Recovery from an ltr?

[shredder]

I just got out of a ltr and have been trying out the pua skills for less than a month. Right now, its not that i am too lazy to try for another girl, it is that i think i lost my confidence a little and dont really feel like being rejected. I dont think i am good enough at my newly learned pu skills and am having difficulty keeping the view that any girl at my school is as good as mine. you guys have any suggestions for a) getting over a ltr and b) getting my confidence back to where it was?

[Smirks]

Baby steps. You can't read a book and instantly master all these skills. To boost your confidence a bit, start with just openings.

Open every damn set you see. Get to the point where you feel like your openers hook damn near every time, and move on to the next part...so on and so forth. Trying to put all of it together at once with out having a good handle on each phase makes it hard to handle, and is discouraging. I find that once I'm able to easily open every set I want, I get that energy boost from the accomplishment, and start moving forward from there. Hope that helps.

[Cru$H]

what is it the 9 girl theory, 8, 10, i dunno. Shredder, fuckin do what you do best and shred. if u fuck 9 girls ur girlfriend will be a joke that me you and atlas will be laughing about in the near future.

[shredder]

Thats the problem though cru$h, it isnt that i am incapable of fucking 9 girls by the time i leave for break, it is just that i dont really want to. I love sex, dont get me wrong, but if i went out and boned 9 girls, i would feel dirty. any alternatives? head works too right? i could do that...

[Mojo]

One-itis is hardwired into our brains as a survival mechanism. Back in the tribal days, breaking up with your cavewomen meant the probable end of your genetic line for there were only few girls whom were available. Going out and getting your groove on with multiple girlies flips off the one-itis switch as your brain now sees women overfloweth. It works.

Feeling dirty boning multiple of girls sounds like societal programming. Sex is the natural extension of the beautiful connection a male forms with a female. Sex based on a truthful connection is a wonderful thing. So go out and get your groove on…

As you know, confidence is key. Women can smell confidence from across the room. They gravitate toward confident guys. So, of course, be confident. But how does one become confident? Confidence derives from solid inner game. This is where PU leads to self-improvement. This is one of the great things about our community: it makes us better beings. To get an awesome girl, you got to be an awesome guy. The journey of self-improvement is a personal path. Things I’ve found that help with inner game:

- Get the best education possible

- Start your own business where people or a system works for you – I would encourage everyone to do this. Being the boss re-programs your psychology (more alpha, more decisive, more confident, etc).

- Build social circles. To build social circles you must understand people. In Lee Iacocca’s autobiography he attributes all his success to being a psychology major and understanding people. Also, happy people have sizable social circles.

- Travel. Not for a weekend or a week; go for months at a time across the globe. There is NO substitute for the insight you gain about the world and about yourself.

- Have a life. Have hobbies/activities you love such as art, sports, community service, etc. Cancel your cable and get outside. Studies have shown people are actually mildly depressed when watching TV (source: Authentic Happiness)

- There are NO obstacles in life. Things stand in your way only if YOU allow it. Not enough money for top-notch education? Bullshit. Get a job, a loan, etc.

These are just a few off the top of my head. Hope this helps,

Mojo

[Westfall]

- There are NO obstacles in life.

NOTE: Except for the morbidly obese monstrosity that kept me from fucking her cute friend last time I was in Dallas.

[shredder]

so what is the deal with societal programming? should i try to forget it? i feel like people cant just forget the rules, otherwise they will not mesh with society, but then again, i am very new at this and maybe this is what separates me from an experienced pua...

[Smirks]

- There are NO obstacles in life.

NOTE: Except for the morbidly obese monstrosity that kept me from fucking her cute friend last time I was in Dallas.

I hear that...

[Mojo]

so what is the deal with societal programming? should i try to forget it? i feel like people cant just forget the rules, otherwise they will not mesh with society, but then again, i am very new at this and maybe this is what separates me from an experienced pua...

You have beliefs that are fundamental to your way of thinking, some are hard wired and some are conditioned by society. Some are good and some not so. If you can change these beliefs there is no limit in the things you can accomplish. One category is limiting beliefs and they are just that: beliefs that limit what you can do. For example (this example if from "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind") most people will never make millions since subconciously they perceive money as bad. It has been priogrammed since you were a child... remember sayings such as "money is the root of all evil", "money doesn't grow on trees", [insert anyone of the numerous biblical rants on the evils monetary wealth], etc. And your subconcious will not let you do anything that it thinks is bad. It will sabotage any efforts. Check out the following thread: http://dallaspua.com/forum/viewtopic.ph ... ight=bless
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind is a good book. You may also want to read "Unlimited Power" to learn how to reprogram your mind more positively. Both employ Nero Linguistic Programming (NLP). Another favorite book of mine that demonstrates how to use your mind more efficiently is "Blink". It is important to program your subconcious as to improve intuition. It is the path to being a "natural" in anything you do, pick-up included.