Jealous FB

[Aces]

The girl in this post is the same girl from my last post "Trying Not To Blow It". I had sex with her last weekend and all was well. Let's call her HBJealous.

I attended a pool tournament at Baylor(Waco) on Saturday. HBJealous was there and was playing not interested the entire time. I'm not sure why but I figure she has some issues(maybe just b/c she has a boyfriend. She flirts/talks with everyone but ignores me. I am unphased and she eventually warms up a little bit to me. We play pool all day and I'm owning in the tournament. HBJealous and our mutual gay friend are watching me play the final match for 1st place when they decide to abruptly leave. She tells me to meet her at this Baylor party after I'm done. Them leaving was a slap in my face b/c I didn't know my way around Waco, they weren't supporting me in the tournament, and we had planned to all go eat after my match(I was starving and they knew it). At this point I’m pissed and they can see it. They leave anyway. I win the tournament! My pool buddy let’s me freshen up and take a nap at his apartment. I’m recharged and ready to hit the party. Before I get there, HBJealous calls me 5 freaking times. I don’t answer. She know that I’m mad about her leaving and I’m punishing her. She probably is afraid that I’m driving back to Denton. I think that at this point I have to start playing the game. I walk into the party, walk right by HBJealous and open a 3 set (HB7 HB8 UG). They are flirty and receptive and HBJealous sees it. I finally go sit next to HBJealous and now she isn’t playing hard to get. She is now giving me lots of attention. But she won’t make out or go to the bedroom. I finally steal a short kiss by telling her that I’m leaving. She tells me that she wants to do more but she promised herself she wouldn’t (probably b/c she has a boyfriend). I’m pretty sure I wasn’t going to be able to get laid by her tonight. So should I just hang out with her and her friends all night and not get any? HELL NO. I spot a HB9 looking bored and move in. I’m kinoing and getting reverse kino. HBJealous is watching. I take HB9 to a bedroom and we make out HEAVILY until we are interrupted by a drunk guy who decides to invite the entire party into the doorway to watch us. Now everyone at the party knows I was making out with HB9. HBJealous is pissed. She ends up making out with some guy out of spite! I try to talk to her and she tells me off: “Go away!”. HBJealous has to drive back to Austin, she gives me a fake/crappy hug and then leaves with her friends.

I would appreciate feedback/suggestions on my entire strategy but here are some specific questions:

1) Why the hell is this girl still playing uninterested even after we had sex last week? I know she likes me. You think it was b/c she had a BF? I’m pretty sure she loved the sex.
2) When she is playing this game where she talks and flirts with everyone but me, I should just ignore her and act unphased correct?
3) Isn’t it funny that she can’t make out with me out of respect for her BF but she can make out with someone else out of spite from me making out with someone else? More like pathetic
4) When I contact her do you suggest I confront her on any of this behavior or act like nothing happened?

Thanks for reading/replying

[quipster]

For the most part I think you played it fine. You are not dedicated to her and she is playing uninterested. I have had this happen to me several times. I do what you did and find another HB. You do not owe HBJealous an explanation for being with another HB. You were playing the same game she started and you got the better end of it since you made things happen. to answer your specific questions:

1. I do not know the answer to the question. She may want more attention from you or to have more control.
2. Yes ignore her and act unphased. It you are out of town like you said and you go as a couple then I would have a discussion with her after the party but not during the party. Go have fun.
3. She is acting on emotions and is not being logical about everything. She is making out/having sex outside her current real relationship with multiple guys. What does that tell you about her.
4. I would only have the conversation about it right after leaving the party, since that didnt happen i would act like nothing happened and treat her as a FB.

[warriorpoet]

i didnt read what the other guy wrote (so as not to color my ideas with his) so if i repeat something, thats why

1) Why the hell is this girl still playing uninterested even after we had sex last week? I know she likes me. You think it was b/c she had a BF? I’m pretty sure she loved the sex.

it was active disinterest, for the same reason we use active disinterest. to increase her power, and control the frame by getting you to come to her.

2) When she is playing this game where she talks and flirts with everyone but me, I should just ignore her and act unphased correct?

depends how you want to play it. unphased, certainly. personally i start teasing them about it. my fave line that made a girl go bananas after she was trying VERY hard to ignore me/not make eye contact was to lean in and whisper, in a sexy voice ".....so....hows the whole...ignoring thing working out for you?"

result = EXPLOSION hahahahahahaa

of course you have to be scarce and engage lots of other people if you do this, or you look like a vindictive, reaction seeking prick

doing what i said above demonstrates emotional/social intelligence, super high value, communicates that putting on personas/playing power games/trying to control frame isnt happening with you etc. so long as you dont ridicule her, it counts as passing a shit test and you can engage her again. (if you act like a spiteful prick/humiliate her, youll alienate her, and anchor feelings of rejection/humiliation to her sexual feelings for her)

there are otehr ways to play it of course, but this works for me well, although occasionally i get called a fucking bastard during intercourse

3) Isn’t it funny that she can’t make out with me out of respect for her BF but she can make out with someone else out of spite from me making out with someone else? More like pathetic

its not funny, you were jsut wrong about her not making out with you having anything to do with her BF.

4) When I contact her do you suggest I confront her on any of this behavior or act like nothing happened?

Thanks for reading/replying

imo dont call her out on it TOO hard (see previous comment on humiliation), just let her know that you know what shes thinking and understand her behaviour, and arent really peeved by it, except you would have liked company while you ate.

remember - you are an ultra high value popular busy guy. nothing is a big deal. if she wants to have fun being with you, great. if she thinks she could do better with someone else, also great. people like you dont get into arguments over kid stuff. your arms are open for people wanting to engage you in a positive way. people who want to turn your life into a drama fest will be listened to, but your time for them will shrink to nothing if they dont get their shit together quick.

the whole "i promised myself i wouldnt do more" comment indicates that she wants to do more, but is using calculating behaviour to achieve something else - ie either to preserve her own self image, to control you/have more power in the relationship - whatever.

so long as you pass/ignore/avoid these shit tests, take care not to smash her self esteem too much (she may react defensively and tell you to f off to protect self esteem and self perception), dont rush it and manage logistics properly, sounds like shes all yours

also pics of the bored hb9, thanks

[Rhody]

I wonder, are you maybe externalizing? For example, was she REALLY flirting with everyone else and ignoring you? Maybe she was just talking to people and you took it as flirting. Maybe she was trying not to distract you during your pool tournament. Maybe your interpretation of what was happening was actually upsetting you and you started to subcommunicate that it was affecting you, which made her want to ditch you. I wasn't there, so I have no idea. I just didn't want you to rule it out.