What Would Alpha Do?

[Guest]

So I had a rather busy weekend, went to blue Ridge mountains with a girl I work with. i consider her a LTR and she considers me same. We're not super serious and we both like it that way.

So all weekend, I would stop and think to myself, "What would an Alpha male do?" So I bring that question to you guys. Here are some following situations, and I know what I did, but the question is, What would the Alpha male do?


Would an alpha male grab and hold her hand, or wait for her to grab and hold his? Would an alpha male care who grabbed whose hand first?

Reasoning: If the alpha male grabs her hand he is initiating kino and building comfort. If the alpha male lets her grab his hand, he is showing her indifference until she acts, thereby showing higher status. WWAD?

What I did: I split this up, half the time I was indifferent, half the time, I initiated kino.

Would an alpha male put her pleasure (sexual) before his own, or would an alpha male just worry about his pleasure. Would an alpha male care, or think about this?

Reasoning: I have read from BR specifically how he just worries about his own pleasure. IE: He is taking care of his business and it's her job to take care of hers. This shows status. However, if she cant or doesn't take care of her business it is presumed the mans fault, so WWAD?

What I did: Put her pleasure before my own. End result, squirting orgasms on her side, a nice ride on mine.


Would an alpha male let her initiate PDAs or would he initiate them. Would he care?

Reasoning: This goes back to status and is similar but deeper than hand holding.

What I did: I initiated all serious PDA's (kissing, makeout, etc..) she did not initiate a damn thing

[Guest]

There are a lot of aspects to alpha behavior: strength, power, leading, self-interest, self-love, punishing poor behavior/rewarding good behavior.

The fact is that an alpha male usually isn't going to care which one of the two of you initiate kino. If he wants to, he does so. If he does not, he does not. If she initiates it AND he wants to, then he'll allow her to do so. If she initiates it AND he doesn't want her hanging all over him, then he sheds her off of him. In the end, the alpha male does what he wants to do. The key is that he shouldn't be so caught up in the girl that he always wants to touch/hold/kino her.

Yes, I'm a selfish lover. I admit this openly and freely. But, understand, that sometimes getting your way means doing certain things with a girl that heightens her pleasure. For example, squirting. If I'm looking to have crazy, wild, nasty sexy time then I'll make the girl squirt. After that, I'll have free reign to do with her as I please. Sometimes, giving a little means that you get back so much more from her.

There's a lot to being alpha, but generally it comes down to a simple question: is this what I want to be doing? If the answer is yes, then do it. If it is no, then do not do it. One of the best ways to ensure that you act in an alpha manner is to make sure you have other priorities in your life. You need to have other things you want to devote your time and energy to. This will ensure that you find yourself spending too much time and energy on any one person.