Pickup Journal [February 28-March 13, 2005]

[Iamthat]

Log

Monday February 28, 2005

Today as I was leaving business class, I went over to a girl named Katie that looked cold and started speaking with her at the table she was studying at. We talked about traveling and languages. We laughed and smiled a few times. After a while I asked her if she needed to get back to study, she said yes. I asked her if she had an email, she said yes..Then she started writing it down. It seemed to me like she was somewhat hesitant.

I had my friends Toria, and Cori—both girls standing near by and having fun. I later went over and spoke to them and made them start cracking up as usual. Toria was “good job player, I saw that!”
It seemed like the girl liked me, but was kind of hesitant when I asked for her email. I’m not so sure why. Anyway, I figured that even if she didn’t like me—I might as well follow up. So later on in the evening I wrote a cocky/funny email to the girl. We’ll see.

What did I do well?
I didn’t have to think about it. I went up and talked to her as a natural instinct.

What would I have done differently?

I would not have rambled on about myself, my travels to Italy, and the fact that my shirt was from Italy. It seems to be qualifying in a way. I would instead, let her interest get peaked naturally by teasing her, then let her start asking me.


I went to the gym and while I was working out. I was doing bicep curls on the nautilus. I noticed a fine ass girl doing cardio. She was looking at me. I looked at her, and we had the gaze for a good 2 or 3 seconds. She looked up to the tv monitor, I looked away. I kept a straight face the whole time. This seemed a bit much, and would have been better with a cracked smile.

Anyway, I realized this afterwards, and as I was leaving…I went and stood near the cardio area and raised m hand to wave. She smiled and looked up at the tv monitor.

What did I do good?
I maintained eye contact until she had to look away.

What would I have done differently?
I would not have gone over to the cardio area and waved like that. I might have done a low gentle wave the first time she was looking at me. Then see where it went.


Later I was at the bookstore, I washed my face and done up my hair but had not taken a shower yet. I feel like my aroma was attracting women because there were many a flirty looker. Anyway, I see this good looking blond haired green/blue eyed girl (7) reading in the fiction section and I say “hey what are you reading?” Anyway we started chatting; I teased her, called her name (Hobbin) sounding like hobbit…said her shoes looked like ballerina/grandma shoes. It seemed like she was loving it. She was laughing a lot and said she hated me three or four times.

Anyway I asked her if she had an email, and she wrote it down. We shot the breeze and joked. Then I had to go do my HW. Anyway, she kept hanging around my vicinity and I figured I ask her if she wants to go to lunch the next day. She said she did and wrote down her phone number.

I then asked her if she could leave me alone. I needed to work.

What did I do good?
I didn’t spill all my guts right away. I teased and joked with her. I instructed her on good books to read. I was funny and charming. I asked her qualifying questions which she loved.

What would I have done differently?
Come up with something new to call her besides Hobbin and Hobbit. I sensed I might have been a rough.

March 1, 2005

I was running a little late from the time I told her I’d call. I was still at school. Anyway I called her and left a message. I told her I was hungry and did not want to wait, and left my number. Then I ate really good food at my house.

She called me back like an hour later. I told her she’d have to make it up to me by buying me ice-cream, and I got her to agree. I told her the next time I’d be available and then told her to bring enough money to buy “what I want,” She said “I’ll take care of you.”. We set up a time for her to call me tomorrow. We talked for a while joking and letting her ask me some questions.

What did I do good?
I called and did not wait to eat. I was funny and I set up the way things should be early on. I set up our next meeting when she called me back. She asked me if I was a killer, and I told her I was.

What would I have done differently?
I told her she could ask me questions because I thought the conversation was about to go quiet. Instead, I would have found a way to plow through by relating something that happened to me early in the day or telling the story differently.








March 2, 2005

All the computers in the accounting lab were taken except two. I chose the seat next to a cute little girl from my accounting class. A few weeks ago, I had asked her if she wanted to go to lunch. She couldn’t that day, but she suggested that we do it the next day. I told her “No, thanks, I’m hungry right now.” In hindsight, I know she was interested. Since that day, we’ve pretty much not even talked with each other. She has seemed kind of distant and has not initiated with me.

