First success solo sarging

[Guest]

I haven't been doing much solo sarging lately, mainly because I had created a mental block for myself. I was certain that the creepy guy at the club by himself was never gonna be able to pull. I had analyzed all my successful pulls and figured that all of them happened when I was out with friends, therefore, solo sarging doesn't work.

Well anyway, last night, I watched the Rangers game at a local bar and my friend never called to meet me out. After the game, I headed back home and decided, awe, fuck it. I've been working on a new approach with women that doesn't involve the approach and it's been a LONG time since I walked over and opened a set. I need to open a set. I need to address my approach anxiety. It's only 10:45 on a Friday night, I'm gonna drive down to Cowboys Red River and open a few sets while I drink at least ONE beer.

Well, anyway, I didn't walk over and open any sets. My newest M.O. has been to stand by the bar and wait for women to come near me...the proximity IOI...then I open. So I guess I am opening, but I'm not doing the beta-male, walk clear out of my way to enter their set, thing. One of my FWB's agreed, this was the probably the best way for me to hit on women.

I opened 2 sets this way, both left shortly into a good conversation and then a girl came over and actually opened me by asking me to go dance with her. Sure, she was a fatty, but fatty's need lovin too, and she was pretty hot for a fat chick anyway. Long story short, I nailed her on my bed and drover her home this morning. She even asked me who I was there with. I told her I was supposed to meet a friend there but I got a message he couldn't make it, so it looks like it's just me and you.

So, YES, you can sarge solo, successfully. I had 4 beers between 8:00 and 1:15, so I was pretty sober for all of this too. Next step is to cut out the alcohol almost entirely and get to work on my six packs. I seem to do the very best with just a couple of beers. Next weekend, I may try going out without any alcohol in my system and just experiment.

[Guest]

I do nothing but solo sarge, because I travel for work constantly. Its easy when you realize that you can go from set to set, telling the same shit over and over, then suddenly, you have social proof, and can start killing. I just make sure and talk to the first woman I see and ask stupid, tourist questions: "where do the hookers/drug dealers/crack heads hang out? Yeah, I'm not from here, and I like to find out where my people hang out, ya know?

[Guest]

Hmm, I'd like to try solo-sarging sometime and since my wing is moving back to new york this week I may end up needing to do that being that I'm one of the only crazy bastards who wants to go out on Wednesday nights for example lol.

Dunno, I've always had a weird hangup about it though. Feels like all the girls are gonna peg you out to be "that creepy guy at the bar by himself (perfect example is the guy, remember, we thought was a security guard at black finn HHAHA)"

So what do you do when you're not in set or, heaven forbid, you blow out of your first set of the night?

I know it's all in my head though. Lots of people go out solo.

[Guest]

I've actually done this a lot. One thing I can suggest is to frequent the same place and get to know the staff and regulars. Still I believe it's better to go out with others even if they don't wing you in sets, it makes women more comfortable knowing you are there with someone.

I'm in my mid 30's and all of my long time friends are married with kids, so it can be difficult to find people to go out with. Especially before I found this community. One thing I've noticed is that women in their 30's are less suspicious of a man out by himself than women in their 20's. Women in their 20's always ask "who are you here with?" and give you strange looks if you say by yourself. It sucks that they judge you that way but they do. If it's a crowded club you just say you are here with some friends and they will never know. Older women are usually nice enough not to ask....they understand that when you are in your 30's all your friends aren't single any more don't judge you as harshly for being out alone.

It's hard to go out by yourself, I know. It takes balls. I've done it more than I've wanted to to.