indicative of future results. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]At the first venue we hit it off very well from the start. She exhibited very positive body language from the onset. I've never had a girl do this before which is a bit alarming. Have you guys? Usually it starts to develop thru the course of the date. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]We walked to the next venue and had some wine and got comfortable on the couch. By now the physical flirting is in full force and there's a few kisses swapped. I'm thinking this date is going great and we haven't had too much to drink yet. I should have ended it and left it on a super high note. But this girl was so sexxy-hot, were having fun, and I'm not ready to go home. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]I grab her hand and we drive separate cars to the next venue.[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]By now there's heavy kissing/caressing........she is leaned back against me and I'm wrapped around her like shes my girlfriend. She asks if we should have another drink and I tell her no. I get up to go to the bathroom and she is up paying the bartender like a good girl should! I was impressed, I didn't even have to suggest it. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]I ended up driving her home because she had plenty to drink. On the way home we are both playing air guitar and singing to Van Halen. She calls up her friend to meet her outside her apartment where I dropped her off. [/FONT][/SIZE]


[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]I have texted her twice since our date:[/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Me: How are you?[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Her: Good just a bit hung over and on my way to the fair.......how r u?[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Me: Doing great.......hung over.....haha..we drank last night!?!?[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Day and a half later[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Me: How's the fair...did you survive all the fried nastyness?[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Her: Hi! I am so tired..long day.. yes i survived the fired nastyness...LOL. How r u?[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Me: Doing fine! ;-) just got done working out. U remember singing to Van Halen the other night?[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]...........Haven't heard back [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]During our date she mentioned the age difference and I imagine I was younger than what she truly wanted. She quizzed me on why I put 36 as the maximum age of female that I was looking for. However she mentioned she was physically attracted. She was also put out because men in the 40-45 age group don't take care of themselves. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]I just get this "too good to be true" vibe from her. I was going to ask her out this weekend, but I think I'm going to pass on that idea and ignore her for a few days. She can start asking herself "why isn't this guy chasing after me".............[/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]She's a very strong and independent personality coupled with the fact she is very attractive. She's got a great job and has her life together. No doubt she's got plenty of options.[/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]I feel that I did a great job laying the charm on and seducing her. I haven't dated very many women of this caliber so I don't know exactly how to proceed. Usually the more I ignore them the more they come after me. Is that how I should roll? [/FONT][/SIZE]

[SIZE=2][FONT=Verdana]Maybe I am just f'd up because i got a girl who is super hot and I really enjoyed hanging out with. I know if this girl was a HB8 I wouldn't even be posting this. [/FONT][/SIZE]
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You found a HB9 who is 39 years old? Bravo.

I just saw that Courtney Cox is 46. How is it possible she is still so hot?

I just can't imagine that you guys had such a good time and this not going anywhere. 90% of the time it should, however maybe she is the type of girl that gets so drunk she usually forgets what transpired the night before. If that is the case, no she does not remember the air guitar and you might be up shit creek.

Remove the HB9 from the equation and just go at it like she is a HB7ish. This should server you well.

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This seems similar to the date I wrote about in my Sparks Not Flying thread in the General forum. The chick seemed really into me and then nothing. What probably happened was I started enjoying the physical contact and lost indifference. I stopped being a challenge at some point, and it was noticeable. Could this be what happened with you?

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[QUOTE=Rhody;38072]This seems similar to the date I wrote about in my Sparks Not Flying thread in the General forum. The chick seemed really into me and then nothing. What probably happened was I started enjoying the physical contact and lost indifference. I stopped being a challenge at some point, and it was noticeable. Could this be what happened with you?[/QUOTE]


I'm thinking the same thing here.

You can even sort of read your excitement in your post:

[COLOR=red]I had a blast and it was probably one of the best dates I've ever been on.[/COLOR]
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[COLOR=black]Is it possible that you started complying too much with her physical requests? Women that are really sexual or hot tend to use their sex appeal to shit test guys. These are the toughest ones to be indifferent with because every fiber in your being is screaming to fuck the shit out of her...but, you've got to remain aloof, elusive, and indifferent.[/COLOR]

It's easier said than done with the hot ones or the really sexy ones. But, they should have the confidence to be able to deal with an uncaring asshole.

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I posted this in the other thread, but here it is again since these could be related:

Since that date, one thing I started forcing myself to do is when I'm kissing a girl I'll stop, push her away slightly, and say, "ok, that's enough for you." I've done this three times now and not only do they respond well, but I put myself into a challenging state again.

This is congruent with my personality. I just have to remind myself of that sometimes when a cute chick is grinding on me.

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You should buy her the most expensive box of chocolates you can afford, and then add 10% because she's worth it. Hide in the bushes until she comes home, then surprise her with them. Have flowers delivered to her house tomorrow. Serenade her with a lute and your sexiest baritone voice. Hire a mariachi band to play outside her window.

