I went for a guy like this recently....
It really did have to do with the vibe he put out. He did buy dances but after every one when I asked if he wanted to keep going he'd just say "whatever you want to do". Since I wanted his money, of course I wanted to keep dancing, but then because he didn't seem to NEED MY SERVICES and was basically only paying for as long as I wanted to dance... I ended up really liking him and seeing him outside the club.
He's 6'4" really boistrous, fun and a little ADD, always talking about fun stuff or planning something fun.
Then again he was in the right place at the right time maybe, but there's something to be said the "Take it or leave it" attitude as it makes a women really question her desire and how much she wants to pursue someone. When you take money out of the equation but still offer something of value, your personality, it's very attractive to me. Not the dancer "me" but the real me.
This guy has also told me that alot of dancers like him, so there's that non-monogamous vibe that makes me want to try a teeny bit harder. It also makes me him seem like a more valuable mate, even though I know they're all just responding to the same thing that I did.
Right now I'm just trying to work the game backwards and make sure he knows I'm not going to fall in love with him and be on his beck and call like I'm sure so many girls have before. His attitude is one that women are pleasureable yet expendable experiences that complement his life but really do not have a lasting place in it. I think when men present themselves this way, it stirs up a bit of a hopeless romantic in some dancers (myself mainly). Like they're thinking...if I just fuck him really good he'll want me around all the time. and: I can change his mind, I want to be the only woman he needs.
More from the same girl.
...Oh, well I guess it's his ambition I'm attracted to the most, I like the fact that he has something OTHER than me to worry about all day. It's not that I'm being ignored? idk Plus I think as soon as he would actually turn into someone that really needs me that bad I would just get disgusted and be over it. It totally is the challenge. I'm fully aware it's a fruitless pursuit in some ways. But I want to live a fun life now and not a boring one...players can play eachother. That's what the OP mentioned a few times, that's there's nothing wrong with a woman being really turned on by something and then just going with it. I waited weeks before I went for it with this guy.
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I guess because that's just about everyone I've met and it got boring. I don't like to have my way all the time, thats why the PUA stuff can actually work because it's NOT kissing her ass like a puppy dog but just being comfortable, cool and not acting like it's the end of world if she doesn't like you back, having fun with it. btw he does find me attractive and fun, that was just describing how we met, he was enjoying his dances just not all like a customer about it, more natural and relaxed like "If you want to keep going"
