Number close at the Sunglasses hut

[dubya]

I went to the mall this morning to do a little Christmas shopping and to get some Spanish flash cards for myself. I was thinking to myself the whole time; keep your hands out of your pockets. Every few mins I notice I’m trying to put my hands in my pockets and I have to make myself stop. I walked passed the Israeli dead sea stuff booth and the girl there wanted to polish my thumb nail. I told her I wasn’t going to buy anything and she said that was okay. Twenty mins later I have a shiny thumb nail. I start away and see this black girl at a phone accessory booth. She was looking our way. I open by asking her if she ever had them shine her thumb and I show her mine. We fluff for a few mins about how dumb that is. A girl can just use clear polish and why would a guy have shiny nails?

ME: So wait I have a friend who paints his nails black is that weird.
Her: No, I see lots of guys do that.
Me: okay what about my friend who paints his nails white?
Her: Well, I don’t know.
Me: yeah, he wears all white, paints his nails white and has a white fedora he wears when he goes out.
(So I stretch the truth a little. Sue me.)
Her: Yeah that is a little weird. Do people look at him when he goes out?
Me: Yeah but that’s why he does it. We went to the Phoenix and everyone there was looking at him.
Her: That’s weird.
Me: So you’ve never done anything like that to make yourself the center of attention?
Her: No. Have you done that?
Me: Sometimes. When I’m in the right mood its fun.
Her: Only thing I’ve ever done is piercings.
Me: Really?
Her: Yeah I had my tongue pierced. I want to get it done again but I want to get my nose done first…. Blah…blah….blah.

She talked about different peircings she wanted or had had at one time. And we talked about those guys with the big hoops that stretch their ears out.

This conversation lasted a good thirty mins. I started feeling like I needed to move on. I felt like I had spent too much time with her. I couldn’t tell if I had built any interest or not. I probably had though. I don’t know. I guess I could have gotten her number. I didn’t try but I think I should have.

I left her and not thirty feet away saw this skinny black girl at the sunglasses hut. She was eating one of those double doosies (two cookies with icing between them) from American Cookie company. I walked up and opened with the first thing I thought of.

Me: Hey can I have a bite?
She nodded… She actually nodded. I ignored the reaction and kept talking.
Me: wow, so you sell sunglasses. You sell a lot of them?
Her: Yeah.
Me: How much are the sunglasses.
She tells me but I don’t remember. Like it matters anyway.
Me: That’s too much for sunglasses.
Her: That’s not too much. I bought some.
Me: You bought a pair of these.
Her: Yeah, I work here of course I bought a pair.
Me: I work at TCBY I don’t buy any yogurt.
Her: Do you? Which one?
I tell her. She says something about not ever getting outside of Bossier and I think she may have mentioned Dallas here but I didn’t catch it the first time.

Her: Yeah I like TCBY.
Me: Yeah, I don’t like it anymore.
Her: No?
Me: You know what I like? I like Cheesecake.
She starts nodding with this big smile. (Thank you Zine.)
Me: Yeah, that thick, rich creamy texture with the graham cracker crust its awesome. What do you like?
Her: Yeah (She was nodding the whole time) I like cheesecake.
Me: oh that’s not any good. You stole my thing. Okay, what kind of toppings do you like on your cheesecake?
Her: No toppings.
Me: No?
Her: No cause I don’t really like strawberries.
Me: How’d you know I was thinking strawberries? Okay what other topping was I thinking?
Her: Whip cream?
Me: No, see I thought we had some weird ESP thing going but I guess we don’t.
Her: What.
Me: Chocolate.
Her: Oh, that’s good.
Me: Have you ever been to the cheesecake bistro?
Her: Yeah, the Cheesecake Factory? Yeah, I used to stay in Dallas. I loved that place.
Me: Really? I saw just in Dallas this weekend.

I start talking about my friend who I love but is a total asshole and how he drug me around to all these different restaurants. I cut the thread about half way through though cause I was interrupted by something. I don’t recall what. Then we fluffed a little about Dallas and Denton. I asked why she was here instead of Dallas. She said she had moved around a little but was originally from here.

