thursday

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OK. I wrote a report last week and received a compliment on it but the next day when i was sober I was embarrassed at how completely open I was in the report and deleted it the next day...so sorry for anyone that opened my empty report last week.

tonight I met up with several guys at Red River. I had a blast. Just knowing that if I got blown out really bad I had some people to talk to seemed to make it easier for me to open. I'm really bad at opening and tonight seemed to do it with ease. I'm also really good at country dancing so that made it easier too, My first dance was with a hot bartender, and then the rest of the night almost no one turned me down. There weren't as many people as usual on a thursday , but I opened more so i actually had a great time.

I took the day off work today and tomorrow and spend the day reading Secrets_to_Success_with_Women_by_Michael_W.pdf It's actually pretty good, it covered a lot of the problems I have ....mostly with attitude and such. I've been trying to really improve my wardrobe too so I bought a cool pair of jeans and a really cool shirt. It was pretty expensive but it really seemed to help my game tonight. (also got some jewelry thanks to suggestions by Sterling and Neuromancer) I just told myself that I'm here to talk to people, not to get numbers or anything else, so that I wasn't pressuring myself to accomplish anything specific and I think that attitude works for me since I normally have pretty high AA.

I danced witha nd talked to a ton of hot chicks tonight. Probably the most I've ever talked to in my life. One girl walked by and smiled and started to come towards me and backed up for a second and I said "did I scare you?" and she said 'no...you just seem so welcoming'....which seemed strange to me but I guess its good.

Towards the end of the night I said goodbye to Finesse and saw a really hot girl and asked her to dance. We started dancing and she said she felt really nervous. She was really hot and I was just amazed that she would be nervous around me. We kept dancing and then left the dance floor and talked....I met her friends. She finally asked me for my number and then gave me hers and said she's going out of town for the weekend..and I said so am I. I walked off and danced with a few other chicks while she hung out with her friends and then stopped by to say goodbye to her and she kissed me and told me to call her.

I have been avoiding phone numbers lately. It's a long story but I'm just getting over my ex and haven't really been ready for that, but my real problem is that I'm such and AFC I just know I'm going to screw this up. This chick is self employed and owns several businesses and I make an average salary probably nothing that would impress her.

Should I text her tomorrow as I'm going out of town... and what should I say?
I thought about "Have fun on your trip...I'll call you next week...Rembrandt"....is that bad? I have no frigin clue. Also, she admitted she was drunk, I wonder if she will have a different reaction when she's sober.....I just realized I'm already too caught up in this........which is a mistake.

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Definitely text her just to keep you in her thoughts.

I would wait until you get where you are going and then text her something "Is the weather in X as nice / bad as it is here in Y?"

I like what I call conversation texts much better than what I call greeting texts when texting women. A greeting next doesn't lend itself to conversation.

Consider your example, "Have fun on your trip...I'll call you next week...Rembrandt", she would probably respond something like "thanks, sounds good" or "thanks, you too" and then your texting is pretty much done.

Establish more rapport with her through texting. Text like you are in the middle of a conversation.

For instance, I got a phone number from a girl a week ago. I text her on Sunday "Hey Crazy girl, just got home from X, what are you up to?" She text back she was was singing karaoke at a bar. We text back and forth all night about the silly songs she was singing or should be singing.

Last night I text her "Karaoke again tonight?"

That started a conversation about singing. I then mentioned that I only sing in the shower when it is hot and steamy and I am naked.

Which of course led to some naughty texting.....

Use text as an opportunity to build rapport and frame

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Dont be embarrased to write drunken reports. 99% of the guys here will give you great insite to what you've writen without making fun of you(minus westfall). Even If you do embarres yourself infront of these guys whats the worst thats going to happen, you wont get a date from one of us? Type what you will here, honesty will get you the answers you really need.

Also, isnt it funny how when you really dont give a shit about the outcome that chicks start flocking to you?

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Yeah I used to write FR's on here. And guess what they were all written at 3:00 AM when I was drunk.

No one on this board is going to judge you. They are here to help you achieve whatever goals you have set for yourself. That is the beauty of this board. We are here to help.

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ok....this is probably a lost cause but here the update

I texted her the next tuesday and no response so I called on thursday and she said she walking out the house to take her daughter somewhere and I could tell she didn't even remember me so I made fun of her for being to drunk to remember me and told her how she kept repeatedly demanding my phone number but couldn't find her phone...all in a playfunl joking manner. ....then i said well since you are about to leave I'll let you go and she said ok , well I'll keep you number in my phone.

I don't really know why she said that........maybe it's the only think she could think of to say. that was a week ago.

today I just got a text message from her........but I'm pretty sure it was a mass text message because it was an invitation to eat and drink at a bar and restaurant on greenville and says it's someones birthday that i don't know and lists the DJs name and the drink special. I'm definitly not going but I'm wondering if I should respond.

My instinct is to just forget her...because I don't think she remembers me.

One of my friends says I should ask her if she meant to send that to me.

I though about replying with .....I can't make it, but I'll be at the "the club we met at" tomorrow night.

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Sure you should respond. Couldn't hurt. Don't mention her text at all, talk about something else. Don't mention where you'll be, it's too soon. Text her something stupid, like "I want some cocoa puffs, bring some to me" or text her a joke or something. Keep it light and funny. Just to see what she says. Then you can start the conversation from there.

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nah man dont text her
game other girls!! no one itis!

um whats her number instead n i'll find out for u

LOL
im messin'
you're doing good
now just treat her like you would talk one on one to a sis
dont be needy
be positive n playful
include a cool thing or 2 that u're doing(dhv) in a conversation
n be natural
you're set bro!

hope this helps

[Guest]

yeah I had already written her off, and was surprised to get this text........


OK just as a science experiment I'm going wait half an hour and text her exactly what you said Lion

"I want some cocoa puffs, bring some to me"

[Guest]

Damn........haha she just responded

"Lol where r u?"

[Guest]

Bam! Urban Lion Strikes Again *Lion Noises*