Dallas PUA

My female coworker is trying to set me up with a girl who is 26 years old and has never been on a date.

So I thought, well, this looks like a job for The Ladies' Man. I'll just get a bottle of Cavasier and some roses and everything will be cool.

So I emailed the chick today and told her I'd meet up with her at 1pm on Sat at a coffee shop.

She has not even emailed me back. She seems like a really timid type.

But this got me thinking....

Ya know alot of the community will lead you to believe that you need to project value, to not give your power away and to be masculine, dominant and alpha.

But then you run into a scared little bunny like this one and you gotta adapt.

This leads me to believe that the idea of treating all women the same is nuts.

A girl can be beautiful and hot and all, but she likes to stay home with her dog on Friday nights.

Or a chick can be a party girl who likes dick.

Its a wild world out there with all types.

Personally, I feel that these shy girls can be "cracked" but it may take a different type of game.
Maybe one that's a little more sensitive. More based on NLP. SS perhaps.

I met a girl in 2005 who was totally shy but had other hobbies.

So those of you who think that you're the only ones with insecurities are totally wrong.
Some girls are totally insecure and shy.

Does anyone have any opinions on how to crack the code on shy girls? have you ever broken into their world?

Trib

Hard to say without having met her because as you said, "it takes all types." But, I've found that continuing to project confidence and masculinity is the way to go. Negging generally won't work, she'll probably interalize them too much. For some reason, slight self depricating humor works...not too much otherwise you lose the value you already have by being the confident guy. Shy girls won't offer you a lot in the way of conversation, obviously. To get her talking, I've found you have to do most of the talking. Load her up with funny stories and what not...nothing too crazy though, you don't want to tell a shy chick about your drunken escapades. Once she gets a feel for who you are through your stories, she'll open up. Be prepared for the "you seem to be outgoing, what are you doing here?" question. I've never had a good answer to that but I've flirted with: "I'm not that outgoing, you just make me feel comfortable" (lie), "I like meeting new people" (truth, but implies that she's not that special because you do this a lot), and "your friend's description of you was intriguing."

Good luck! Fill us in.

Tribulus1000 wrote: Does anyone have any opinions on how to crack the code on shy girls? have you ever broken into their world?

Yes. Build comfort//Break Rapport. Repeat as needed.

It really is that simple though.

Good to see you back, Trib.

Westfall

Westfall wrote:Good to see you back, Trib.

Westfall

Thanks WF. I went through some bad times recently. Job loss. Health issues.
Now I'm back.