Today, she was working an assignment I had already done. I was doing my own thing for business, and was asking me for help. I busted on her a bit, ignored her, and kept doing my thing. Every once in a while I would help her out. She asked me how I got the final answers, I told her “I Guessed.” She said “you must be a good guesser.” I told her I am, it’s because I’m so smart…” with a smile on my face.

I ignored her more, did my own thing. She really started to warm up to me. Eventually she needed to go, and she gave me a very flirty “bye” and wave. It really seems that in her eyes she wants me. I quickly waved and got back to my thing.

What did I do good?
I was cocky (without being over the top), and I took care of my own thing. She had to do a little bit of work to get my attention.


March 2, 2005

The girl Hobin called me and she came over to my house. We hung out, she came with me while I ate at Pei Wei, we walked next door and she bought me a yogurt smoothie. Everything went very well and smoothly. She was giggling and cracking up like a school girl. It seems that she really likes me and is really attracted to me. She hinted at relationship ideas-like a family and kids. I am not really sure how to describe it, but I definitely got the vibe that she was digging on me and wants to develop some sort of relationship. I told her that I’m not really thinking that far ahead. I am the kind of guy that attracts beautiful loving women into my life, so I am not really that surprised.

We went to the book store and she sat on my lap as we read the book of questions, taking turns. I feel like she really digs on me. I kept turning up my sexual state, but then turning it down. After a while she stopped sitting on my lap and sat on a stool in front of me. Maybe because she was getting so turned on and didn’t want to rush. We talked about sex for a couple of moments. We never really DISCUSSED it, but we touched on it and I know that sex is open topic for exploration between us.

After a while, I felt like going home so I told her this. We went in her car, we pulled around back, and I had her kiss me on the cheek. Then she said “I’ll probably never see you again!” kind of unsure as to whether or not I wanted to. I smiled and said bye! I kind of had fun, but now looking back, I feel kind of bored or something. It’s as if I have no desire to talk with her for an indefinite amount of time. Whatever. It seems likes she’s really interested in me, I know it, and I’m already kind of apathetic towards the situation.

What did I do good?

I busted on her, I played with her. I loved myself when she shit tested me. I teased her and joked around. I talked about whatever I wanted to. I am taking my time with it, and did not rush anything. I did not act needy. These are all very good improvements, and I feel like I am getting much better. I grabbed her and spun her around. I am powerful and attractive.

What would I have done differently?

I probably would have wrapped up our meeting somewhat earlier. I would have gotten out of her car immediately after arriving.

My Prediction:
We will hang out again. We’ll develop some relationship. We’ll make love. She’ll fall in love. I’ll stay straight with her the whole while, and we’ll have a good time with each other. She’s pretty cool, so we’ll see where it goes.

Saturday, March 05, 2005

Hobbin she called me and left a message when I was in the shower. I am interested in doing my own thing today. I want to be with myself and read and write and shit. I want to get some jeans and sneaks.

Some MILF-esque lady has gotten in contact with me through HOTOR NOT and wants to meet me. We got on IM and I turned up the C&F. She’s loves it and wants to see me.


Sunday, March 06, 2005

I called Hobbin back today and left a message. She called me back about an hour later and left me a message.
I called back again a couple hours after that and left her a message. I said “Tag, your it.”
I called her at like 3:45, it’s now about 6:55 and nothing yet. It’s so strange. It’s only been a little while and my old self wants to feel insecure.

I wanted to take her to Kaladchandji’s for a surprise, so at 6:00 I called her again. No answer. I didn’t like the idea that I called her back twice.

What would I do differently?

I would have either A) Only called her once and left a message or B) Called her once and not left a message. I did not feel good about having called her twice. Although innocent, it seemed kind of needy to me. I am sure to overcome this AFC thinking, with recording this log and practice.

