Pickup Journal [March 29-April 7, 2005]

[Iamthat]

Tuesday, March 29, 2005

Today I was inspired with a new way to open up a conversation with a woman:

“If you we’re dating a narcoleptic and you were in the middle of some hot sex, and he just fell asleep, how would that make you feel?”

“If you’re on top, would you keep working him?”

So I had to try this out. I went to the B&N on beltline, saw a young woman (6.5-7?) B Hair Style Reading and tried it out on her. She started cracking up. Seemed like a solid number close.

Let’s see if she’s someone I would want to hang out with.

I need to field test the opener on more women to see how well it does.


Wednesday, March 30, 2005

Went to the mall, and I think I approached about three or four females total.
The first one (8.5) I was in the store Sephora, I was on the phone, and I think she was noticing how decisive I am, and how I am charming. Anyway, I saw her noticing me and when I got off the phone, I started talking with her about what cologne’s she liked.

Anyway, it was totally ON. I just didn’t feel like we had enough rapport for me to close it. Two of my girlfriends came in to meet me and she waved bye and said it loudly.
There are thousands of beautiful women in this city who would just love the opportunity to get to know you.

The second one was a real hottie (solid 9), and when I sat down beside her, and said whatsup intiated immediate rapport with me. It turns out she was way too young for me, so I quickly decided to bail. Dang….looking good though.

Anyway, I don’t really feel like typing a bunch right now, but the bottom line is, I need to gather more material for me to work with so that there is always something to chat about, a story to tell, or a game to play.


Saturday, April 02, 2005

Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.

Anticipation leads to sexual arousal.

Went to Half Priced Books, cute black girl was giving me the eyes, went over to her and talked for a minute, didn’t make too much time to develop attraction or rapport, but got her email and number anyway.

Called up B Hair Style Reading, she got on the phone laughing and really happy that I called. Anyway, when the conversation lulled in the beginning I made the mistake of thinking it needed some filler, so I proceeded to ask her dim-witted opinion questions and the like. I think this may have detracted from the original attraction, but I cut the conversation short and may try her back in a few days.

What did I do well?

I made the call and followed up.

What would I have done differently?

I would have let the conversation be quiet for a moment if that’s what it needed. I would have avoided stacking dimwitted opinion questions and let her carry part of the conversation. I would have even told her a story instead.

Sunday, April 03, 2005


Went to B&N in Grapevine, Target, World Market, I approached about five sets total. With Hi, I am wondering what is a way that a guy you don’t know could approach you and make you feel comfortable to get to know you? Kind of idea.

Anyway, in regards to email/number closes, I only asked for two of them.
Nothing. The more often I ask and fail, the more I succeed.

There was one girl who I was getting along really well with and she was giggling, laughing, and attraction was there, but she had a boyfriend, and after talking about her email, about to write it down, she continued to hesitate. Pretty shortly, I just said well alright, have a great one. I was ready to walk away, and did. At this moment it was like a fire of attraction really grew, and she was like---You’re awesome. I left smiling.

Close or not, I felt good just to be gaining experience. The first girl seemed really weird when I asked if she had an email. Closed up, I think she was a lesbian. Anyway, I felt really good to be adding to the law of averages and bending it to my good. It felt really good to be in field and know that these types of trials, errors, learning, and growing are what mastery is all about.

What did I do well?
I did not hesitate to leave. This really showed me how well this mindset can work in future interactions. Be ready to walk away from any girl, there are thousands more right behind her.

Also, I went and opened some sets. I did not experience a close per se, but I felt invigorated and learned much in only five interactions.

What would I have done differently?

With the first girl who I didn’t write anything about, I would have probably aimed for more rapport before I decided to close it out with the email.


Thursday, April 07, 2005

I have noticed a few habits that I must replace with better, more productive habits while I am around women.

1) Repeating what they say. I have been doing this too often and I think it’s a form of supplication.
2) Saying Awesome! Or That’s Cool. When they say something. Supplication
3) Laughing at my own jokes, or smiling too much. Decreases tension and funniness.
4) Bailing before they’ve told me no three times.
5) When I am working. Writing or reading in a public place, I have a huge tendency to constantly lookup and look around. Because of this, I think I tend to notice the women right away. I think this projects wussiness, and is something I intend to eliminate.

So what will I do to eliminate these things?
1) Not repeat what they say, and not respond with awesome, cool, or some other supplication. I will just keep quiet or bust on them.
2) Work on keeping a straight face when joking, and smiling only as a reward to the woman for saying something I like.
3) Waiting before I bail on any woman, always going for the close even if it seems like a bad set. Stay in it unless they have told me no 3 times.
4) DO the work, reading, or writing I am doing with total focus. This will obviously take much practice for me, but I think it will have a very good payoff. First of all, I will have a much stronger power of focus and get the things I need to done more efficiently and quickly. Focus on whatever I am doing, when I am working, I’m working, reading I’m reading, meeting I’m meeting, etc. One thing at a time and your practice of all these things will grow much stronger.

Secondly, I feel that when I am more focused on my work, and do not give my attention away so easily, I will be much more attractive to all the women who surround me on a daily basis. They will find that I am intensely focused on the task at hand and the very interested ones will strive for my attention and feel rewarded if they eventually get it. It makes me the one to be pursued and the goal to be won.

[CasperKid]

Dude, your journal entries are epic.

Detailed, thorough, and valuable lessons in each.

Thank you for posting.

Post more =P

~CK

[relax]

Dude, your journal entries are epic.

Detailed, thorough, and valuable lessons in each.

Thank you for posting.

Post more =P

~CK

Agreed! But his posts are from so long ago. I guess it doesn't matter what time as long as something can be learned from it. I think I may just end up starting a journal and posting a minimal amount of good F/LR's until it gets up to my current sarges. I keep private FRs in Microsoft OneNote but now I'm thinking I should share it, thoughts?