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Being an Alpha

PostPosted: Sun Oct 21, 2007 7:16 pm
by flare
Hey everyone

Im having a little bit of trouble becoming Alpha.

I know that you have to be the shit, Own the party,speak slow, move slow, smile, eye contact etc.

Now i try to do all this, but its a little hard sometimes...

Lets say im at a party or even at a coffee shop and i see a group of people i know.

I go up, say "Hey every1 wats goin on"shake their hands and all.
THIS IS WHERE IM STUCK.

Now what?? this isnt a pick up. Im not going to be using my techniques and routines on my friends. Im not going to ask them for an opinion


But i still want to remain ALPHA, and control the conversation... but sometimes you have NOTHING TO SAY!

i know what i have to control the cnvo, be the center of attention and all... but what do i say?

if this was a PU, it be different. MUCH different

so much easier lol
but with your social cirlce, i have no clue what to do

I appreciate all your help

Thanks alot,
flare

PostPosted: Sun Oct 21, 2007 10:17 pm
by waijai
Being alpha doesn't mean you have to control every single conversation and interaction. It's basically you being 100% comfortable with who you are, not seeking approval of anything, and having a strong root in your own identity. You have to be a leader, one that can take control in any situation and not lose your cool.

PostPosted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 8:43 am
by Smile
waijai is right. Good post.

PostPosted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 11:59 pm
by Check_Mate
waijai wrote:Being alpha doesn't mean you have to control every single conversation and interaction. It's basically you being 100% comfortable with who you are, not seeking approval of anything, and having a strong root in your own identity. You have to be a leader, one that can take control in any situation and not lose your cool.


I agree 100%
Also, if everyone kept trying really hard to hold ALL the attention ALL the time it would be impossible for PUA's to hang out with each other cause they're all alpha

PostPosted: Tue Oct 23, 2007 1:00 pm
by Zeal
Check_Mate wrote:
waijai wrote:Being alpha doesn't mean you have to control every single conversation and interaction. It's basically you being 100% comfortable with who you are, not seeking approval of anything, and having a strong root in your own identity. You have to be a leader, one that can take control in any situation and not lose your cool.


I agree 100%
Also, if everyone kept trying really hard to hold ALL the attention ALL the time it would be impossible for PUA's to hang out with each other cause they're all alpha


PUA's do butt heads every now and then. I've been in a few situations where there's more than one alpha. But it's much better than no alpha at all! :P I've seen a few groups in the mall or elsewhere that just sit there trying to decide what to do and you can tell there's no alpha. It's hilarious and I just want to walk up and point them in a general direction. :P