Unburnt bridges

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Something that I have been experiencing a lot lately is that girls that I A)gamed in the past and either blew off because I met another girl I was more interested in B) dated and things fizzled out with them or C) number closed or hung out with once but never took things as far I as wanted to with them (aka fucked) have been coming out of the wood work and hitting me up. a few of these girls I really would like to see again or was always hopefull that something would happen between us.

Is there a different aproach to gaming girls that you have some kind of history with?

I think the obvious is that you don't want to repeat any mistakes that you've made before if you dated them. But what if it was a case of you not generating enough attraction the first time around. Can you recover and make them attracted enough? Obviousely it's not game over if they are hitting me up right? How have you guys successfully handled things like this?

Thanks in advance

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Is there a different aproach to gaming girls that you have some kind of history with?

I think the obvious is that you don't want to repeat any mistakes that you've made before if you dated them. But what if it was a case of you not generating enough attraction the first time around. Can you recover and make them attracted enough? Obviousely it's not game over if they are hitting me up right? How have you guys successfully handled things like this?

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IMO the history you have will only help and make things slightly easier on you. I would game these girls just like any other girl I haven't slept with yet.

If the girls are hitting you up they still have you on their mind. They might be thinking hrmm what ever happened to Ram. I should hit him up because I would like to go out with him again.

The girls are basically offering you the chance to take the lead and get them out. So make sure unless they are taking charge that you roll the dice and see if you can get them out with you in some form or fashion.

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PC is correct. Assume comfort and start from there...you've already got attraction, or at least have generated enough interest for her to contact you.

Whenever this happened to me I'd usually tease them a little bit about disappearing and then I'd tell them that we can make it up to each other by grabbing a drink and catching up. Once you get her out, just act as if it's a normal day2.

Generally, girls only respond to or re-open guys they like or think they could like.

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So one of these before mentioned girls contacted me again yesterday. She im'd me at work just like she used to before when we were romantically involved. We talked off and on the entire day(we had to take breaks to actually do some work here and there). Something she said really bothered me. The thing is that she mentioned she is glad we are still friends and didn't think we would be. One of the things I said to her back when we were talking was that I had no interest in being her "friend". Being someone who has stayed in comfort too long with girls and ends up in the friend-zone has always been a huge problem for me. With something like this I think it sets a bad precedent to let her back into my life at all with the assumption that we can be just friends. Because my interest are and always have been romantic. I want to fuck her! I really need to get better at this. I mean should take the sly road and use any opening I can to get to what I want? Or is it one of those things that I need to take a stance on with her? Like let her know unless there is not any interest on her part it's not going to happen. All I know for sure is that I usually seem to play this wrong wrong every time and end up with exactly what I don't want. Either anothe girl-friend or nothing at all

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[QUOTE=Ram;37318]So one of these before mentioned girls contacted me again yesterday. She im'd me at work just like she used to before when we were romantically involved. We talked off and on the entire day(we had to take breaks to actually do some work here and there). Something she said really bothered me. The thing is that she mentioned she is glad we are still friends and didn't think we would be. One of the things I said to her back when we were talking was that I had no interest in being her "friend". Being someone who has stayed in comfort too long with girls and ends up in the friend-zone has always been a huge problem for me. With something like this I think it sets a bad precedent to let her back into my life at all with the assumption that we can be just friends. Because my interest are and always have been romantic. I want to fuck her! I really need to get better at this. I mean should take the sly road and use any opening I can to get to what I want? Or is it one of those things that I need to take a stance on with her? Like let her know unless there is not any interest on her part it's not going to happen. All I know for sure is that I usually seem to play this wrong wrong every time and end up with exactly what I don't want. Either anothe girl-friend or nothing at all[/QUOTE]



Girls call guys their friends even if they like the guy in a romantic way. They do this for many reasons the main two reasons are because they're naive enough to actually believe that men and women can be friends for extended periods of times (it can happen but usually one or the other wants something more) and the second reason is to bait you to see your real interest in her.

When she said friends and you said you want more than friends, you tipped your hand to her. I don't think you should have responded that way at all. Just handle like any other shit test. Cock/funny then change the subject.

I've had many women that openly referred to me as their friend, to my face and to other people that she introduced me to, then later that night we were fucking. She can give you whatever title she wants. But, don't ever go down the route of complying with or fighting against the friend title. Just plow through it and jump to the next subject.

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[QUOTE=Ram;37318]Something she said really bothered me. The thing is that she mentioned she is glad we are still friends and didn't think we would be. One of the things I said to her back when we were talking was that I had no interest in being her "friend". [/QUOTE]

I had something written up that was similar to what BR said just not as eloquently put. I agree with what he says.

Remove your mindset from thinking that there is even a chance that she actually means you guys are just friends. Girls say it all the time. They rationalize things differently than guys do.

Also change your saying to girls from: "I have no interest in being friends"
To: "I have no interest in a relationship."

Even if you do have an interest in a relationship don't make it known right from the onset. You will scare more girls off than you will attract. Saying I have no interest in a relationship early on seems to put many girls at ease. You will also hear a ton of girls say me neither, even if they are full of shit.

Ohh and one more thing. Get the girl out instead of chatting with her all day. That is what her girlfriends are for.

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[QUOTE=playercool;37322]Ohh and one more thing. Get the girl out instead of chatting with her all day. That is what her girlfriends are for.[/QUOTE]


Good point there

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I think you are over analyzing all this. Next time do what br said. Then plan a meetup and escalate on the day 2.

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