Last Night at The Candleroom

[Gunner22]

Well, first off I would like to say that I am really excited to become a member of this community...I seriously think its one of the most important areas in life that should be learned so a man can be able to get there girl of his dreams and not the second choice.

Anyways, last night my boys and I went to Candleroom...Its a pretty cool spot, really small though, and it got extremely crowded fast. The talent was really good...an average of 7-8's and a few 9s and 10s. The thing is...I had such awesome oppritunity to really use some PUA moves...but I didnt. I felt good parking...I felt good getting on the list...I felt good walking into the place...I felt good even getting to the main spot after a long walkway into it...But then...once I saw the girls laid out in the place...A two set there, a 5-6 set there, a 3 set over there...once I saw it...something happened...A switch in my brain turned on, all of a sudden..the nervousness and anxiety overwhelmed me and took over in a matter of 3 seconds...and there was no way I could of convinced my mind to approach...I instead found myself standing across from the bar where all of the sets were...waiting for me to game them...but I did not...I wanted to so bad, I knew what I had to do, I knew the material that I started learned from the Mind of Mystery dvd set...

I just did not do anything...I went to the bathroom trying to gather myself but could not...so at that point I felt I was screwed...but after a few drinks and met up witha girl my friend knew...We started hanging out with her and her friends which I got to know...I started to losen up a bit...and started to try to game them...Well, I really didnt game them but I felt I did ok compared to my usual 'do nothing' outings....The high points of that night was that I danced alot which never happens...it was my actual first time dancing...and I liked it...I used the 'Introduce me to you friend, thats the polite thing to do' to one of her friends...It worked pretty good...I used some DHV-spiked stories...I guess it worked. I didnt get any numbers...I didnt kino escalate...I did alittle bit of negging but nothing to effictive...But all in all, I felt I did ok since I danced alot...If there is anyone out there that calls themself legit PUA's...let me know if your willing to do a one on one with an AFC...Thanks guys!

[zine]

If there is anyone out there that calls themself legit PUA's...let me know if your willing to do a one on one with an AFC...Thanks guys!

I don't know exactly what makes someone a legit pua. All I do know is that I have taught a few guys and they have improved. If you want to set something up send me a pm and we will see when we can fit into each others schedule.

I had such awesome oppritunity to really use some PUA moves...but I didnt. I felt good parking...I felt good getting on the list...I felt good walking into the place...I felt good even getting to the main spot after a long walkway into it...But then...once I saw the girls laid out in the place...A two set there, a 5-6 set there, a 3 set over there...once I saw it...something happened...A switch in my brain turned on, all of a sudden..the nervousness and anxiety overwhelmed me and took over in a matter of 3 seconds...and there was no way I could of convinced my mind to approach...I instead found myself standing across from the bar where all of the sets were...waiting for me to game them...but I did not...I wanted to so bad, I knew what I had to do, I knew the material that I started learned from the Mind of Mystery dvd set...

You are a very genuine writer, that's a cool thing and made it easy to relate to your post. I think we have all been this way at some point and time especially when we feel that "we are lucky to be there" screw that man. They, are lucky to be there with you. You are cool guy that is possibly the man of their dreams, but you let that go and began placing them on a pedastal in your mind why? That is not necessary or productive especially for a guy with your level of coolness. The girls and you are both equal. You guys both want sex. All that is on you is to take the initiative of approaching to let it happen.

I felt good parking...I felt good getting on the list...I felt good walking into the place...I felt good even getting to the main spot after a long walkway into it...

How about instead of feeling good because of the situation you are put in which can constantly change. Instead feel good about the man you are, and make it your goal instead of using some "pua moves" on girls to go up and make their day because you are a rare man not focused on supplicating and being the nice guy, nor are you focused on being a jerk and hurting them. Instead you are a rare man so strong in your identity and so willing to share that strength with others that they can't help but fall for you.

[Rembrandt]

I've had this same exact thing happen to me. Sometimes I will go up and start conversations and it feels great. Then the next time I go out, I just lose my nerve and don't approach anyone.

lately, I've just been trying to tell myself that I don't need to impress them or "Pick them up" or accomplish anything other than starting a conversation and it seems to help me a little. I'm just trying to develop the skill of starting and holding conversations with people I don't know.....instead of putting pressure on myself to do anything amazing.