Being Yourself?

[Scoundrel]

This is the oldest advice people give when it copmes to meeting women is to "just be yourself." The trouble is that we become excited and that makes it hard to be yourself. Why do we become excited? Because she is a pretty girl and we want to haxe nasty sex with her? Is it because we want her to like us and we are afraid if we say something stupid she won't? What's wrong here?

We are putting too much value on the interaction. She is a stranger. Why do we care what she thinks? Because we want to fuck her. But, what if you were able to elimanate your desire to have sex with her? I don't mean pretend to have no desire for her, but to REALLY have no desire to sleep with her. How would that effect the way you interacted whth her? Would you still worry about what she thinks of you? Do you think you could interact with her then and simply be yourself?