Dallas PUA

Sparks had asked me the following question:

Sparks wrote:I have noticed that you run things here in a positive fashion. That's really cool.

I would like to know what your take on the game is. How do you see it? How does it fit into your life?

-Sparks

Excellent question! I thought some of you might be interested in my answer, so I am posting it here:


Learning the game is more than f-closing NFL cheerleaders or having a MLTR with a blonde, brunette, and red head (for good measure), it is about building men. The skills you learn here are applicable to all parts of your life. You must strive to heighten inner game, in other words, you must better your individual integrity. Have principles. Integrity. Maintain a balance in your life. Simply be good. I remember a quote (though do not recall the author): “I am a citizen of the earth. My religion is to do good.” The attitude this quote communicates is important. Be good to your fellow man. Be good.

Men find this community cause they are not good with women. And not being good with women has its roots in a subconscious that is not programmed correctly. Whether it was the verbal programming (a friend saying “you suck with women”), modeling others (mom and dad who lack a solid relationship), or specific incidents (being shot down by girls at an early age) all contributed to a mis-programmed mind. It is important to re-program your mind to be emotionally/mentally healthier. Learning the game leads to you realizing there is a problem. Once the problem is realized, you now can solve it. Though some don’t, and here lies the danger I hope all of you will avoid (at least those who had such bad programming)…

No matter what you learn here, if you don’t better yourselves, that will be communicated subconsciously to women who will pick that up in a negative vibe. Some, who never solve their inner game, still learn the powerful, manipulative aspects of the game and use it to control others. I’ve seen this and it is sad, indeed. Neil was aware of the misuse of this power. In “The Game” he hinted at the more powerful techniques while not providing the actual methods and even provided an incorrect technique as to not let any joe schmo run around using this stuff. Much of the advance skills must be used with integrity. Also, down playing the community a bit at the end, again, very smart as to not encourage an army of joe schmo's flooding our ranks. Neil and I have a mutual friend (shameless Social Proof ), Jen, a model and entrepreneur in Southern Cali. When we were first getting to know each other, we had a series of talks about her friend, Neil’s, book, “The Game”. I had said:

Mojo wrote:I have read Neils book, The Game. Though he has published some of the methods of pick-up, I am glad to see he had purposely put in the wrong methods for some of the more powerful techniques. The technology is neutral, though unfortunately man is not. These methods should be used with the utmost integrity.

Jen's response:

Jen wrote:It's nice to see someone mention integrity in the same paragraph as The Game. Doesn't happen too often. Excellent observation re: the technology and man. You seem like a really good person. I'm really glad to have made your acquaintance. it made my day

The technology is neutral. The game is not bad or good. Only the man determines it so. When it is used for honorable purposes, the results are amazing. It is fantastic to see a guy go from geek to sheik in a matter of months. It is always satisfying to see this transformation over and over again.

Also, a side note; Jen is a very positive person. By her expressing how I made her day, had made my day. Those with their inner game together tend to be much more positive. And positive people tend to be happier. And people tend to gravitate toward happy people.

So, this is my take on the game. It is a tool that can be used for good or evil. Use it for good. And if you learn the “super powers”, do not fuck up a woman’s mind. Use it for good. Use it to become better at pick-up. Use it to become better.

- Mojo

It's great to read a person's take on the game in relation to their lives. I think many guys who get into the game are the "nice guy" who just didn't get the girl. Learning some social skills doesn't turn a nice guy into a jerk.

I'm in that category. When I was younger I had girlfriends. I found myself at keg parties and co-ed get-togethers all the time. I socialized on the fringe of the party, making people laugh. Girls would often say, "wow, you're really smart and funny!" They seemed genuinely surprised. If it takes a girl 40 minutes to figure out that you're smart and funny, well, you're just not outgoing enough.

Now I'm 38 and newly divorced. I'm still in great shape and young looking. I make a good living, have a decent house, drive a decent car. I dress young and relaxed. But I have no game! I don't get invited to keg parties anymore. It's not like in high school or college. I just don't find myself in co-ed environments unless it's a bunch of married couples. To me, the game represents a way to turn things around. I should be choosing who my mate is, not the other way around. I should be able to walk into a store, a gym, or a bank and build an instant social network, even if it's only temporary... even if I don't get a #close. I mean, if I can approach a table of HBs and strike up a conversation, then I can do anything.

