What do I talk about?

[omni]

I bet a lot of you get this problem so I can't wait for your help.

The issue is that some of the ladies I meet aren't as....."cerebral" as I am. Sometimes my sense of humor doesn't match theirs (i.e., my jokes go over their head).

I don't mean to sound pretentious; I just want to know how you relate to an attractive women who doesn't happen to think constitutional law and religious philosophy are as exciting as I do. So what should I be talking to them about? In the past, female friends have told me that I sometimes made them feel unintelligent. I try never to do that anymore.

I try to get them talking but sometimes the conversation can hit dry spots. I'm working on being more interesting, but I'd like your help. Thanx

[Vector]

Don't dumb yourself down because you're scuttling one of your assets if you do. I'll tell girls at some point that regarding some subjects i'm a total nerd. Then I can talk about them excitedly and demonstrate a strong interest, or passion, which is attractive. But since I've established that I'm a nerd, she won't feel the need to keep up and she won't feel dumb. She is just not nerdy. Same situation, just different frame.

This is only part of the problem though. You shouldn't be always talking about your interests. You still need to find common things to talk about. I'm afraid I can't help you much on that one.

[Westfall]

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[MagicBalls]

You can talk about interesting subjects without turning it into a college class. It's all about the language that you use and the way that you convey your ideas. The trick is not to assume that she knows what you are talking about WHILE not being the least bit patronizing. If there's something obvious that she doesn't know or didn't get, just react like it's a normal thing. You have to continue with the flow of the conversation instead of letting that distract you. Find a different way to explain it and go from there, or change the topic altogether. You should never stay on a topic too long, anyway.

If you look at politicians, most of them, with a few exceptions, are very well-educated and have teams of people gathering information. Yet, when they talk to the public, they talk in a language that everyone can understand.

When men get together to talk, they have their points and arguments and egos that they are bringing out. When woman talk, it's 100% social. The subject matter means nothing so long as the conversation is flowing and people are engaging each other and interacting.

Let me leave you with one more bit of information, which I think you'll like, if you consider yourself an intellectual. Ok. Read the following.

"We shall go on to the end, we shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our Island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and even if, which I do not for a moment believe, this Island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British Fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God's good time, the New World, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old."

Did you feel the strenght, power, and resolution behind those words? Did they inspire you? The speech is timeless and will stand forever in history.

Now let me ask you something. Did you see any words of Latin origin? What about words with more than two syllables? Not many, huh.

Guess what, that's not a coincidence. Churchill knew that Germanic words appeal to the masses, while Latin-based words turn on the wrong "conquered by the Romans" switches. It really is an art to have a complex, sophisticated way of thinking and seeing the world and yet still be able to relate to each person in a way that engages them. After all, we're all more similar to each other than we are different. We carry the same struggles, strife, needs, desires, emotions, and conflicts. If you look at literature, most of the themes can be summed up to a few, and the themes are universal.

On the other hand, finding games to play with them such as bait-hook-release and thumb wars can also be a fun way to pass the time. If the convo gets too heavy, just find something stupid to do, doesn't matter what it is, just have fun with it. Fuck, get some chalk and play hopscotch or something.

[Scoundrel]

Hook 'em with celeb gossip, then go for the high brow stuff. She doesn't need to understand what you're talking about. It's enough that you KNOW what you're talking about and you're congruent with it.

[omni]

This is all good stuff guys. I can see where I've been focusing on the wrong person. I can even think of a good argument I once had w/ a girl over which cereal is better: fruity pebbles or cocoa pebbles (fruity is much better).

[MagicBalls]

(fruity is much better).

That's my second favorite cereal, next to cinnamon toast crunch.

But unfortunately for me, cereal is out of the question, with 70 lbs down and 40 more to go.