Dallas PUA

Is Your Social Circle Critical to Your Game ??

This question has been on my mind since attending the PUA Talk held Friday night in Dallas. If you attended this you know what I'm talking about. Perhaps the most common feedback from the audience in regards to goal setting was social circle needs and wants.

Since moving to DFW some 8 1/2 months ago, I never created a strong social network of people yet that I meet with, do activities with, or really go out with when not working. I think this has been because I put 'pickup' first, hence leads me in spending so much time in bars/clubs at night to get what I'm looking for.

I cant recall in any PUA literature, etc. any of the gurus talking about their social networks. It seems their pickup environment is repetitively confined to a bar/club cold approach.

If you currently have a social network of friends you do things with weekly, I'm curious in knowing how much this helps your game compared to the bar/club scene approach.

I'm getting my calendar pulled out for 2013 and thinking about what kind of schedule I should create week to week and how a Social Circle can be made a part of it.

I've never done it for a long period of time but parties are good....if you have the time, money, patience.
Think about it....all the girls have to do is stay. You could come up with a routine for this. "Jessica, after everyone leaves, can you stay and help me clean up?"

A lot of men meet their wives from social circles. I would venture to guess of all men I know who have married or get laid, half met through friends or recommendation from another person. A large part of the reason it's much more effective than random pick up is b/c men can be held more accountable for what they do and say so women tend to trust them more. Also, if someone is telling the girl "you need to meet this guy, he's blah blah blah" Then they look for those traits that's been described. Usually when one person wants to introduce 2 people the person thinks they could be compatible. If the girl starts to see similar traits, she will feel more comfortable. A lot of them also will trust what their friend says about a guy. I could write a book on it but I'll save it for 2014

I think random pick up like what is sold online is effective for certain situations based on how I see guys use it;

1.) the guy has substantially more value. In other words, the guy might be a "9" but the woman is a "7". Not just in looks but careers, friends, etc.
2.) the guy knows how to effect the woman's thought process with conversation and can make himself stand out among other men. A guy who can leave an impression she wants to learn about.

I was in the middle of writing something till the replies came in, but from the looks of things it's best that I just start my own informational thread on the topic. Coming soon!

Isiman, I'm looking forward to seeing a pic of you sitting at a round table, at a bar with about 12 people. One pic of you sitting down telling jokes, and one pic of you dancing on the table. Don't let me down bro