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I was just thinking about all of the times I was dating a girl and she was madly, crazy, head over heels in love with me and my schlong. And, I noticed a trend. All of the girls had something about them that were LTR deal breakers for me. In other words, they were hot, fun, and good enough for me to date/fuck for a while but not good enough for me to marry or want to spend my life with them.

There was the girl that was a straight up nut job. I knew this from the very beginning but she was hot and fucked like a champion. She stuck around, off and on, for well over 3 years. I finally got fed up with her craziness. Even when she dated other guys, she would come over for some loving.

There were a couple of women that had kids. I'm not going to marry someone with a kid, no matter how hot or good they are in the sack. So, I stuck around. Knocked the bottoms out of them as long as they would allow before demanding more from me and our 'relationship.' Then I left her and her bastard child (a lot of you guys know one of the girls I'm talking about)...

There were a couple of strippers. No need to elaborate.

Every girl I ever SNL'd and then saw again. Nope, can't marry a bonafide whore.

There was the Lebanese chick that was a complete and utter bitch to everyone, except for me.

The chick that was born pre-mature and had two weird scars on her upper biceps. I could never marry someone so flawed physically. And, she had IBS so no anal loving...deal breaker!!! Still though, she was fun to fuck.

The two married chicks.

I'm sure there are others.

Anyway, my point is that I got it in my mind that they were expendable. So, I played the aloof, uncaring asshole card really, really well. Sure, I liked them to be around, but if they left then so be it. I wouldn't care a week from now anyways.

From now on, I'm going to look for flaws that will lead to relationship death row and then focus on that trait. Instead of focusing on her beauty, focus on the deal breaker but enjoy the beauty while you have her around.

I can think of one deal breaker right off the bat that applies to 99.87578987233% of all women...she's a woman, a woman's beauty fades (and fast). I'm a man. I'll age gracefully and should still be able to pull much younger chicks.

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[QUOTE=Bull Run;38079]From now on, I'm going to look for flaws that will lead to relationship death row and then focus on that trait. Instead of focusing on her beauty, focus on the deal breaker but enjoy the beauty while you have her around.

I can think of one deal breaker right off the bat that applies to 99.87578987233% of all women...she's a woman, a woman's beauty fades (and fast). I'm a man. I'll age gracefully and should still be able to pull much younger chicks.[/QUOTE]

I know what you're saying, but I think it's more satisfying, and emotionally healthy, to focus on something in YOU that causes you to be indifferent, rather than a flaw in HER. It should be absolute.

For me, I think about how I'm pretty happy by myself. I enjoy my independence. One day I decided I wanted to buy a motorcycle... so I did. I wanted to hang my guitars on the wall, so I did. I didn't have to ask "the boss" or any shit like that. I live in MY house. I drive MY car. If I want to take a trip, I do it. When I start spending too much time with a woman, I usually end up breaking it off because I don't want her thinking it's going to end up in a serious relationship. Not because she's flawed, but because I'm a fucking batchelor. That's how I roll.

I love women, even the flawed ones. They're so fucking adorable. That being said, I wouldn't want to own one.

The expression I stated above, "ok, that's enough for you," I chose very carefully. It's not just a cocky/funny, push/pull line I say. It reminds me that I have so much to offer that I can't give it all to just one woman. When a woman is especially attractive or is overly affectionate, that's when I need that reminder the most. It's a good reminder for her too.

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[QUOTE=Rhody;38080]I know what you're saying, but I think it's more satisfying, and emotionally healthy, to focus on something in YOU that causes you to be indifferent, rather than a flaw in HER. It should be absolute.

For me, I think about how I'm pretty happy by myself. I enjoy my independence. One day I decided I wanted to buy a motorcycle... so I did. I wanted to hang my guitars on the wall, so I did. I didn't have to ask "the boss" or any shit like that. I live in MY house. I drive MY car. If I want to take a trip, I do it. When I start spending too much time with a woman, I usually end up breaking it off because I don't want her thinking it's going to end up in a serious relationship. Not because she's flawed, but because I'm a fucking batchelor. That's how I roll.

I love women, even the flawed ones. They're so fucking adorable. That being said, I wouldn't want to own one.

The expression I stated above, "ok, that's enough for you," I chose very carefully. It's not just a cocky/funny, push/pull line I say. It reminds me that I have so much to offer that I can't give it all to just one woman. When a woman is especially attractive or is overly affectionate, that's when I need that reminder the most. It's a good reminder for her too.[/QUOTE]


Yeah, but I don't think that's enough all the time. Shit, we neg chicks openly, the hotter the more they need. Why not create a few negs, in your head, that you keep to yourself to remind you that she's not perfect and she's not worth compromising what you want for her...

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Grimm- you're a funny fucker! lol

Thanks fellas, as always some good food for thought from you guys.

She finally did text back and wants to go out again. I've got a few other "tricks" to help keep me aloof with the HB9. The power to remain aloof and ignore these girls is the most powerful weapon we have in our arsenal. Its just a lot harder when you have a fetish for extra hot women!