She called me back after about 4 hours and had a conversation. I told her I had somewhere awesome to take her, and really got her curiosity going then had to take a shower. Anyway.

Tuesday, March 08, 2005

Before I got the c&f down good, I had previously asked this fine Spanish girl if she wanted to have much with me. She seemed kind of reluctant, but then set a time with me on a day we did not have school. I didn’t actually show up but it seemed like she was just doing this to get out of the conversation. Anyway, I saw her today and told her I’m sorry I could make it because I know she was wondering where I was the whole time. She tried to pull a…uh…what…I don’t even remember number, but I persisted and told her that I know she probably cried and stuff like that. She loved it. Then I said maybe another time.

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Was working late in the accounting lab and HB Little P a cutie Chinese girl from my class came there. I busted on, teased her and she was laughing saying “I hate you” and hitting me (big surprise;P.) Anyway as the lab was closing I asked her if she wanted to get some subway with me. She said no I think my mom is making spaghetti, and walked to gather her stuff. Then I said “Do you want to go with me anyway?” and she did.

At the place she was asking me a bunch of questions and the like. I was teasing her, trying to be difficult with my questions and the like. I kept saying that I thought we’ll make good friends. Anyway, it was an alright experience. I had her kiss me on the cheek as we left and she asked me if I always had my friends do that. I didn’t answer her, but instead asked her a question which got her excited about her trip. She got real excited, her face lit up and I said OK bye.

What did I do good?

Told the Spanish chick what I told her, and persisted with my frame.

After the initial no, I persisted and found that HB Little P did want to come with me. Also, I got her excited right before leaving.




What would I have done differently?

With the Spanish girl, I would have probably found some other way to bust on her and also not have said “Maybe some other time.” I would have left this to mystery and busted on her again if I were to see her, and you know I will anyway.
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HB Little P:
Probably found ways to bust on her a little more, and not answer all her questions so straightforwardly.


Wednesday, March 09, 2005

Today, I called Hobbin at about 1:30 after I had completed a realtor class in Bedford. I asked her what she was doing, and because she didn’t have work I asked her if she wanted to come over. Of course, she did. She previously told me that she hadn’t yet taken a shower, and shouldn’t come over, and told her it was fine, I just wouldn’t hug her.  I was busting on her a lot and she started to get insecure, so I slowed this down.

She came over and smelled good anyway. I proceeded to my bed where I laid back. She hesitated at first but then lay beside me. We talked and chatted. I touched her hair. I told her to put it down, and she eventually did, but then quickly put it back up because she thought it was dirty. It was fine.

I don’t feel like relating the whole bit so I’ll touch on some key points.
She definitely wants something romantic with me.
She is ready to be kissed.
There was a point where she jumped on my and straddled me.
She’s somewhat insecure so this will be one of those gentle rides, I feel like when we get naked the first time she will need complimenting.
I feel like this will be one of those “Whatever and whenever I want” relationships.
She’s nurturing.

I still need to work on escalation. I feel like with more practice in a similar situation, I will be able to get with the girl on this second hang out session. There was some point that didn’t let this happen yet. I’ll write about it if it happens again with another girl or when I discover what works.


Anyway, I told her I had to go work out-bye. And she says I’ll call you, and “I never know when I’m gonna see you again!” Believe that. She loves it.

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And while I was working out, my phone was in the car and HB Little P called. No message.

What did I do good?

I was gentle with Hobbin at the right times. I was turning on the attraction. I went to my bed naturally and she followed. I was leading her, dancing with her.

What would I have done differently?

I need to find out a way to escalate more quickly and thoroughly. I think the fact that she mounted me was a pretty big IOI, and I could have escalated right then and there. Flip her onto the bed, sniff her neck, and see where that leads.




Saturday, March 12, 2005 2:47 AM (Friday Night)


It was about 11:45 and I was debating whether or not to stay in or go out on my own. I decided to go out. While I was driving, I sung and sung and yelled and sung and warmed up my voice. I went to a pool hall bar where a live band was playing called “Cape Buffalo,” in Addison. I walked in slowly and confidently and I had really good posture.

