LR: "I'm not a porcelain doll"

[Guest]

This happened around Thanksgiving. I never posted this. I realized, from spending time on another board, that no one here posts LR's, even though they could. Here's one of mine:

- My state of mind was one of relaxation. We had Thanksgiving dinner at my friend The Scientist's parents house, then went over to a party later on, of one of his FB's at the time.
I didnt know what would happen, or who would be there. I just rolled with the punches.

-My goal for the night, was to get some action, once I arrived at the party, and saw there were attractive girls, that were single there. Holliday parties can be a real crap shoot.


* Progress of your Goal
When we went in to the house party,The Scientist and myself went in and I was introduced to everyone. People were hanging around with drinks, and some were watching the cowboys game. I noticed a cute blonde. We will call her HB Sweater, because she was wearing a white sweater(which I love) jeans, and was a cutie blonde. The Scientist and his FB, HB Sweater, and myself all sit at a high table in the kitchen, and start talking. As we are talking, it comes up in conversation, that HB Sweater is recently divorced, and no boyfriend is mentioned. We all talk and banter some more, and someone suggests we all go outside for a smoke. The 4 of us all go outside to HB Sweater's car, and we all pile in. The scientist and his FB proceed to start making out in the back seat, and get frisky.I was in the passenger seat, near HB sweater.
After my friend and his FB smoke and make out some, they leave to go inside, leaving HB Sweater and myself in the car to talk. At this point the air is thick with sexual tension. We talk, and do some comfort "get to know you stuff." I didnt make a move to kiss her at this point, or really kino at all.

We all go back inside, and the party has died down a lot, and people are leaving. Several of us, aernt ready to go home, so we all discuss places to go have more drinks, and hang out. Somehow we got on the subject of dancing, and I break out the fact I know how to waltz. HB Sweater doesnt, so I give her a quick waltz lesson in the living room. This i our first real kino.
We decide to go to Champps, and pile into somones Yukon. Hb Sweater and I start playing 20 questions in the back seat on the way over, and it (of course) slowly gets more sexual. By the time we get to Champps, we have gone over favorite position, craziest place we've had sex, among other things. Once we are seated, HB Sweater and I go outside for a smoke, while we wait on our drinks. She looks at me and says"how long are you going to wait to kiss me?" I wasnt ready for that bold of a move, by her, but I enjoyed the honesty. We had a quick makeout, and went back inside to join our friends.

After a few more drinks, we all go back the the house that was having the party earlier, and it's clear that my friend, and his FB are going to be staying in 1 room, and it's ON with them. HBSweater and I take a nearby room, and off come some clothes. There's LMR. Wash rinse Repeat. The pants aernt coming off tonight. That's cool. I'm not mad. It's not a big deal, so we got to sleep.

In the morning I leave with a Day 2 set up, for her and I to meet at the mall to do some shopping for my Mom and sister. She's going to help me pick out gifts. We meet at the mall, and we get to know eachother more. This is where my memory gets fuzzy, and I have to leave out what was said. Near closing time for the mall, I ask if she can give me a ride back to my place. I live close to the mall, so I just walked over to meet her.

We get to my place, and she wants to see it. So, I kindly oblige, and show her in. The make out start soon after we get in the door. We makeout, and escalate some on the couch in the living room. We go to my room, and her demeanor shifts. I'm being fairly gentle, and not being super aggressive. She says to me "You can be more aggressive, I'm not a porcelan doll." I'm more than happy to make that happen Smiley


-My sticking points in this are something I'm still dealing with. That's being more aggressive with kino and escalation. I know I should "caveman" more often.


-Next time I should physically escalate quicker, and more confidantly. "specially when I know I have attraction, and the subtext allows both parties to fool around, like it did in this case. Also, if a girl likes it rough, give it to her. Wink

[Guest]

I take a different approach.

I am basically aggressive/rough to all girls. The ones who don't like it will let you know. But I will say that either most like it or at least deal with it.

That statement right there might help you change your stance.

[Guest]

I second that.

I get 'be sweet' or 'be softer' or something like that but never be more rough. Why? Because I'm rough as shit with women. They almost always love it, the whole lady in public whore in the bedroom thing.

In my opinion its better to be told to be less rough (read less aggressive, read less manly) than it is to be told to be more rough (read more aggressive, read more manly).

[Guest]

Thirded. It is hardwired in womens brains to want to be TAKEN.

[Guest]

caveman - good.

if you want to spike some BT and escalate quickly and aggressively, pull a girl off the couch, throw her over your shoulder( fireman carry style), carry her to your bedroom (spank her ass a few times on the way for good measure) and literally throw her on the bed.

i've never not had that just blow girls away..they love it. never once gotten a negative reaction and thats been FT over many years..

agree with the others, most generally like it much more physical.

[Guest]

I fourth that!
Judging from your descriptions she's very attracted to you
she wanted to bang you on the first night already
yet you're so calm and soft she had to initiate everything lol

but pure respect tho brotha
it's another milestone in your hallf of fuck!
gj