"Hey there,
I´ve been with this girl for some time and one thing i´ve noticed is that she loves roleplay but she always puts herself in a higher value position
Q her most favourite role is by putting me in a position of a child
e.g "bye kids" or "be a good boy and dont get into trouble" or even "hey it's past your bedtime shouldn´t you be in bed"
Q so what can I say to each of these comments, that will subcommunicate me having a strong frame and higher value....in a fun way of course..many thanks
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How did you get yourself in this position?
You are the man. Unless she's pretty dominant and you like it that way, your roleplaying should always have the dynamic where you are the one in charge, and she is the cute little girl.
That's the way sexual dynamics and chemistry work. She does not WANT to be in charge. She wants to see evidence that you are in charge and can handle anything that might come your way, so she is free to be fun and emotional and passionate and know that you won't run at the first sign of trouble.
She's making sure you're a real man. And you're failing. But fortunately, there's an easy way to fix this so both of you are happier.
Take the banter over. It's your game. You don't have to play by her rules. Just start the game over (like clearing the board in checkers).
You set the roles from now on. And be prepared for anything she throws at you.
Want a sure way to get her to see you as the man in control that she not only respects, but craves? Play the Daddy game. Have her start calling you "Daddy," or better yet, my favorite, "Papi Grande," and you refer to her only as "baby."
Matter of fact, I'll give everyone a free tip right now. Never call a girl by her name. Only "baby." As far as you're concerned, you don't even KNOW her real name. Baby, baby, baby. There's a reason it's a term of endearment. It turns her on.
And this doesn't apply only to girls you've been dating a while. You want to set this precedent as soon as you can. Preferably with the second thing you say to her. That's your chance to start the banter. Just jump in after your opener with something like,
"I know you just want me for my body, baby, but really, I'm a man with feelings. I need to know you take me seriously and respect me for my mind. OK, babycakes?"
No joke.