how to deal with douchebags?

[Guest]

ok, so theres this kid in my class(not the one in my other thread, but same class). this kid I can tell dislikes me. I asked a easy question and he rudely said "stop talking". hes one of those people who say dumb shit and people laugh at him, but a majority of people think stuff like that is funny but fail to see the person as the true dumb ass that they are. so basically i want to get the little bastard to understand that i'm not someone you want to fuck with (but i would preferably wish to avoid a fight). i think he might be a PUA, because he wears a fedora.

so basically i want to AMOG and get him to DLV himself to the entire class. So i look like gold and ends up being considered the asshole to the class. better yet, i could make fun of him. hes a heavy set kid and he peacocks.


if you guys have any jokes that i could use or anything to dis his style.it would greatly be appreciated.

p.s. I know this thread sounds really bad, but the kid constantly does stuff and im to the point of refusing to tolerate shit. this is weird for me because im normally not passive aggressive.:mad: i stick up for myself and never back down to others aggression.

[Guest]

You're joking, right?
you think he's PUA just because he wears a fedora?
You know, they sell those pretty much everywhere, right??

What I would do
is High five everyone in class
say "You're cool, High-5!!"
after a while
he'll be overflowing with anticipation for his high five
and when you get to him
say "You're cool, High-five"
but instead of high-5-ing him
brush your hair back
works every time

[Guest]

I dont think doing the Fonzie handshake to hair slick is a good idea.

Just like in your other thread, I think you're a bit jealous of the guy. You see people doing what you wish you were doing.

You need to learn to brush things off. The smallest things are getting to you. I also think you need to evaluate how others are viewing you in this class. Sounds to me like you might be forcing your "value" on to people.

If someone tells you to stop talking publicly like that, you need to respond with some light ADULT comment like, "I can't man...these words...they flow right through me" and dismiss him. I know that's a horrible example, but I've been awake for way too long.

I admire your courage. Be strong, soldier.

[Guest]

im not jealous of that moron. hes a complete asshole and i can't wait to make him look like one in front of the class, if he keeps going.

[Guest]

Haha so you are competitive, good for you. I can get behind this.

I like Muk's example, that's a good burn. Here's another one... The nickname.

Two things you got to do here. 1. Come up with a nickname, 2. Be good-natured about it.

YOU: "Hey professor, I have a question. If two trains were heading toward each other at..."

HIM: "Stop talking"

YOU: "Wait your turn, fedora. (class laughs, you start talking before he can respond) "Anyway if two trains were heading toward each other..."


The key here is to say it with a real smile. If you are angry, he has already won. Then you need to work on your inner game. This stuff shouldn't bother you.

The other key is to know that the nickname doesn't matter. People don't laugh in situations like that because things are funny, people laugh because they think they are supposed to laugh.

[Guest]

Grimm's example can work a variety of ways. What you are basically doing is something called labeling. Now we are all familiar with labels, we are surrounded with them. In fact, labels are at the basis of our language. We all have labels we call names. The thing is, people don't like to be labeled, (or stereotyped) so if you can label in a clever way, then you can demonstrate mental dominance.

In Grimms example, you are labeling him with a funny nickname. In Muk's example, you are labeling everyone but him as being cool.

You can label in a variety of ways, but the secret here is to be upbeat and funny about it. You need to have some level of mental agility to use this stuff. If done correctly for the situation, labeling can demonstrate social awareness by showing that you understand your targets behavior, and that you will not be effected by it. The moment your body language sub communicates anger, the gig is up.

Most techniques for dealing with AMOGs or countering AMOGing attempts are built around this concept of labeling.

After countering an AMOGing attempt it is best I have found to cut them out of my reality. Any additional attention on my part toward the attacker lowers my value.

I thought about giving examples, but you seem to have a few good ones.

Now.. with all that being said. You still need to look at yourself here, and wonder what it is about you that makes you feel so aggressive toward this guy. Find a way to deal with it outside of using these ideas and you'll be better off. This stuff is best used in shock and awe scenarios. You need to put someone in their place quickly and efficiently. Although depending on your target, you may have a mess to clean up later.