My first field report and hopefully not my last...ive been in this group for several months...but my actions were limitless...pretty much a spectator to all of your brave field reports. So im gunna try to attempt to give a detailed report even tho there was a lack of activity in PUA standards.
this last friday night was the first night ive been to a bae in several weeks i believe...I feel that my AA isnt AA anymore...more like Social Paralysis at times...we went to this dive bar which was pretty cool...HB 8-10's all around...but before i even got there...my pre-game was horrible...i was in the opposite of what being 'in-state' is all about...all i was thinkin about was how i was gunna act...trying to remember routines...openers...how i was gunna transition...etc...then when we finally got there...and i saw the woman from the car as we were pulling in...my heart started beating and thoughts swarmed my head...but they were not good thoughts...thoughts of how the outcome would be...how devistated i would be if a 10 turned me down...i should of been in a worry-free, playful, outcome independent, funny guy...which i know i can be cause that persom has showed his face a few times in the past...
So i got there with a horrible in state mind...walked in and saw all the sets that i could of approached but did not...went straight to the bathroom with out saying a word or looking at any HB's in the eye for more then 2 seconds...it felt like daggers when i look for to long...thats another sticking pointing...but mostly for not being in-state...so from the bathroom was straight to the bar where i ordered a long island...and thats all i did was order, no talkin to anyone when there were sets everywhere...all i was thinking to myself was "why am i feeling this way", "why cant i just talk to people...i love to talk"...i honestly just didnt know how to deliver a indirect opener or even go direct...i just didnt know what to say on the spot...like i said before...i am just not able to manifest my thoughts to reality yet...
So i get my drink and go back to my friends who was in the corner of the bar..."the loner spot"...where all the loners would just stand together and watch the dance floor where all the HB's were...so my friends co worker shows up with 3 HB's... 30 year old HB 8, asian HB7.5...and ummm wide HB 2...but she was cool as hell...i know if i properly gamed the HB 8 I coulda F closed her that night but then again, couldnt even put 2 sentences together yet...there some pretty good kino between us tho since there was dancing involved and she grabbed my shirt...but didnt pull me in...just grabbed it like she was about too...i didnt really know what it meant...anyways i ended up talkin to the asain HB7.5...didnt really run shit...no attraction building...didnt properlly A2 her or even A3 but we ended up isolating outside twice to smoke a cig...we talked about various things...i through alot DHV-spiked stories...i actually #-closed her...didnt do anytihng else that night at the bar...didnt even approach sets that i new i could of...I KNOW they wanted me too...they all do in all aspects of social gatherings...they love this shit but men are too chicken shit to do shit because we are hard-wired this way...but this community is to demolish it and i love that about this community...and i wanna be apart of it...i wanna be a student but just cant seem to put it together in reality...help me out guys...i know i have it in me just need to unleash it out...just like the rest of yall of doing...and for doing so...i envy every last one of you...respect
Dallas PUA
The Pickup Artist Playground
Field Report from Slips Inn
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 1:03 pm
One thing that has helped me is to set small goals.....like just starting a conversation....not even thinking DHV or game or any of that stuff. I had to do that because my level of nervousness was so high around beautiful women. Put it out of your mind that you want to sleep with them and forget about the fact that they are attractive. Seriously, don't think about how hot they are....it makes it difficult to hold a conversation when you are mesmerized by their beauty. You can do that later when they aren't around. Oh, and don't beat yourself up when you don't live up to the goals you set for yourself. Just keep trying and learning.
If you just start a normal conversation with an attractive women you will set yourself apart from most of the men she meets. they don't want a man who is intimidated by their beauty. Also just talk to everyone, just get good at that. Let the girls see that you aren't just making a beeline for the 2 or 3 hottest chicks at the club....
some nights I do well and then the next time out I may be paralyzed with AA. Getting over AA for me is not linear it's not something that I progressively get better at....it comes and goes...at least you were talking to some women which is a good start.
If you just start a normal conversation with an attractive women you will set yourself apart from most of the men she meets. they don't want a man who is intimidated by their beauty. Also just talk to everyone, just get good at that. Let the girls see that you aren't just making a beeline for the 2 or 3 hottest chicks at the club....
some nights I do well and then the next time out I may be paralyzed with AA. Getting over AA for me is not linear it's not something that I progressively get better at....it comes and goes...at least you were talking to some women which is a good start.
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 1:32 pm
[quote1219602699=Rembrandt]
One thing that has helped me is to set small goals.....like just starting a conversation....not even thinking DHV or game or any of that stuff. I had to do that because my level of nervousness was so high around beautiful women. Put it out of your mind that you want to sleep with them and forget about the fact that they are attractive. Seriously, don't think about how hot they are....it makes it difficult to hold a conversation when you are mesmerized by their beauty. You can do that later when they aren't around. Oh, and don't beat yourself up when you don't live up to the goals you set for yourself. Just keep trying and learning.
