Woman with oneitis

[MagicBalls]

"From: Julia Allison
Date: Sun, 16 Sep 2007 6:50 pm
To: [redacted]
Subject: Re: To reiterate, in word form

You'll probably see this, but I'll just point it out:
http://blog.juliaallison.com/2007/09/ju ... ing_1.html

I'm upset with you because I feel like you're putting me in a position where
I have to - for my own self-respect - stop seeing you.

And that would be really sad.

I didn't actually get pissed today until I checked your blog around 4:30 to
see whether you were using that camera thing, and I noticed that you had
managed to update it, but not send me a text regarding our plans. It was
just so unbelievably inconsiderate and selfish.

And then to claim that our plans weren't definite? No way.

I get the sense that you think I'm here when it's convenient for you and
when your (definitely moody) mood suits. That's bullshit, and you know it.

I also get the sense that the women you've dated before put up with this. I
won't.

Honestly, I just want to have an amazing time with you, think great
thoughts, reach some new creative heights together, maybe, who knows - have
SEX eventually, for chrissake.

I had a lot of incredible ideas I wanted to talk to you about tonight -
ideas about YOUR COMPANY!!

I just feel like you let me down. I'm really disappointed, not only because
it would have been a really fun night, but also because I don't particularly
enjoy feeling like someone I care about doesn't give a shit about me.

And what will happen here if this continues is that I'll decide that I
dislike this feeling so much that I'll do anything I can to get away from
it. And the result will be me getting away from you.

That is NOT a threat - because I don't want it to happen!! I want to
continue to see you, [redacted] - I think we have a lot of things we can teach
each other. But I need some basic respect first.

Julia

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From: [redacted]
Date: Mon, 17 Sep 2007 08:03 am
To: Julia Allison
Subject: Re: To reiterate, in word form

You deserve more respect than I've been treating you with. I think you pretty much nail it in this email. I tend to walk all over girls I date, in the sense that they aren't as high a priority as they ought to be. You are not an exception, and I will only grow more selfish (inconsiderate) in the future. For example, this week will be worse than last week.

I am not capable of giving you what you deserve in a relationship, even an "alternative" relationship, so, we should stop seeing each other. I think you are awesome, but I think it's impossible to be together.

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And so there it is, the demise of a budding relationship. All over ... what, exactly?

I think it's too bad. But you know what the weirdest thing is? I also feel a little ... relieved? Can you be simultaneously disappointed and relieved at the same time? Maybe I'll feel differently in the morning."

(Pasted from Julia Allison's blog).