My first F buddy

[Gager]

I have my first F buddy and I don't know what to do. It's going to be another month until I have an apartment, so I am stuck with hers which she shares with her mom. I am 21 she is 18. I have had one random hookup in my past, and the rest were serious relationships.

The other day she asked me over to watch a movie, so I came over and after the movie we started making out clothes came off and I ate her out, and she went down on me. But after she went down on me I couldn't keep it up long enough to get a condom on and inside of her(I guess my mind was somewhere else. So we talked for a little bit and came to the agreement that we should be F buddies(I guess I did something right).

What are some things I need to know so I don't go fucking this up? I know I am taking this too seriously, but I do this when I'm on unfamiliar ground. Once I get an apartment, how often is too often to make a booty call? I obviously need to keep it casual, but I can't help the feeling that I need to check in from time to time to make sure that we are still on the same page(So far I've managed to resist).

[Khaos]

Tell her, your not looking far a girlfriend and continue to hang out with her. invite her to group things, rather than one on one dates so she does not get the misconception that you want her to be your girlfriend. Also don't treat her like an object i.e. sending her text that says stuff like "want to come over?". it will turn her off.

[Triumvirate]

Hello Friend.

The best way to "not mess this up" is to have other women that you're talking to. Most guys end up catching feelings for their F-buddy not because they realize how awesome and great she is, but rather because they have no other options and they become needy as hell. Neediness will be the death of this arrangement. If you have a gaggle of women on deck, you won't care about the arrangement with one.

As far as how often you should see her, I'd say no more than once a week. I disagree with Khaos, you can and should meet her up one on one. Inviting her out to group dates is a terrible idea because you will faced with that situation of having to explain the nature of your relationship to the people you bring her in front of. "So, Gager who's your friend there?" You CAN'T answer a question like that without looking bad, so just don't put yourself in that situation. In the past, when I dated multiple women, I'd take them out on one on one dates.

I would use the phone only as a means of setting up times to meet her. You shouldn't be initiating "how was your day?" "Hey baby how are you?" or any other such texts. You should not be checking with her to make sure she still wants to be your Cutty Buddy. Act like you've been there before. You can answer texts, just don't initiate them.

Again, if I can relay one thing to you, its that you should be out there getting more women. If you only have one, you will display needy tendencies automatically, and will soon turn her off.

Happy Sarging
T

[Khaos]

If you go on a lot of dates one on one with her shes gonna think your exclusive. You don't have to explain to your friends that she is your fuddy. Ive had situations where girls have been turned off because they think I was using them for pussy. If you come straight out and tell a girl that you are not looking for a relationship it does not keep them from putting out, it actually benefits you. But i agree with the neediness aspect that triumverate says. It will not only push girls out of your life, but will also be a turn off to people in general.

[ninjamatt]

what I would do if I was 21 is forget the condom. If you need one for this girl and it's not keeping your dick hard is use the fact that you know at least one girl likes you as momentum to go get another you wanna plow raw.

[Triumvirate]

Don't ever go raw. Even if she SAYS she's on birth control. Even if she SAYS she has only had sex in a relationship. If you care about your future or think you have a future, always use a condom.