If you just start a normal conversation with an attractive women you will set yourself apart from most of the men she meets. they don't want a man who is intimidated by their beauty. Also just talk to everyone, just get good at that. Let the girls see that you aren't just making a beeline for the 2 or 3 hottest chicks at the club....
some nights I do well and then the next time out I may be paralyzed with AA. Getting over AA for me is not linear it's not something that I progressively get better at....it comes and goes...at least you were talking to some women which is a good start.
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rembrandt offered you great advice here... i'd do what he suggested
good job getting out there. think small steps
One thing that has helped me is to set small goals.....like just starting a conversation....not even thinking DHV or game or any of that stuff. I had to do that because my level of nervousness was so high around beautiful women. Put it out of your mind that you want to sleep with them and forget about the fact that they are attractive. Seriously, don't think about how hot they are....it makes it difficult to hold a conversation when you are mesmerized by their beauty. You can do that later when they aren't around. Oh, and don't beat yourself up when you don't live up to the goals you set for yourself. Just keep trying and learning.
If you just start a normal conversation with an attractive women you will set yourself apart from most of the men she meets. they don't want a man who is intimidated by their beauty. Also just talk to everyone, just get good at that. Let the girls see that you aren't just making a beeline for the 2 or 3 hottest chicks at the club....
some nights I do well and then the next time out I may be paralyzed with AA. Getting over AA for me is not linear it's not something that I progressively get better at....it comes and goes...at least you were talking to some women which is a good start.
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rembrandt offered you great advice here... i'd do what he suggested
good job getting out there. think small steps
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 1:33 pm
I have found that I do immensely better when I get in a good talkative mood. Hang out with friends, go out to dinner, call someone on the phone, watch something funny, listen to high energy music prior to going out. Anything to get in a good mood.
Even if you are going out and you are in a bad mood, you need to do what Rembrandt just mentioned--warm up. Internalize this: The first 2-3 sets do not count! I do this all the time. Open a set of ugly girls, chat with dudes, just get in the habit of talking to everyone. There has been numerous times where I went out and wasn't feeling in the zone but opened a couple sets and felt on fire. If you keep yourself in sets you should get much more talkative and it feels like you don't need to try as hard. I have literally been so in the zone that I feel like I could say anything and it would work. That is a good place to be.
Also, try to have fun. If you feel like you just punched in for an 8 hour shift at Walmart that is gonna come through to the girls you approach. You should feel like you just walked into a surprise birthday party for yourself and everyone loves you even if you are going into a bar alone.
One more thing: I always try to walk around with a smirk on my face when I am at a bar. It puts me in a better mood and very often when girls look over they see you are smiling and will smile back. This is immensely helpful.
Even if you are going out and you are in a bad mood, you need to do what Rembrandt just mentioned--warm up. Internalize this: The first 2-3 sets do not count! I do this all the time. Open a set of ugly girls, chat with dudes, just get in the habit of talking to everyone. There has been numerous times where I went out and wasn't feeling in the zone but opened a couple sets and felt on fire. If you keep yourself in sets you should get much more talkative and it feels like you don't need to try as hard. I have literally been so in the zone that I feel like I could say anything and it would work. That is a good place to be.
Also, try to have fun. If you feel like you just punched in for an 8 hour shift at Walmart that is gonna come through to the girls you approach. You should feel like you just walked into a surprise birthday party for yourself and everyone loves you even if you are going into a bar alone.
One more thing: I always try to walk around with a smirk on my face when I am at a bar. It puts me in a better mood and very often when girls look over they see you are smiling and will smile back. This is immensely helpful.
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 2:46 pm
wow guys im lovin the advise! i feel better about the whole situation since im starting to realize that im atleast getting out there with a PUA mind set...and once im capable to game like a pua, its gunna be pretty amazing...i just gotta stick to it...
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to game in a classroom setting?
Anyways, i had a Day 2 with that girl i number closed last night...we went to the linkin park concert...this is how it went down...
I was supposed to go with my friend but he didnt want to go anymore so i texted the girl if she wanted to go, and she said yes so i went to her house to pick her up. I got there 10 mins early..bad move? so i got to her apartment and chilled there while she was still getting ready...so imagine guys...you are in a girls apartment waiting for her to get ready...what would a pua do at this point?? well, what i did was AFC pretty much...not enough kino and pretty much talked about various topics, but nothing sexual. How should i handled that? so we left to the concert...how should a pua handle a HB at a concert? so we left there and went back to her place, but only to her saying 'i should study for my MCATS exam"...bs huh? we hunged and she left....so pretty AFC huh? i need some advice on some kino escalation on day 2's thanx guys!
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to game in a classroom setting?
Anyways, i had a Day 2 with that girl i number closed last night...we went to the linkin park concert...this is how it went down...
I was supposed to go with my friend but he didnt want to go anymore so i texted the girl if she wanted to go, and she said yes so i went to her house to pick her up. I got there 10 mins early..bad move? so i got to her apartment and chilled there while she was still getting ready...so imagine guys...you are in a girls apartment waiting for her to get ready...what would a pua do at this point?? well, what i did was AFC pretty much...not enough kino and pretty much talked about various topics, but nothing sexual. How should i handled that? so we left to the concert...how should a pua handle a HB at a concert? so we left there and went back to her place, but only to her saying 'i should study for my MCATS exam"...bs huh? we hunged and she left....so pretty AFC huh? i need some advice on some kino escalation on day 2's thanx guys!
