LR: Little blonde girl

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This LR I wrote a few months ago but I think I could still learn from my past dates.

This LR illustrates one of my sticking points: I usually don’t get laid on the first date. Since the bootcamp I have realized that I have to escalate much more and take more risks. Also, I need to include alcohol in the dates. I met this girl (a cute, short blonde with HUGE tits) out at a bar but I knew her from a class about a year ago. I didn’t write up a FR on the pick up because it was fairly uneventful. I basically opened her by saying hi since we knew each other tangentially and went directly into teasing her. She was with her friend who is decent but a bit chubby. I included the friend so she wouldn’t get bored and played a game trying to guess different attributes about my target. I qualified on her being funny and smart and then moved both to the bar for a drink. My targets friend actually bought us a shot and then excused herself to go to the bathroom. From this point on I escalated kino heavily and the number close was easy. I went home soon after because my friends were leaving.

We texted a bit and then I got her on the phone and built comfort based on our mutually career goals. I set up a date which was framed as a surprise and had her come to my house first. We went and got bubble tea (kind of lame but I really wanted to try it), went to the park to show her disc golf (which works fairly well as I can kino heavily and demonstrate one of my hobbies), and then to window shop and back to my place. I grounded myself, played the question game, and kino escalated fairly consistently. I didn’t kiss her until we got back to my place. I did the “that is all you get for now” phrase and we kissed a couple times. I sensed resistance so I told her I had to meet up with a friend and she left.

The second date we went to do laser tag, ice cream and then her place. She had some champagne and strawberries so we sat and ate those. Her roommate was home for a bit so we had to play it slow for awhile. Then they left and we made out. I started feeling her up and then she stopped me from taking her shirt off. I did a mini-freeze out and said, “look we don’t have to do anything you aren’t comfortable with.” At the bootcamp, The Don gave me a better phrase which basically says that we are still in our comfort phase and I understand. Oh well, I’ll use that next time. I didn’t end up getting further because she had to meet up with her friends.

The third date she came over here and we made dinner together. She brought the wine (alcohol to loosen up the situation) and we downed the whole bottle. After dinner we sat on the couch and listened to music. We started making out almost immediately. I took things fairly slowly and just got her worked up. Finally, I went for the shirt and it came off. Then the bra—no resistance. Long story short, we both ended up naked and I asked if I should grab a condom. She asked if I had one and I said yes. She said “Sweet!” I got it and closed her. I realize I should have just had a condom closer and just put it on instead of asking but I basically had to ask because it was in my jeans which were thrown far away.

[b]What am I doing wrong that doesn’t lead to a first date lay? Please be as brutal as you like, I wanna learn from my mistakes! I am gonna experiment on my next date with a new girl with heavier escalation and more sexual talk/sexual SOIs. Thanks,[/b]