I walked around to check out the place and who was there and what pool games people had going. I walked over to the dance floor, put my shoulders back and chin up. POWERFUL STUFF. I used to feel awkward doing this, but now I say it really has a lot of power to create attraction in a woman. This works. I will keep it up.

Anyway a group of rowdy girls on the dance floor seemed to be trying to get my attention. I was watching a basketball game on the monitor. I had my thumbs in my pockets and my shoulders back and head up. I walked towards the stage as the live band came on. Eventually a pretty girl (8.5 face, 7 body) named Katelyn put her arm around my waist and got in real close to ask me to dance. I told her I might when a song I liked came on. She got sensitive, flicked her hand and walked away. I smiled and kept being my loving self. I am sharing my heart, and it is growing to warm the earth.

After a few songs, I left the dance floor, walked around, looked at some games and eventually came to the bar area. We happened to be walking near each other…and I wasn’t sure so I asked her if she was the girl who asked me to dance. She said yeah. I said “Are you always that sensitive?” She said no. I said “Only around me then?” and smiled.
She laughed. I have been really developing my ability to make women laugh. Now it comes naturally to me.

I asked her if she got her unique purse from Lego land. I turned up the C&F and she was lapping it up. It seems like she really digs me with some strong attraction. I got her email, her phone, and we continued the conversation for a while. Then I told her I had to go soon, and did.

On the way homeward, I stopped at another bar in Addison. I walked over to where there was a poker game and stood with good posture looking around. A girl a (8.5) opened me with blah blah…something….I C& F’d it and she lapped it up too... Surprise Surprise

She shat tested me, I maintained, and it seemed like she wanted it. Her friend came over, and the same thing. She told me to sit down. I lightheartedly said “Right away, like a gopher boy and then said $5 bucks.” She laughed. I smiled and walked away.

Played some pool. Started other conversations. Met another girl a 6, had some conversating with her. Some good laughs between us and the guy friend she was with. Good time over all.

As I was leaving, I was near the poker table again and I started up the convo with the 8.5 girl again. It seemed like she really wanted it, and had I asked for the digits—I am pretty positive they would be mine. I think it’s because I’m so charming and funny (Thank God.) For some reason, I didn’t ask her and just left. Live and Learn.

What did I do good?

Great and powerful posture. I projected my power and attractiveness. I was very funny. I did not supplicate. I am strong, loving, and attractive and I let this shine through me.

What would I have done better?

I would have gotten that 8.5 girls digits. If you have much to gain by asking, and little to lose, by all means ASK!

Man, I am really only beginning to see the amazing types of women that are available to the new me on a daily basis. I have a real deep feeling that women love me. Beautiful and secure women love to be around me because I am cocky and funny, and I call them on their shit. This is only the beginning of my practice, and I am experiencing some good success. I know that after 2 to 4 years (if not sooner) I will reach a high level of mastery where dating many beautiful women is as natural as breathing.

And just because I am experiencing a better level of success with women than I have ever known, I will not allow this success to lull me into complacency for this is the great foundation of failure. I will forget the happenings of the day that is gone, whether they be good or bad, and greet the new sun with confidence that each new day will be the best day of my life.



Sunday, March 13, 2005

Today HB Little P called me and invited me to go to the mall with her. I don’t really like going to the mall, but I agreed (and learned.) It was alright, at first we had some struggle with her wanting me to follow her, but I told her plain and simple that it wouldn’t work with me. I busted on her, joked with her when I found the opportunity.

I really wasn’t enjoying the experience that much until I told her I wanted to eat. She said she did too. This is where we sat beside each other and actually got a chance to talk and joke more. This is why I think I will hone in on these kinds of situations with further women who like me. I like the kind of thing where its only the two of us and we can get to know each other and create plenty of opportunities for jokes and the like.