It's not that I want to leave a bunch of broken-hearted women in my wake. Let's face it, sex is a part of being human. Women like sex. That's the beuty of most of the approaches in the game. You choose the woman and THEN let her make the choice. That's the difference between being a pickup artist and a player. A pickup artis just knows how to accelerate the relationship process between two people who like each other. A pickup artist can be focused on ONS and SNL, but a pickup artist can be focused on finding a long-term GF too.

Mojo,

Thanks for sharing man.

I would love to hear how the other seasoned veterans on this board see the game.

-Sparks

I'm really glad you posted on this. I was actually wondering what your take on the entire community was. It is very important that there is a firm grasp on the concept that the community isn't around to get guys laid. Its so much more then that. Its about putting your best foot forward for everyone to see. Im glad that someone high up in this particular lair realizes this. Instilling the right frame of mind for those that are just joining us is key in keeping this community from turning into a "This is how you get laid" community.

Nice post, Mojo.

Nicely put, well done Mojo! Excelent post!

In my opinion, this is one of your best posts yet...maybe I think so because it resonates with me so much. I have a question regarding part of your post:

Mojo wrote:It is important to re-program your mind to be emotionally/mentally healthier. Learning the game leads to you realizing there is a problem. Once the problem is realized, you now can solve it. Though some don’t, and here lies the danger I hope all of you will avoid (at least those who had such bad programming)…

How does one methodically and systematically tackle re-programming and improving innergame? I hear people talk of affirmations or hypnosis and others refer to literature...I'm not sure how or where to start...I just know that this is definitely a problem for me and I assume for a great many others.

-wolf

I'm curious. What is the incorrect technique that Strauss presents?

Thanks,
JB

Mojo Wrote: you must better your individual integrity.

This just makes me laugh. So, it is my understanding that integrity means doing what is right even when no one is looking aka being honest. How can you be honest when teaching men how to be the men that they never were or are? Basically, you are teaching men how to lie about who they are when in reality.. being a sly sexy dork is what gets most women to melt in the end.

I love the PUA and it intrigues me a lot. I just think that integrity is far from what is being "better-ed" in the PUA process of making men.

KEEP ON KEEPIN ON!

Jake

Everyone, thank you for your kind remarks. This post was easy to write since my subconscious already had my thoughts in order on this topic. Actually, learning to use your subconscious is an excellent way to improve your inner game. Think of the subconscious as another person. This person has the ability of a super computer to calculate numerous of variables too complicated for your conscious mind, then it brings it up in a feeling you have or an idea that pops in your head. For example, the best grades on papers I did for writing class in college were works I allowed my subconscious mind to do for me. This is how you do it.

1) Focus on the problem at hand. In the above example, I would take in the writing assignment I had and focus on the criteria the professor was asking for.
2) Forget about the assignment and go on to do other things I had in my day. Even though my conscious mind is not thinking about the problem, my subconscious is working at it.
3) At a random time the solution will pop in my head. At that moment I would start writing down everything that came to me. The words flowed onto the paper or computer screen.
4) Go over the draft, which did not need much editing, then turn it in for an A

A good book to read on this subject is “Blink”. Excellent book.

Another way to improve inner game is visualization techniques. They are excellent in attaining goals in your life. If you focus on a goal, then end result of the goal, and give your mind a focal point to go to, things will naturally happen to allow you to achieve this goal. It is important to formulate constructive goals for yourself. If you don’t, goals will be automatically place in your head by outside stimuli and influences that might not be best for you. For example, lets say you want to live a healthier life style by going to the gym. The trick is not focus on going to the gym, rather, in the morning, look in the mirror and imagine that you already have the tone body. By visualizing the end result, your brain knows where to go. This visualization technique works. And this same technique has been used by numerous of societies for thousands of years such as ancient Huna and Celtic societies up to today’s Wicca. If you would like to learn more about this technique, which has it’s roots in NLP, read Anthony Robbins’”Unlimited Power”.

Wolf, the book, “Unlimited Power” is excellent material in how to reprogram yourself to become a better self.

JohnnyBravo, I could not post the incorrect technique Neil mentions on this public board for the lone reason as to not have guys running around doing the technique on random women. Women are human beings. And material that can mess with her mind should not be taken lightly. Maybe when I create a private board for the more serious and active members I would post that information.

On a final note, a seasoned PUA does not lie to women. The best policy is to be genuine and real. Being real sends out a positive vibe to her that manifests itself in that “this guy is amazing” feeling she will have for you. The canned routines and patterns are great “training wheels” for new guys to have in the beginning. Soon you want to create your own routines that are based on truth and that communicate the best of what is you.

- Mojo

Great writing!! Very well put.