Dallas PUA

What's up with this shit? I was told by a girl I was trying to screw that when she has sex, as with alot of girls, she forms feelings for the person. She said that it is alot harder for women to have "just sex" with a guy as opposed to a guy being able to have sex with numerous women and it just be sex. Well, I ended up having sex with her and thank God it didn't cause any problems. Now I've had sex with several others over the course of the last month or so and unfortunately have a couple that won't leave me the hell alone. One wants a relationship and bugs the crap outta me. The other was telling me she doesn't see how we couldn't work something out as more than friends. Now I'm juggling these damn women when they have feelings involved. It is alot harder than trying to juggle booty calls.

Anybody have any ideas of what to say to keep that at bay? In other words to keep the girl from getting those feelings......

Hrmmm...

I would say there is nothing you can do to change the way a girl feels. If she has formed feelings for you that is just the way she works.

Here is how I would handle it though.

I would pretty much never bring up any relationship talk. If it is brought up I would say some stuff like I am currently trying to find out who I am and in that process I need to be single. Blah Blah some other gay shit. Now right here your covered. If she still wants to pursue a committed relationship that is her endeavour alone and she knows it. Human nature is to want what we can't have so don't be shocked if the pursuit is stepped up a notch by her.

Goodluck

playercool

Yeah. I never bring up relationship talk, and I mean NEVER. That is the last thing I want. I talk about it just being two people enjoying the act of sex. Oh well. I guess your I'm gonna break some hearts along the way. Can't make everyone happy right?

Thx, Playercool.

All women build emotional connections after sex, and these are some of the reasons I think it's innate:

1. It's written in a man's DNA to spread our seed as much as possible, we're built to be fucking machines. To facilitate this, nature has made sex less emotional for a man than a woman. Take the emotion out of an action and it becomes infinitely easier.
2. Men are conquerers. That's what we do. This is why men are leaders in business and sports, both of which are based on conquering. The problem with a conquest is that once we've won, we want to move on to the next one. We only care about the conquest while we're in the middle of it, once we've won we no longer care...again, emotions would only hinder our desire to continue to conquer.
3. The reprocussions to sex, outside of STDs, are almost nil for a man. While if a woman gets pregnant then she's got a lifetime of obligations, those are HUGE stakes. Sure, women can get an abortion or adoption but still pregnancy is a HUGE issue. To prevent women from being put at risk, nature instilled this emotional trigger in them so it makes it harder for them to jump from one dude to another. That's why the community teaches you to appeal to a woman's emotion instead of her rational side.
4. The act of sex isn't as intimate for a man as it is a woman...they are literally accepting us into their body. As such the connection isn't as lasting or strong for a man. So it's easier for us to just fuck and leave, and to do it over and over again with little or no emotional capital being spent. We frankly don't make that much of a connection. Frued was onto to something here, I truely believe that we make a woman feel complete during sex, make them feel whole.
5. Women are master manipulators. They use sex as a weapon to get themselves into an LTR. My mother always told me that "women have sex for love, men have love for sex." It's not 100% true, but it's pretty close. A woman's goal is to get in an LTR to rear children, she'll use sex to get you into that LTR. I think this is why the fast foward to marriage fantasy routine works so well. We've already got them thinking about us as a future mate, once they make this emtoinal connection sex almost becomes an after thought. In her mind you're already together, now she just has to use sex to realize this fantasy.

The way I try to manage emotional connections is to be very upfront with the women. Tell them that I'm not emotionally available, that I can't give them anything else but a casual relationship, etc. Some will stick around, others won't. For the ones that stay I've found that emtions start to pop up about 3 - 4 weeks into the 'relationship.' When that happens, you've got to blow them out and replace them in the rotation. Typically, my harem turns over every month or so.

Alot of good knowlegde there Bull Run. Appreciate you sharing that knowledge. I am into psychology very much and alot of that makes complete and total sense. I just have to replace them as well. This usually doesn't come without a fight on her part though. Not to mention the anger and the thought that "This guy is a total fucking jerk!"

I agree, its not hard to get 'em... its harder to get rid of them... I tell them I'm off a recent bad divorce and can't even "go there..." ; that shuts most of them up for a while... I've refrained from saying, "I'll never get married again..." (which is the truth) but it blows some of them out of the water too fast.

You don't have to be a jerk to get rid of girls. (Or to get them for that matter.) And you don't have to get rid of them to avoid getting into a relationship. Be up front with them and honest as to where you're coming from and what you're looking for. They can dislike what you want, but they won't generally dislike you unless you are dishonest or not open enough.

I guess one of my problems solved itself. This morning while I was checking my messages on myspace before heading out to work, I got a message from a girl that I started this topic because of. Anyways she said that she is looking for more than me... No hard feelings. She is looking for a partner in life.. Not just a fuck buddy.. Then she ends it with a
IOI..?? Muah!! ..... So, I guess my problem is solved. with her at least. Kind of depressing though because I sure did like the sex. Guess it wouldn't have been worth it for her to have become attached though. Oh well. You win some, you lose some.

Unless she has amazing will power don't be suprised if she calls you up some night.

Here is how I handled the latest relationship talk. I was 100% dead honest with the girl. She is into me and I am not about to lie to get into bed with someone. I told her straight up my head is not ready to be in any sorta committed relationship. She was pissed and upset but about 2 seconds later was on top of me. Kinda crazy how good honesty worked here. I think most likely it was a breath of fresh air for her and it turned her on.

Goodluck

A female kiwi weighs 6 pounds. It's egg weighs 1 fucking pound. That's 1/6th of her body weight!

What is the point I'm getting at?

Females put so much energy (emotional and physical) and resources to create a baby that its in pretty much every female organism to be picky when it comes to mates. You see it in Kiwi's, you see it in lionesses, you see it in humans. I've come to understand and be ok with girls being so wary about sex now that I've understood it biologically.