She mentioned to me that she was in the Navy. We talked a little about that.
Me: Yeah I wanted to go into the army but found out I had high blood pressure when I tried to join. I had a 94 on my ASVAB though.
Her eyes lit up when I said this.
Her: Really, 94 is good.
Me: Yeah, that’s what they told me. I didn’t know. I mean I was a high school drop out and they said I had a 94 I just looked at them like, is that good…

(I realized as I was driving home that this is a DLV kind of wrapped inside of a DHV. I didn’t do that on purpose, what I was saying was actually true but I’ve been wondering if it’s a good idea to do that kind of thing on purpose or if this is something to generally avoid?)

She asked about me being a dropout and then steered back to my 94 ASVAB score.
Her: 94, you could have had a good job. (emphases on the word, good)
Me: Yeah, I actually applied to the Sheriffs office after that and Depute ****** whose the lady does all the hiring, said I didn’t make any since to her cause I test like a college senior but don’t have anything to show for it. It was after that I quit my job at WK and went back to school.

(I realized as I typed this that its kind of the same thing as with the ASVAB score. I’ve got a DHV and a DLV kind of joined at the hip. The end result was that she seemed more impressed with how intelligent I was than anything else. And it didn’t seem like I was bragging because basically there is nothing there to brag about. So I guess ultimately that is a good thing but I’m still thinking it would be nice if I could remove the DLV aspects here. Maybe it’s better to leave it alone. I don’t know. Most people probably do this kind of thing while talking all the time just without realizing it.)

I’m not sure if we talked about anything after that. I do recall the close.

Me: Hey listen, I’ve got to go down here to Pennies and get a gift card for Christmas for my brother but I like talking to you, you want to get some coffee some time?
Her: You mean like a cappicino?
Me: Yeah.
Her: Like here?
Me: Yeah, I was thinking more like Starbucks.
Her: Yeah, okay. You got a cell phone?

I handed her my phone. She messed up her number and actually put it in twice. Maybe she was nervous. I touched her on the shoulder and said; alright I’ll call you later. I realized then that that was the only time I had kinoed her. I should have done more maybe but I still got her number.

This shit is starting to get interesting. Its starting to get fun.

[tsalagi]

Good stuff, but sometimes you gotta watch out for those DLVs. I was reading and trying to get it from the girls perspective, and there were quite a few of those.

good job

[Finesse]

I dont really look at it as a DLV... people drop out for different reasons. I dropped out got my GED and started going directly to college because I was bored with the other classes..... I wish I could have redone that but hey. hindsights 20/20.

I took the ASVAB and scored a 92. Like you, I was like "Is that good?" Because honestly that test was shit. It sounds like youre intelligent so the fact you dropped out of high school is really of no importance. If anything I think its just you being willing to share something about yourself.... or your willingness to emote if you will.

[zine]

haha interesting I never read field reports, yet I got a sudden urge to read this one. Guess I subconciously knew I was mentioned. Glad my routine worked out well for you man. There are certain things people universally like. Cheesecake has been one of them for me. Look for those things wherever you are at, and you will always be able to relate to people.

As far as the dlvs go I don't see any real problem with them as long as you make them positive traits you actually enjoy about yourself. The only reasons she would see dropping out of school as a dlv are if it shows that you lack the values of a good mate. Show her that you are the type of guy that easily overcomes things that most people would look down upon. Show her that even though you dropped out you are intelligent and driven then those dlvs will do nothing more than make you seem more human. Like a person she can relate too because she too has problems. If you are comfortable with the stuff you can't change about yourself then she too will feel comfortable with the stuff that she can't change about herself around you. This is something that an unconfident man controlled totally by his ego cannot give her, and if she feels comfortable around you then she feels comfortable doing new things with you. So go try every position in the book of karma sutra with her, and when you get done tell me the stories where you touched her in a wrong way, and overcame it. We will both have a laugh, and I will respect you more for being a guy who messes up sometimes. A guy who I can relate to.

[Check_Mate]

IMO the fact that you dropped out would only be a DLV if you were embarrassed by it. That would make you look insecure, which is not your case.
The fact that you share that kind of information willingly shows that you're not embarrassed by your mistakes and are mature enough to learn from them. Not to mention that you got a good score on that test, which shows that you're smart. Based on her reaction I don't think she scored that great on it.