Thoughts on a few of my failures in Uptown

[ninjamatt]

I have a couple of posts about my visits which are positive, but I thought I would put in all the negative.

Don't ever leave yourself wondering "what could have been". When I came in January I walked Mckinney at 5pm Friday and watched a 5 set of 9 and 10's get out of an SUV around Tates, out of the corner of my eye. I had the perfect opener for it b/c they walked within 2 feet of me, but chickened out and ignored them.

Any guy I have access too and time for who appears to have good value I try to open. about 9pm Saturday I was at the gas station across from Golds Gym and some 30ish brad pitt look-a-like pulled up in a white Jaguar or Maserati to get beer and gas and I didn't open him. I thought of a great opener on the spot but didn't say anything b/c he seemed in a hurry. I was standing outside waiting on a buddy inside and maybe it was a matter of I didn't want to abandon my buddy.

While I was standing there some guy backed a Lexus by the front door. He got out and immediately asked where Truelucks was. It was across the street but I didn't know. I realized while he was inside and we talked about it when he came out which was interesting.

The night I met Triumvirate was Saturday in mid Jan at the Den, I had asked a girl with one night stand potential where she was from, twice within a few minutes by accident b/c I wanted to meet Triumvirate. It can be a major a PUA error IMO you have to avoid.

Saturday (sun morn) about 4 am I was drunk and close to sloppy in front of Lizard Lounge. I met a 35ish couple outside who lived in uptown and the guy agreed to take us home. His woman was a bitch about it and kept demanding him not too.

I saw a 10 about noon on Katy trail saturday I could have opened but didn't b/c she was on the phone.

I was walking and texting and crossing the street on fairmont close to Katy trail and almost got ran over.

[Triumvirate]

You mentioned not opening two guys as a missed opportunity.

Why is not opening a guy a missed opportunity?

[ninjamatt]

Some guys are a gateway to an avenue of women you would not of had or known otherwise. There are an indefinite number of reasons why.

You are asking something that deals more with me coming to a big strange place which has a different culture than I'm used to, than Pua tactics.

[Triumvirate]

I guess I'm confused why you assume that some random good-looking guy is going to have access to good looking women. He might be married, have a girlfriend, or just has plain old bad game.

Lets assume he does have a bevy of women at his disposal...why would he share them with some random guy? Certainly if he is cool enough to attract hot women, wouldn't he have enough coolness to have good guy friends as well?

It just seems like a very circuitous path to get to ultimate goal of getting women. Especially if you're going to be here for the weekend, building a social circle seems pretty pointless.

Reading your FRs you seem to really emphasize the guys you're meeting, and I am wondering if "finding cool guys" isn't an excuse to not step to the dime pieces of the club.

[ninjamatt]

No. It's not an excuse. The episode I'm referring too was the parking lot of a gas station across from Golds Gym. Not a club.

Any guy in a 80k dollar sports car who's strikingly handsome and my age, I want to talk to. If he don't have shit to offer or married, he can go on his way. My thoughts are he bought his 30 pack and went home and drank by himself which is a shame b/c I may could have helped him, he may could have helped me. The way I would handle that might be open with "hey bro I will give you 20$ if I can drive your car down the street" when he says , not a chance, say "50". Now obviously i'm not giving him money to drive his car but it's a unique opener. Then we would talk a bit about the scene and if I thought I could work with him I'd say lets go chase some girls. If I was to get up with him and his game was bad and he was hurting me, I'd dump him. What sucks for me is, I didn't even try. But I had a buddy in the store and maybe I didn't want to leave him, I don't know. Go get you some pretty boy wing and watch how that works.

I'm telling my experiences about chatting up guys in the club so some of these readers will get off their ass and go recruit a wing *IF* that's what they need b/c it's easy to find there. Some guys pyschology set up they need a wing before they can even think about picking up a random woman in a club.

[ninjamatt]

I think as a natural, it's important to be able to open quality people regardless of gender, age , race etc. Women like men who get a long well with other men for one reason, it generally shows he isn't creepy.

I remember talking to some guy at the Den on the patio by the street, by a heat lamp. He was visiting and in the military. We talked some sports, I thanked him for his service to the country, etc. He was by himself and I'm thinking our talk had a positive difference on his night. Attitudes like that pay off in the long run. Attitudes that the only thing you want to do is bring a girl home to fuck, won't get you laid very often, and maybe never unless the girl is crap.

Right after than some older guy came and open me and my buddy. he had a hot wife and she had a friend there. If I wanted I could have set down and hung out, met the friend.

[Triumvirate]

I guess I'm all about efficiency. If I want to talk to hot women, I just go up and talk to them and not the guys in the venue. I have more than a few options if we're talking about uptown on a Friday/Saturday as far as women goes so I'll just spend my whole time talking to them. If you find that talking to guys ends up paying off for you more in the long run as opposed to talking to the girls that you want, more power to you.

[ninjamatt]

of course, it's all part of being a player.i'm not 100% of the time going to have access to a real hot girl to talk too. If I step out on the patio to smoke and some handsome guy is near by, I open. A lot of them know girls and maybe he's just smoking too. if the guy likes you , he can tell one of his girls you are cool. When someone approves of you, and he lets you in his social circle, it starts getting simple.

Not too mention, even if he doesn't know any girls, if you get in a conversation with a guy and you stop looking at girls for a few minutes, girls notice that and girls typically like guys who don't make it obvious they are looking for girls.

[ninjamatt]

What do you do if you are walking down the street and a guy is about to pass you? do you say, "whats up man" or do you just ignore him?

It's not out of the relm of possibility I could be moving to Dallas soon. I've already found job opportunities and business opportunities.

[voyager]

What do you do if you are walking down the street and a guy is about to pass you? do you say, "whats up man" or do you just ignore him?

What do you do when there is a meetup for pickup folks when you are in Dallas? Or do you just ignore it?