coolguy wrote:Hey bros,
I just did my game for first time this Monday night. I had no wingman or anyone, basically all I did was practicing openers and stuff. Well my first set was like hb8's one Asian and one white. I opened the set with who lies more
opener....guess what? The girls knew the game...The Asian one replied that David Crock says that girls are bigger liar cause.....
I was like damn damn damn!!! My first night and I had already started with a baaaaad set! Of course I didn't give up and keep going. But here is the prob I have:
1) What happens when set you try to open already was opened using same freaking openers or stories for example? ever happened to you all?
2) What happens if you open a set, who you don't remember and opened them like say 2 months ago but they remember you doing same to them b4????
well let me know..thanks
Yeah it happens.
In response to your questions....
1. Get some new openers. Don't use "who lies more?" Its too well-known.
Make up some new stuff.
There are other stock openers that are less well known. I know I posted Rocker44's List of Openers on Dallas PUA once and I know someone else had posted some other openers too.
When you're first starting out, I would use those canned ones. Get the responses down. Know when you're getting IOI's and when they're just tolerating you.
Also if you run into this situation, you need to come up with some quick banter responses to these situations. Don't collapse just because some chick read Neil Strauss.
"Oh so you read The Game? Are you a female player then?"
"Wow I always thought the guys on the VH1 show looked GAY, what do girls think?"
"Wow so if you're so good at game, tell me some lines. What would you say to pick me up?"
"Oh so you're into Neil Strauss then, wow! That's so cool. You're my *new girlfriend*( and hug her)."
You should write a bunch of these type of responses down. Then go around your home saying them out loud. Make them as funny as you can.
2. What happens when you don't remember them but they remember you?
Well, you can be honest. "What was your name again? I vaguely remember you."
or lie "Hey...I remember you. Did you change your hairstyle?"
If you're doing the same thing week after week and not remembering what you're doing then you need to FOCUS.
The point with the stock openers and routines is to learn calibration. Calibration is a $200 word.
You're also learning what responses you get to certain actions and behaviors you exhibit. Its like a predictable algorithm.
Input -> Output
Each week, or weekend, you should work on another piece or sticking point.
For example...last week I stalled out.
There are two things I can try this week. One is to be comfortable with silence and hold my space.I will ask big questions so girls can talk more.
The other is to learn some really smooth A2 material to get me to the next phase.
Running the same opener is fine but try to get different reponses by varying body language, tonality, speed, pitch and energy level.
Try doing an opener to where its boring. Try some eyebrow and facial movements.
" Yeah ...(yawn)....my friend is dating this chick he met for three months and she....(yawn) excuse me....she wants him to get rid of the photos of his ex. Is that normal?"