Dallas PUA

Hello All...

Is there a standard for when you should ask for her name?

My game as of late has been to never ask. I guess I feel if I ask I'm showing her an IOI. Maybe at some point with enough rapport this is ok? I usually just wait for her to ask my name. This way I know she is prob interested if she is asking.

What is your take?

I always wait until she asks for any info. Name, age whatever.

I think this matter is in different opinions throughout the community.

I like to ask their name early on in the conversation, especially if I feel the conversation may possibly be stalling. The thing I do different though is I say its nice meeting you miss (name) and I dont introduce myself.

for 3 reasons

1) I am giving her an IOI true but it is a lite social faux paux to not ask someone else their name after they have asked for yours, so I put that pressure on her to remain socially right.

2) most often times you can take it as an IOI if shes asks back

and 3) you get to remain in Kino contact for a while, because while i am saying nice to meet you, I am still shaking her hand, in which case 90% of the time she will then ask me my name, and I get about 10 more seconds of light kino with her.

Again, everyone uses this differently but I like to start building the yes ladder as soon as possible, after the IOI exchange, I disqualify, DHV and then compliance test once or twice more depending on how she is reacting with DHV's between the CT's, qualify, and then into comfort we go.

You have to make sure it's after the hook point, in other words you are becoming familiar with each other and starting to discover that you like each other.

I never actually ask for a name. Instead I'll stick out my hand and introduce myself.

I think some people think that you're not supposed to ever show interest, which is wrong. You just have to show interest at the right time and for the right reasons. It's true introducing yourself is showing her an IOI. But that's not bad, it's good.

I use "hey what's your name" as an opener at parties pretty frequently it's quick and simple, and it's only natural for them to give theirs back.

1) I am giving her an IOI true but it is a lite social faux paux to not ask someone else their name after they have asked for yours, so I put that pressure on her to remain socially right.

2) most often times you can take it as an IOI if shes asks back

and 3) you get to remain in Kino contact for a while, because while i am saying nice to meet you, I am still shaking her hand, in which case 90% of the time she will then ask me my name, and I get about 10 more seconds of light kino with her.

I agree

Also the sweetest sound to anyone's ears is their own name. Use her name in the conversation, and it will make her feel more comfortable with you, and much easier to go into rapport.
Really though there is no set answer for this question. Do whatever works for you, and vibes better with your personality.

Getting her name really isnt that big of a deal in the interaction. Sometimes I dont even get or attempt to remember it but fill in for it with a nick name.

To me you dont loose any power or standing by getting her name early or even getting it before she asks for yours. Think of it like this, in any normal business interaction usually the person who is leading the interaction will make the social jump to get names and move to the next level of the interaction. Basically what I'm saying is do it when your comfortable with it.

The important part is that YOUR in control and that you have FUN no matter what!

Vector wrote:I never actually ask for a name. Instead I'll stick out my hand and introduce myself.

I do this as well, at the earlierst sign of any interest in me. Typically the girl will shake my hand and tell me her name. Often it will be a name that has more than one spelling, at which point ill launch into a routine about that. I think the sooner you both know each others names the better as she is going to feel more comfortable around you.

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zine wrote:I use "hey what's your name" as an opener at parties pretty frequently it's quick and simple.

Holy fuck, why haven't I been doing this in class (or in the hallway before). Seems so fucking simple and natureal and obvious.








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dubya wrote:

zine wrote:I use "hey what's your name" as an opener at parties pretty frequently it's quick and simple.

Holy fuck, why haven't I been doing this in class (or in the hallway before). Seems so fucking simple and natureal and obvious.

For cold approach it will probably not go over too well as an opener, but it should work fine at a party or a warm-approach setting (like class).

yeah wouldn't recommend it for a total cold approach, too much interest while she's still getting her first impression of you. I've found situational openers most effective for cold approaches.
If she's by herself I usually go total direct. "hey you are really cute, and I want to get to know you"

Parties are pretty easy, normally you don't even have to open more than once. Just talk to her a bit, and after she does something you can show her interest for just say "wow you're cool, your friends must be just as cool I want to meet them. Who all you know here?"