Creamy at Purgatory! (no, not like that)

[Guest]

All in all, a really fun night at Purgatory with some Dallas Lair guys. Got 6 number-closes and did about 20-25 sets. Everything hooked a lot better today too than before, which might be because I didn't look like a bag of ass this time. (I do need a haircut though.)

I hitched a ride with Tristan and met up with Solace, k1300r, zine, and phrozen at Purgatory. Just before getting we get in, Tristan is accosted by a couple of hot chicks who get all up on him. Wtf, talk about VIP treatment. Bastard. Anyways we roll in and meet up with the rest of the Dallas Lair guys at the bar on the 3rd floor.

The instant I enter a venue I have to open a set within 5 minutes or I get all out of state and gay-like for the whole night. So I spot a cute girl sitting down by herself and I go for it. At first she was totally not into the conversation and real quiet, but I just plowed on. Forget the 90/10 rule, it was more like just me talking about random shit continuously for 5 minutes straight. Eventually she warmed up though and we had a cool chat for a while. Then I get bored, collect her number, and leave.

BAD. See, this is the reason why I only get number-closes at clubs, when guys like Solace and Tristan get k-closes and SNLs. I don't fucking keep at it, even when the girls like me a lot! I think it's because now that I'm finally comfortable with opening sets, generating attraction, and having a good vibe, I'm staying in my comfort zone and NOT ESCALATING. Well fuck that - I will now try to escalate more in my sets - most of the numbers I get aren't much use anyway.

When out with a group of guys, I tend to not stick with the group that much. I just go around doing my own thing. In fact, I didn't even see the other guys for most of the night. I'm now perfectly comfortable with approaching a seated set and just making them scoot over and sitting down in the middle of them, even if it's like a 4-set or 5-set. This act, just by itself, seem to generate a lot of attraction. I do this a lot and it's fun, the sets are hooking, and I am in the best state I could ask for.

You know the kind of feeling you get when you're just perfectly content, sociable, and simply don't give a fuck? The best adjective I could think of to describe it is that I was feeling... [b]creamy[/b] (TM). Just perfectly content with the world, super-relaxed, completely outcome dependent, enjoying everything. I walked around in this creamy state and hooked a bunch of sets easily and collected a bunch of numbers just being spontaneous, ballsy, and indifferent. Now I need to add "escalation" to the mix.

I think I have deservedness issues. I end up thinking that the REALLY hot girls don't want me, which is a completely illogical limiting belief. Like, for example, I'm fine with all 8s and below, but I somehow feel that 9s and above wouldn't want me. This was demonstrated perfectly in a set that really stuck out:

On my way to the sinks to wash my hands I saw a really hot girl primping her hair in the mirror. She was about an 8.5. I was in my creamy state though so I just walk up, stroke a bit of her hair, and tell her "Nope, you're not done." Devilish grin, backturn. She's like, OH MY GOD!! with a huge smile and hits me on the chest. We banter for a minute and it's painfully obvious that it is ON, ON, ON with this great-looking and infinitely sexable girl.

Suddenly, though, I just kind of turn away and wash my hands. She looks genuinely confused, kind of lingers for a few seconds looking at me, and is dragged off by a friend. I really don't know why I did that! I didn't even number-close. If she was a 7.5, this would have never happened. Somehow I need to work on this... I imagine with more experience it'll get better.

That's pretty much it. All in all a very good night. Tristan, like Solace, is most definitely the real deal, and they actually wing each other wonderfully. While I was walking around opening sets I saw them isolated with their girls on second floor Purgatory... they both looked like they were doing REALLY well if you know what I mean. I guess this Field Report turned out more like a sticking point analysis than a field report. Oh well... if any of you who saw me that night have any constructive feedback as to how I could improve, or if I do something in my sets that stick out in a negative way, please let me know. I do still consider myself a beginner, and it's hard figuring out all of your own sticking points sometimes. Cheers!

[Guest]

Had fun, I only opened 5 sets, and got 1 #close. This is the first time I have been out with the community. Thanks for the invite Solace.

[Guest]

no prob phroz3n. My biggest insight into your folly is that you are too high energy. u approach the sets and begin interactions when it's painfully clear(from my perspective) that there is no desireable outcome. The girl you approached, the seated one. You did really well on getting ioi's. you probably could have just dominated and made out with her. She sat down in that chair literally ten minutes after i got there and practically an hour and a half before you got there. She was bored and shy.

You need to harness your energy and direct it towards sets which will work for you. Fuck boring, plain girls, you can be gaming exciting, hot ones. take the training wheels off. Have confidence and execute. you have everything you need.

[Guest]

Will do, thanks for the insight