Here is the original question by an AFC named Talc:
Howdy fellas,
1) I'm a 5'5" or 5'6" Asian-American male. I used to be massively insecure about this, but have made improvements and don't see it as a deal-breaker at all. Even so, I won't lie -- it often bothers me and casts doubt in my mind. What are some ways to deal with this? Any examples/anecdotes, aside from Style himself, from guys who are short and very successful with women? How did you break free from your own mental roadblocks about your height?
2) Also, I can't tell you how many times women have mentioned in conversation that she likes tall men ("He HAS to be taller than me..." etc.). I don't really take her words seriously because I know what she is really saying is "I envision a man who makes me feel like a woman to be tall, masculine, alpha, etc." When I'm being C&F to her, I usually say, "Wow, interesting...that's what the last woman I dated said before we started dating" and then smile. So my question here is, what are some other responses that you guys recommend to a woman who says "I only date taller men"?
I'm eager to hear your thoughts on this.
Much appreciated, -Talc
(Btw, as to where I stand personally, I feel that my inner game is decently solid. Always much more room for improvement of course, but as of right now I have the right attitude and I'm no stranger to discomfort, hard work, and all of that good stuff that makes for a man's man.)
and Style's response:
I'm 5'6".
Lisa is 5'8".
One of the women I dated was 6".
Another was a 5'11" sex symbol.
So what did I learn?
1. If you read the personals and listen to what women say, it would seem that any guy below 6" is just OUT. Not true: they want height because it conveys status and makes them feel safe and protected. You can give them those END VALUES without the shallow surface value they think they want.
2. Girls are less physically shallow than guys. They're willing to overlook the height, weight, and other criteria if you can convey higher value/status and create an emotional connection with them.
3. There's nothing wrong with cheating a little and wearing platform shoes that give you two to four extra inches in height. Even when they NOTICE it, perception is reality.
4. But the above doesn't really matter. A short guy with a tall women conveys confidence and status and other postive alpha-type qualities. If you're COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN, it'll be HER who's feeling awkward for being too tall and birdlike or whatever.
5. Now here's the REAL secret to dating women who are much taller than you: Make sure you are sitting down (and, later, lying down) with them instead of standing all the time
good story.