So I think I attracted her even farther at this point. Anyway, I told her I had to go because I needed to go play football at the park. We left, and she was all talking about how she’s glad she’s getting to know me, and how we should hang out again, and even went so far as to say what she wanted to do next time we hang out. I just changed the subject. So I know I was doing really well until this point.

Then when we pulled in front of my house, I said bye, put my arm around her and pointed to my cheek for her to kiss it. She was resistant, and didn’t. I said something wussy-ish like “I deserve it because I’ve been so nice to you,” or something lame like that. I tried again, but didn’t think either of those were good moves in the given situation.
She asked if I was mad, and I said “Yeah I’m pissed,” in a joking way. Got out and said bye. Learn from this man.

What did I do good?

I took control when she was trying to lead me around. I joked with her, and played it cool for the most part.

What would I have done differently?

I probably would have declined her offer to go to the mall (since it is not something I particularly like.)

Also, I think I would have either A)Left the first minute she did not kiss my cheek, nonchalant and all. Or B) Not pointed to my cheek at all. What purpose is it for, what does it serve?

Ok, so later I called Hobbin before football. I asked if she would be home when I was done. I called her when I was done with football. Not home. Not at cell phone. Then she called me back, but got my answering machine. I called her back, answering machine. In hindsight, I left a kind of rude message in an attempt to be C&F. I asked “Is there something wrong with you? You have such a bad sense of timing. Then I called her again later. We talked for a minute, again rude: “You have a bad sense of timing.” REMEMBER: THE POINT IS TO BE COCKY AND FUNNY; not MEAN AND RUDE.

I invited her over and told her to bring her id, and this is where I encountered some resistance. She said something like she doesn’t like going out to clubs or something. I got the feeling that she has gotten real insecure at these kinds of places. <and I realized that clubs are not really places I want to take my girls. There’s really not all that much of a point, and most of the girls I like to date are the kinds that would rather stay home with me anyway.> I said something like ok; well you can come over anyway. So I said I had to eat diner and shower, she said she had to do the same. I thought it was understood between us that she would come over afterwards.

Also I went into the YOU LIKE ME think again, and I think I went a little overkill on it.

She didn’t show up. I called her and told her answering machine I was going to step out. Then called her back—answering machine—later and said I was going out.

Dang. I didn’t understand why that happened. I think it was a flake, but I was unsure as to why. I thought about it, and came up with a couple of possible reasons.

1) The messages I left, and the way I spoke with her was taken personally and interpreted as mean. She doesn’t want to be around someone mean.
2) The attraction disappeared because I would be pretty consistent about returning calls?
3) She was scared that I wanted to take her to a club, and this made her feel uncomfortable. For her the pain was greater in going out to a club, than missing an opportunity to hang out with me.
4) Car wreck, or some other mishap.
5) Something else entirely.

Well, maybe we’ll find out, maybe we won’t. It may just be a NEXT situation. Whatever it is- Ce sera sera, what ever will be will be. Whatever the case is, I have learned and grown from this experience and am one step closer to mastery.


What did I do good?

I was doing really well, until this last part.
Wrote the experience off as a learning experience, and recorded my progress.

What would I have done differently?

I definitely would have found another way to be cocky and funny, and not been mean in either my message or my comments to her on the phone. Cocky and funny and gentleman are not mutually exclusive. Also, if I invited her out and noticed resistance to going to a club, I would have said ok, and closed the conversation without inviting her anywhere.

I am not yet sure if she has decided to miss out on time with me, or if this flake incident was a one time thing. If it is a flake, there may be some other practice I may need to modify as well.

I decided today, that the first part of my dating mastery will be in the area of public places (bookstores, stores, school, walking, the park, bars where you can hear each other, any place where there is plenty of opportunity for hearing each other.) Then I may consider only going to clubs and the like when I need a new skill to master.

I will forget the happenings of the day that is gone, whether they were good or bad, and greet the new sun with confidence that this will be the best day of my life. I will persist until I succeed.