3 approaches 2 numbers

[jast]

3 approaches 2 numbers

For the past 3 weeks I have just been working on my conversation skills with every one I meet. I try and hit a local bar once a week with a friend of mine to practice. Last week I was having a pretty good conversation with our waitress. She had blond curly hair a little pasted her shoulders, she was about a 7 in my book.

Her: Hi how are you?
Me: Great, how about you staying out of trouble?
Her: Yeah (she gives me a smile)
Me: If you’re going to lie you could at lest try harder. But don’t worry I won’t tell any one.
Her: (She is laughing) Thanks. What can I get you two?
Me: Water for me I have to drive her home and she can’t hold her liquor.
Friend: (she hits me) whatever I can out drink you.
Me: See she has a problem but hasn’t amited it yet, Good thing there are plenty of AA clubs around.
Friend: AA is for quitters, I will have (some wired fruity drink)

I BS with the waitress the rest of the night and we go around and talk to some of the people my friend knows. When we are getting ready to leave I start thinking “things with this chick are going pretty good why not ask her for her number?" I get my credit card receipt back and she starts to walk off.

Me: Hay come back her you forgot something.
Her What?
Me: Write down you number.
Her: (She looks at my friends and then at me. She has kind of a wired look on her face)
Me: Come on I will not get you in to much trouble.
Her: (She writes it down and smiles)
Me: Later girly talk to you soon.
Her: OK (smiling)

After that I was super charged and this morning I felt great. There has been a girl at star bucks that I have been having pretty good conversations with. She is like a HB6 maybe could be a 7 if she worked on it.

Me: How are we today?
Her: Good
Me: How can you listen to this over and over again this is the same bad music that was on last time, Good thing I really need coffee or I never come in here.
Her: Yeah, but after a while you don’t even notice.
Me: How could you not notice it sounds like some techno version of an old beetle’s song?
Her: It is pretty bad. Here is your drink
Me: (I start to walk away the look back at her get eye contacted again) you got email?
Her: yeah.
Me: write it down (I hand her my receipt.)
Her: ok (she starts looking for a pen running all over the place. After about 4o sec she finds one as starts writing.)
Me: go a head and put down your number to.
Her: (she writes it down and hands it to me)
Me: later.
Her (waves at me).

As I walk out I see a girl drink her coffee sting at a table. I want to walk over to her but I don’t, I have been standing out side now for 10 sec at lest trying to get up the courage to talk to her but I just walk to my car. I still have problem with random people that I have no reason to talk to in the first place or I don’t see a way to start a conversation that seems like it flows and is not forced.

[Suave]

Hey good job man...

The thing I want to know is, how did those numbers work out for ya? Were they legit or not?

you seem to have done everything in a smooth flowing manner, nice! The only thing I could think of is to maybe build more comfort after getting the numbers so they won't feel like you just won them over??? I think I saw that somewhere.... anyways.. still good report and let us know wha happened. Follow up... I need details!

[jast]

Both numbers were good. The star bucks chick I met up with. We had a few drinks and then when I was trying to set up a day3 I got this.

Me: We should go hang out some time next week
Her: I have a BF we have been dating for 4 years I am not sure he would like that

After that I pretty much shut down I had no way around it. It was the first time I ever hit the BF wall.

The girl form the bar I talked 2 twice on the phone but she is all ways busy and I can't get anything set up.

[Suave]

You know that kinda thing puzzles me.... She claims she has a BF, yet she still gave the number and even did a day2 with you?

That would have me thinking....

BTW.. I got your PM, hit me up with your contact info so I can call you sometime.

Suave

[TheDoGhoUse]

What I would have done in the boyfriend situation is start asking her questions about her boyfriend - what she likes about him - what kind of guy he is, ect. Associate myself with her boyfriend some, make sure she thinks that I think he is a good guy. That way she doesnt think of me as a threat to her boyfriend and she will associate me with similarites I have to her boyfriend - lets down her defenses a little. You can open a suggestion on a day three just by asking her, " Well I am still looking for some good company to go to this --event-- with me, I know you still want to go". If she agrees you have day3 to try and connect and go for at least a kiss-close on D3 or you are going to end up in the friends phase....no no. I dont like prying into girls with boyfriends too much but if you really want to take him out of the picture study Tyler Durdens Boyfriend Destroying tactics - he really goes for the Jugguler.

[Rhody]

According to Juggler, the boyfriend isn't a wall unless you make it one. He says hot girls ALWAYS have a boyfriend. They have guys hanging around them all the time. She keeps one as her "boyfriend" to be safe. She doesn't want to be alone. You should stay unfazed. She might be bringing up her boyfriend just to see if you're confident enough to go forward.

So next time a girl says, "I have a boyfriend," you say, "he must not spank you hard enough."