Girl was super-into me, to the point of subtly telling me she would have sex with me if I come see her. Scheduling made this impossible. She was fascinated by me and loves talking to me.
Im concerned the attraction may have faded...still not sure why this happens. In the absence of seduction, Attraction + Comfort = ??? Additionally she has a bf now, it's some lame highschool guy so it shouldnt be a problem getting her to choose me.
I told her I don't do (sexually) exclusive relationships, as I want us both to be free & open with each other--never worring about cheating or having to hide things from one another. She responded to this in a netural way but I could tell she was disapointed...
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WF: Attraction fade
by Westfall » Thu Jan 03, 2008 10:15 am
Katie wrote:i want some count chocula right now
Kit wrote:Westfall, you're being a dick.
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by 101998 » Fri Jan 04, 2008 8:48 am
Sounds like you shot her emotional state too high, or too out of character for her. Then later she fell back into character and saw your interaction differently.
On the “open relationship” topic, I usually don’t bring it up. Not to hide or deceive, but talking about it openly like that isn’t productive and often counter-productive. Just telling stories with other females is enough to get the point across, and if I get asked the question directly I usually just answer with a “what do you think” kind of answer. Even then, I wouldn’t give a firm “never” answer, that chick might be the coolest person on the planet, you don’t know. Also, I find putting that carrot out of, yeah I have options but there is a chance you could win me over if you work hard enough, amps up attraction like mad. Gives her something to work for and a reason to add value to the relationship.
On the “open relationship” topic, I usually don’t bring it up. Not to hide or deceive, but talking about it openly like that isn’t productive and often counter-productive. Just telling stories with other females is enough to get the point across, and if I get asked the question directly I usually just answer with a “what do you think” kind of answer. Even then, I wouldn’t give a firm “never” answer, that chick might be the coolest person on the planet, you don’t know. Also, I find putting that carrot out of, yeah I have options but there is a chance you could win me over if you work hard enough, amps up attraction like mad. Gives her something to work for and a reason to add value to the relationship.
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by coolguy » Fri Jan 04, 2008 11:57 am
Also, if she is real good looking. Unless she start hinting for exclusive relationship crap, don't bring it up, at least till you bang her. After that, who the hell cares if she has a problem.....thats her problem!
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by Westfall » Fri Jan 04, 2008 1:01 pm
coolguy wrote:Also, if she is real good looking. Unless she start hinting for exclusive relationship crap, don't bring it up, at least till you bang her. After that, who the hell cares if she has a problem.....thats her problem!
Well, my goal isn't sex, it's a relationsihp free from insecurity & jealousy.
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