FR: A 2 Set and a Dominatrix

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When I was newer I thought that it was possible to almost never get blown out. Now I realize no one gets to this level because not everyone will be attracted or available or in the mood, etc. I have been posting a lot of LRs lately, but I also get rejected a lot too. As Brad P said, "Blow me or blow me out." At the end of this night I could have complained about a lot of things (e.g. my brother not coming out, my friend not winging me, my first target leaving without telling me, or the dominatrix who didn't convert on her promise) but I just deconstructed it and learned something from the night. This is what everyone should be doing.

I went out with my brother Saturday night up north for the second night in a row with the goal of doing cold approaches after the warm approaches of the night before. I also had hopes of seeing a friend again and laying her (we made out the night before but she has a bf). I went out to meet a high school friend and told my brother to call me when he got out. After talking with my friend for awhile, I approached a brunette 2 set at the bar. Both were pretty attractive but I decided to go for one because she was a bit thinner. I opened situationally about what bars to go to since I was just visiting. Then I transitioned with a cold read and went into the observation game. I also did a lot of kino and teasing.

After about 10 minutes I realized I was going to get nowhere without a wing because it was a 2 set. I went over to my friend and tried to get him to come wing me. He declined but one of his friends seemed interested. I told him to come over after about 1-2 minutes and ask me if I wanted to go to another bar with them and then I would introduce him. After I reopened, it was on again, but the friend never came to wing me. Since the bar was dead I figured I would try to push the set as far as possible. I qualified a bit but had to keep the obstacle engaged. At one point I moved to a booth with them and sat next to my target to get kino. I had some sexual frames in place and she seemed pretty receptive. Of course you cannot go balls to the wall without isolation, but this was out of the question since it was a 2 set. Then I heard the obstacle was waiting for a guy to meet with her so she could fuck him but it would be after closing. I figured I could wait this out and try to pull my target. I never got much qualification or comfort due to the lack of isolation but also because I mistakenly thought I had qualified more than I had and only realized my mistake in retrospect. At some point my brother told me him and his friends were not coming out and soon after my high school friend left.

Then, around 1am, they both go to the bathroom. I go as well and then go to the bar to order a drink. As I am waiting, a decent looking cougar stares at me. I open with, “If you are gonna look at me like that you might as well talk to me.” I pretty much went direct with my intentions and she told me she was a dominatrix. I didn’t flinch and pretended like I didn’t believe her. Then I acted like it was no big deal and kept up the kino and sexual stuff. She then told me she liked me and to find her around closing time because her ‘slave’ would do sexual favors for me! I then looked around for my original target and couldn’t find her anywhere. Soon I realized she had left. I had her number but I took it as a bad sign that she didn’t let me know she was leaving. Either she saw me with the dominatrix and got pissed or she thought I was just out for sex because of the lack of qualification and comfort. I texted her a bit later and never heard back.

I then found my dominatrix friend and she introduced me to her hot ‘slave.’ The slave’s boyfriend was there so she wouldn’t do anything crazy at the bar but the dominatrix made her bite my nipple. Then the dominatrix bit my face…not exactly a turn on. It was about 40 minutes until closing time. Then, some guy came and started dancing with the dominatrix. I danced with the slave but she wasn’t comfortable because of her bf. I walked around the bar a bit and looked for more targets but they were pretty much all taken. I then decided that waiting alone would make me look like a tool so I went back to the dominatrix to tell her I was leaving. I was hoping to get a number and hook up with her later. She basically blew me off. I then went to get some pizza before going home and ran into my original target and her friend. I talked with the friend while I was in line and my target was busy texting. I turned around to order and by the time I was done, they were walking out the door; obviously no desire on her part anymore. I think this is a great lesson about how important isolation, qualification, and comfort are. I had the girl highly attracted earlier but she probably assumed all I wanted was sex (which was true). Perhaps the outcome would have been different with a wing.