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 7:18 pm
[quote1219622766=Gunner22]
I got there 10 mins early..bad move? so i got to her apartment and chilled there while she was still getting ready...so imagine guys...you are in a girls apartment waiting for her to get ready...what would a pua do at this point?? well, what i did was AFC pretty much...not enough kino and pretty much talked about various topics, but nothing sexual. How should i handled that? [/quote1219622766]
I wouldn't have been early. You say X:XXpm thats what that means. You should have stopped at the gas station for a few minutes. You don't want to rush a woman when they are trying to get ready. It tenses them up and makes more work for you to bust through.
Most are never ready on time anyways. You like looking at pretty girls right?????....then give them the time they need to look pretty.
When I'm at a chics place waiting for her to get ready I sit down on her couch and make myself comfortable in front of the tv. If I'm feeling horny I sometimes pull out my cock and kill a couple minutes. j/k, save that for the 3rd date. When she is finally all beautified and walks into where you are waiting, you eye her from head to toe and motion for her to come sit on your lap. Look right into her eyes, tell her how beautiful she looks then lay a big kiss on her and tell here alright lets go have fun. Next step when you are walking her out to your vehicle you open the door for her, she sits down then you close in on her and put your nose against the side of her neck and tell her how nice she smells.
As far as handling a girl at a concert, thats easy. Its a great opportunity for kino escalation. Start out slow and simple, then Just start dancing with her and pull her closer to you. Stand behind her and put your hard dick right on her ass. (always wear boxers or nothing, never tighty whitey's) Start rubbing your junk into her. Run your nose against the side of her face. Caress the small of her back, then run your fingers over her promise land.
I got there 10 mins early..bad move? so i got to her apartment and chilled there while she was still getting ready...so imagine guys...you are in a girls apartment waiting for her to get ready...what would a pua do at this point?? well, what i did was AFC pretty much...not enough kino and pretty much talked about various topics, but nothing sexual. How should i handled that? [/quote1219622766]
I wouldn't have been early. You say X:XXpm thats what that means. You should have stopped at the gas station for a few minutes. You don't want to rush a woman when they are trying to get ready. It tenses them up and makes more work for you to bust through.
Most are never ready on time anyways. You like looking at pretty girls right?????....then give them the time they need to look pretty.
When I'm at a chics place waiting for her to get ready I sit down on her couch and make myself comfortable in front of the tv. If I'm feeling horny I sometimes pull out my cock and kill a couple minutes. j/k, save that for the 3rd date. When she is finally all beautified and walks into where you are waiting, you eye her from head to toe and motion for her to come sit on your lap. Look right into her eyes, tell her how beautiful she looks then lay a big kiss on her and tell here alright lets go have fun. Next step when you are walking her out to your vehicle you open the door for her, she sits down then you close in on her and put your nose against the side of her neck and tell her how nice she smells.
As far as handling a girl at a concert, thats easy. Its a great opportunity for kino escalation. Start out slow and simple, then Just start dancing with her and pull her closer to you. Stand behind her and put your hard dick right on her ass. (always wear boxers or nothing, never tighty whitey's) Start rubbing your junk into her. Run your nose against the side of her face. Caress the small of her back, then run your fingers over her promise land.
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 7:32 pm
As for as flirting with girls in a classroom setting:
-Try to get into study groups with them. Organize a study group yourself and invite them to your house/library, etc.
-Throw a piece of paper at them and laugh. They'll think you are a jerk at first but its a great opener and they'll get over the jerk thing easily.
-Another thing I always did was lean over her and playfully drop a pencil/eraser between her legs and sarcastically offer to get it for her. Drop it between her boobs if she's showing some cleavage.
-Try to get into study groups with them. Organize a study group yourself and invite them to your house/library, etc.
-Throw a piece of paper at them and laugh. They'll think you are a jerk at first but its a great opener and they'll get over the jerk thing easily.
-Another thing I always did was lean over her and playfully drop a pencil/eraser between her legs and sarcastically offer to get it for her. Drop it between her boobs if she's showing some cleavage.
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by Guest » Sun Aug 24, 2008 8:05 pm
Also, make sure to sit next to the girl you are interested in early on. Then you can start up a conversation about the class when it lets out and turn that into a regular thing. After a couple convos you could invite her somewhere.
Good questions and everyone gave you great advice. This may or may not be true but it seems like you are analyzing things a lot right now. Remember that a lot of your learning will come from experience. If you are not sure of something, try it and be confident in what you chose to do. If it doesn't work then try something else next time. Before you know it you will have a good idea for most situations. This is not to say that you shouldn't ask questions as well.
Good questions and everyone gave you great advice. This may or may not be true but it seems like you are analyzing things a lot right now. Remember that a lot of your learning will come from experience. If you are not sure of something, try it and be confident in what you chose to do. If it doesn't work then try something else next time. Before you know it you will have a good idea for most situations. This is not to say that you shouldn't ask questions as well.
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