Advice needed...

[Love]

Thanks guys, some FANTASTIC ideas I never would have thought of, I think you got my mind going in the right direction now. I like the idea of the disposable gift, and one that's for my benefit as well as hers. It should mean something, and it should be a qualifier/compliance test. The "just in case" gift idea is awesome.

Actually in retrospect I'm not SURE she doesn't drink, she just didn't drink any of the wine. She poured a glass but didn't touch it. I'll just give her a bottle of Swedish Vodka I already have in the freezer, since I'm Swedish originally it's personal, and I can use it as a lock in prop to her place because there's some dishes you can cook with it as well I think, and I can offer to teach her "sometime." (I'll just have to call my grandma first cause I have no clue what they are haha)

Do any of you know any good resources I can look at for how to manage a FB relationship in general? I mean to keep it going status quo. She really wants us to be boyfriend/girlfriend and is pushing harder and harder, but I'm not wanting to be "exclusive," what's the best way to achieve that and still be able to have my cake and eat it too so she doesn't take away the sex or go all emotional on my friends? It seems like the more I tell her that she can't have me for a relationship, the more that's what she is gunning for and this thing just started.

[Finesse]

Do any of you know any good resources I can look at for how to manage a FB relationship in general? I mean to keep it going status quo. She really wants us to be boyfriend/girlfriend and is pushing harder and harder, but I'm not wanting to be "exclusive," what's the best way to achieve that and still be able to have my cake and eat it too so she doesn't take away the sex or go all emotional on my friends? It seems like the more I tell her that she can't have me for a relationship, the more that's what she is gunning for and this thing just started.

I would highly recommend styles new book on the matter of having cake and eating it too.

[Westfall]

Do any of you know any good resources I can look at for how to manage a FB relationship in general? I mean to keep it going status quo. She really wants us to be boyfriend/girlfriend and is pushing harder and harder, but I'm not wanting to be "exclusive," what's the best way to achieve that and still be able to have my cake and eat it too so she doesn't take away the sex or go all emotional on my friends? It seems like the more I tell her that she can't have me for a relationship, the more that's what she is gunning for and this thing just started.

Tell her you will let her be your girlfriend--that you will have a relationship with her, but that you are unwilling to do exclusive relationships. Tell her if she is needy or demanding in pressing for you to make the relationship exclusive that you will break up with her.

Or just give her the Angry Pirate...

Westfall

[Love]

Thanks for the advice, all is going smoothly. FYI i never did give her that bottle of vodka, didn't ever really come up. I took her to dinner at a mexican restaurant, and we started talking about the food. I was thinking "this is lame" and I was thinking it was weird that she didn't ever say anything about us hooking up the week before or anything so I brought that up and asked what she thought. She was like "I'm back together with my boyfriend, but we should still be friends" I'm like "ok and you know we didn't do anything wrong as long as it felt good and you're happy we won't say anything" and she just got embarrased.

Anyway then our waiter started flirting with her and she was totally flirting back with him, under the veil of that she's under 21 and wanted to get a drink (and did get one, btw). Luckily I had read one of the classic posts on this forum on "violaters" and I played it along those lines and didn't act like a jerk like i would have in the past.

As the conversation went on, she started telling me about her favorite sex positions, (!!) how she likes to do it, how she's in to 3somes with girls, how drinking makes her horny (even though we just had one) etc etc (HOT RIGHT?? HAHA). I don't know why this happened or what I did but somehow that's where our convo ended up going.

We left, and she's latching on to my arm as we're walking back to the car and she's like "take me home." She said something about the waiter and I'm like "you know one thing about me is, i DON'T get jealous so that's not gonna work on me." she got a dejected look on her face and is like "i'm not trying to make you jealous" haha. then she's like "that's a really good thing, my bf isn't like that at all, he'd be so jealous...blah blah her bf's an ass she says" and we're driving back to her place, she's like "i have to pee" right when we're near my place. So i'm like "we'll stop by my place."

We get to my place, she pees, we sit on the couch and talk for a sec and she asks why i don't have a TV, then she goes and lays on my bed bc she's tired/bored. I go, lay down next to her, hit the lights...

anyway, thanks.