How to Juggle Women?

[Bull Run]

I'm still new to this, but the last week I've come across a new problem. How does one juggle multiple women? Right now I have 3 active women and 1 that I'm sort of pushing away because I fear I don't have time for her. How does one balance sargin and women? Is honesty in order here? Do you tell them what you are and what you do? If so, how? If not, what kind of techinques do you employ to ensure that you keep the woman happy and your bank account full? How do you manage their expectations yet keep them interested?

This is a nice problem to have, but still something that I think all of us do and will experience.

[zine]

I have 3 rules that every girl I meet is aware of.

1. I am dating other women

2. She is dating other guys (this is so she has someone else to fill her needs when I'm not around)

3. She has to do her best to get along with my friends


it takes a certain frame that I have to pull this off. The way I feel though it's much easier to be honest than to hide shit, and builds much better relationships with people. Having these rules means that she gets to introduce me to her friends, and I get to introduce her to mine. Therefore if I only have one day in the week for them then i'll just invite them all.
As far as keeping my bank account full I only pay for myself. I havent paid for a girl in about 2 years without them returning the favor later.

Also assign them times to hang out with you, give them two choices example:

We should hang out sometime this week. Which is better for you Monday at 9pm or Thursday at 5pm. I only have a couple hours to spare each day, but I'd really love to make some time for you.

[TheScientist]

I have 3 rules that every girl I meet is aware of.

1. I am dating other women

2. She is dating other guys (this is so she has someone else to fill her needs when I'm not around)

3. She has to do her best to get along with my friends

Good stuff! I'll only add that I neglected the second rule to my detriment. I'm finding that I would be just as well off laying down these rules as only the ones who fit these criteria have worked out for more than a couple of dates.

[Vector]

I have 3 rules that every girl I meet is aware of.
1. I am dating other women
2. She is dating other guys (this is so she has someone else to fill her needs when I'm not around)
3. She has to do her best to get along with my friends

Good stuff! I'll only add that I neglected the second rule to my detriment.

Hear hear, rule 2 is a good one that I neglected as well. I used to see this girl who wasn't dating other guys and it made for an unbalanced, uncomfortable, and ultimately untenable situation.

[Finesse]

I havent done any of those things.... I suck.

[Tracer]

I think if you present yourself in the correct manor it will be known that you are seeing other people and the question will only come up if she has insecurities about it or if her feelings for you are starting to develop more and she actually desires a relationship.

I feel that I make it pretty clear that I am not looking for a serious relationship and I do go out with friends and I have only had one girl ask me if I was dating other women and it was because she was falling in love with me. Real bummer because we had a lot of fun.

Any objections or comments?

[zine]

I think if you present yourself in the correct manor it will be known that you are seeing other people and the question will only come up if she has insecurities about it or if her feelings for you are starting to develop more and she actually desires a relationship.

I agree with you that secure girls will probably understand without directly stating these things, but I've had some incidents where they have not. I like directly stating these things because it provides no opportunity for her to have drama and it be my fault. She was clear on the way I am from the beginning. If she has a problem with it then I encourage her to find a guy that more coincides with how she feels right now, and that if she ever changes her mind I'm still around for her. Girls seemed to obsess over me many times before I stated what my rules were directly.

[Westfall]

If she has a problem with it then I encourage her to find a guy that more coincides with how she feels right now, and that if she ever changes her mind I'm still around for her. Girls seemed to obsess over me many times before I stated what my rules were directly.

How do girls typically respond when you tell them they should find a guy that fits her "guy mold" better?

Do you have any advice for setting up an LTR with a girl that is romantically exclusive, but not sexually exclusive? There's a girl that I may be becoming interested in who lives a ways from Texarkana, I'd only be able to be with her on weekends and I wouldn't be willing to spend every weekend with her.

I am unwilling to be 2nd to some other bf, and romantic exclusivity appeals to me--I want to love a girl and have her love me.

I am unwilling to make unrealistic promises about sexual exclusivity as 1) I want to continue to work on my skills 2) I don't think she would benifit from sexual exclucivity and 3) I believe that sexual monogamy breeds distrust in relationships (as either partner may try to or be tempted to 'cheat'). Humans are not monogamous.

I wouldn't be thrilled about her being able to have sex with other guys, but I feel it would be unfair to make such a lopsided arragement. Also this is much preferable to her cheating, or me worrying about her cheating and us both becoming insecure and worrying over stupid stuff like missed phone calls. Besides, I don't think she'd do often if at all.

We've all seen relationships collapse under the suspicious, insecurities, and mistrust created by forcing monogamy on a species that simply isn't monogamous...this is especially problematic in long-distance relationships...

I'd love to create a perfect long-lasting relationship with a girl, perhaps this one.

Westfall

[MagicBalls]

You can just give me the number to the hottest one, and I'll take her off your chest.

[zine]

I am unwilling to be 2nd to some other bf, and romantic exclusivity appeals to me--I want to love a girl and have her love me.

she can love you whatever her current situation is. You just told me that you wanted an exclusive non exclusive relationship. Be more clear on what you want. A couple of the girls I'm seeing are in other relationships. Does that mean that they don't love me? No, they love me even more because I'm the guy that she can go to that's going to not judge her, and tell it to her like it is. I even try to help her current relationship because if she feels more loved with him then that's fine I benefited her life positively, job done.

I am unwilling to make unrealistic promises about sexual exclusivity as 1) I want to continue to work on my skills 2) I don't think she would benifit from sexual exclucivity and 3) I believe that sexual monogamy breeds distrust in relationships (as either partner may try to or be tempted to 'cheat'). Humans are not monogamous.

this is contradictory of your next statement

I wouldn't be thrilled about her being able to have sex with other guys, but I feel it would be unfair to make such a lopsided arragement. Also this is much preferable to her cheating, or me worrying about her cheating and us both becoming insecure and worrying over stupid stuff like missed phone calls. Besides, I don't think she'd do often if at all.

you should be thrilled that she's with other guys. Where do you think girls learn new skills and stuff about themselves that would be intriguing to you? It's from other guys, other people, and doing things without you. I'm glad when she comes back from being with another guy. If the guy had an abilities at all that means I'm going to see something she learned. Something I can benefit from and enjoy, and in turn better please the other girls I'm seeing.

We've all seen relationships collapse under the suspicious, insecurities, and mistrust created by forcing monogamy on a species that simply isn't monogamous...this is especially problematic in long-distance relationships...

you're right there is a complete trust between me and the girls I'm seeing. They are free to be totally honest with me as it's what's expected, and they know that in no way will I judge them. This provides for a bond between us that she doesn't have with anyone else. I am their zen. Their place to go when all the world is crashing around them where they know there will always be a positive, trusting energy that will instantly make them feel that everything is alright.

I'd love to create a perfect long-lasting relationship with a girl, perhaps this one.

You contradict yourself again. You must decide exactly what you want whether it be exclusivity or not. You must be confident in your own beliefs above anything else or you will come off as unsure of yourself, and less confident as a person. Seriously write down what you believe, make sure every one of those has solid reasons to back it up, and once you find a belief you like make sure to stick with it as long as it's positively benefiting you.