Heya guys,
I've spent alot of time refining my game over the last few months, and revisiting old concepts and techniques.
AS some of you know i've been building my social circle from scratch. I have some cool new friends, from all over the world, some of whom are really influential, some are just cool, and a few are annoying. Either way it's been a great ride and one I'm hoping to continue as things go forward.
I wanted to share a little idea I've had in my head or a while, not necessarily something completley new rather a concept I've finally managed to visualise in my head.
Alot of peopl try to impose a certain style of game upon themselves and upon the girls they meet.
I.e. they will only use direct game, or they want to perfect the art of approaching without approaching, or social proof, or the perfect routine stack.
Now while I understand the benefit of working on a specific aspect of game, I don't think it's necessarily the best way to progress your game on the whole.
The problem is that the girls we meet and interact with are not one and the same. Far from it they each have varying attitudes, tastes, and experiences. In short they are likely to respond better to different approaches.
A great case in point is the marriage opener I used to use.
We must have opened about 200 sets over the period of a few days with almost every single one hooking. Until the final set. I remember opening her in front of the trocadero.
AFC Adam: OMG OMG WE have to take our relationship to the next level, will you marry me?
HB: ... ... ... *cries*
AFC Adam: Sorry, hello, are you ok?
HB's Friend: Sorry it's not your fault, you couldn't know, she got handed divorce papers today.
Yup..
you see sometimes it doesn't matter how prepared you are, when you're trying to force a situation it won't always work.
Kind of like trying to fit a square block into a round hole. You could try and force it, but there is a better way.
What you are looking to do is to develop a sense of attractiveness. What i mean by this is instead of trying to achieve a set of routines, or specific way to game, you are trying to create a situation where you are actually attractive, though we're not talking about physical looks entirely, (though it does form a part) What we mean is developing an all round attractive package.
This encompasses a mixture of different qualities.
Physical Appearance (Health and cleanliness specifically)
Social Circle (a healthy group of friends which stops you becoming dependent on a girl)
Ambition (Distinct personal goals, that won't involve resting on a girl)
Independent fulfillment (Not being outcome dependent and not looking for approval in others for your actions and achievements)
Qualification (Showing interest in people you meet and being confident enough to disagree based on subject matter or action over physical appearance)
Working towards these qualities will ensure you take an active step towards becoming attractive over just running a form of game to translate these qualities.
As Bruce Lee would say, the perfect way to move in any given situation is to be free flowing as water. By adopting the optimum attractivness that you can achieve you will be able to shift your game based on the set you're dealing with, rather than trying to force the outcome to develop in a way that fits to the specific style of game or routine set you are trying to stick with.
Now naturally when you first start game, it makes more sense to get the basics of a specific down first. Also if you're looking to develop a specific skill set then you may wish to stick to that one entirely. However, I think it would pay to bare in mind the overal goal is not to game our ideal partner but for her to want to be with us for who we are entirely.
AFC Adam
