Why are you single, Why don't you have a girlfriend, Why aren't you married.
I always felt like this question was posed by a girl who was interested in you. I still feel like that is the case. I am trying to come up with a good response. I have usually just used the whole, I haven't found the right person, blah blah nonsense. I am looking for a much better response. Here are two that I am thinking about. I want something good.
I guess I'm just lucky.
I haven't yet been in the right place at the right time for the person I'm looking for.
What do you guys say?
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Response to Why are You Single?
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by Guest » Fri Jan 21, 2011 2:52 pm
**KJ alert***... I have never been asked this question...lol but this is how I think it should be handled.
HBFox: How come you're single? or a variation...
PUA: raised eyebrow followed by huge smirking grin..."Did you want to kiss me?" or "are you asking to be my girlfriend?" or "are you proposing to me?"
Clearly the delivery should be that you understand that she is asking the question because she thinks youre cute and a great catch and no girl will let you slip by. So she wants to pounce on you.
Ofcourse if you dont calibrate it to the moment she might get persnickety and come back with “how does that mean I want to kiss/marry you/be your GF?” to which I have no real reply. I might fall back on "I didnt say you did, but it seemed like you had somehting on your mind" or I would probably smile and change the subject.
*** End KJ Alert****
To me an answer like that throws her for a loop and at the same time excalates the vibe. Will field test it and let you guys know
HBFox: How come you're single? or a variation...
PUA: raised eyebrow followed by huge smirking grin..."Did you want to kiss me?" or "are you asking to be my girlfriend?" or "are you proposing to me?"
Clearly the delivery should be that you understand that she is asking the question because she thinks youre cute and a great catch and no girl will let you slip by. So she wants to pounce on you.
Ofcourse if you dont calibrate it to the moment she might get persnickety and come back with “how does that mean I want to kiss/marry you/be your GF?” to which I have no real reply. I might fall back on "I didnt say you did, but it seemed like you had somehting on your mind" or I would probably smile and change the subject.
*** End KJ Alert****
To me an answer like that throws her for a loop and at the same time excalates the vibe. Will field test it and let you guys know
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by Guest » Fri Jan 21, 2011 3:46 pm
[QUOTE=knight rose;39654]HBFox: How come you're single? or a variation...
PUA: raised eyebrow followed by huge smirking grin..."Did you want to kiss me?"[/QUOTE]
Not trying to flame you or anything but the "Do you want to kiss me?" line is the cheesiest, stupidest line ever. Seriously. Don't be a puss about it, as Sabastian would say, just kiss the girl. Why ask her? Why give her the power to say no?
Your other two responses are pretty weak too. They also allude to a relationship frame. And again, she's asking you. That's not what a man does. A man proposes, a man asks the girl out, a man makes the first move. I see all of these responses being met with resistance or at least moderate disappointment on her part.
Seriously, the best answer you can give is "I'm picky." I've used it MANY times successfully. Here's why I think it works so well:
-Being picky alludes to being a man with options. It hints towards pre-selection. If the girl likes you, which she does because she's showing an interest in you romantically, she's going to think that there have been a trail of women that WANTED you but you did not think they were good enough for you.
-It sets the frame of being a high value man. You will not compromise. You have integrity, standards, and hold yourself to them even if that means that you're single (which, frankly, is the preferred state of life for me).
-It sets the frame that YOU'RE the one selecting, not her. She's the one that has to get you not the other way around.
-It makes her compete with girlfriends from your past that she makes up in her head. She thinks to herself, I like him, he's picky, I'm sure he's had a lot of options with women (I mean he's awesome, which is WHY I like him), a guy like him has probably dated a lot of beautiful women (you know because I'M a beautiful woman), and he and I are spending time together, we're having drinks, we're fucking, we're playing cards, whatever so that must mean that I'M BETTER THAN THOSE OTHER GIRLS. I WIN!!!!
-Finally, with women, brevity is king. Two little words. "I'm picky." It leaves a lot to the imagination. It gets her thinking. It makes you seem mysterious. It projects value. You don't apologize for being single and having standards, that's just the way it is. Women respect that type of mentality.
This is a serious question on her part and I think you have to calibrate with a serious answer. "I'm picky" is that answer. Now chances are pretty high that she'll ask you WHY you're picky or WHAT does that mean. Now, this is the time to blunt the conversation with humor. A typical conversation:
HB Unknown: "How are you still single?"
Bull Run: "I'm picky."
HB Unknown: "What do you mean by that?"
Bull Run: "There aren't many women that have at least 10 tats, have 5% body fat, stay young looking forever, are willing to stay home all day and care for my kids while I go out on a 4 day bender with the guys, can cook, and will give a blow job on command. They're just hard to find..." Then, you sigh and smile. She'll laugh or call you an ass (which is good), then you're off to a different subject. You basically told her, without telling her, to keep her nose our of your past and that you'll tell her what you want to tell her when you want to tell her. This will make her pussy wet.
This is what a man does. The woman asks stupid questions. He gives an honest, short answer and does not elaborate. She probes him. He uses his wit to tell her to shut the fuck up, without saying "shut the fuck up." She gets the hint. He moves on to another topic. She can't wait to fuck him. Done.
You're welcome.
PUA: raised eyebrow followed by huge smirking grin..."Did you want to kiss me?"[/QUOTE]
Not trying to flame you or anything but the "Do you want to kiss me?" line is the cheesiest, stupidest line ever. Seriously. Don't be a puss about it, as Sabastian would say, just kiss the girl. Why ask her? Why give her the power to say no?
Your other two responses are pretty weak too. They also allude to a relationship frame. And again, she's asking you. That's not what a man does. A man proposes, a man asks the girl out, a man makes the first move. I see all of these responses being met with resistance or at least moderate disappointment on her part.
Seriously, the best answer you can give is "I'm picky." I've used it MANY times successfully. Here's why I think it works so well:
-Being picky alludes to being a man with options. It hints towards pre-selection. If the girl likes you, which she does because she's showing an interest in you romantically, she's going to think that there have been a trail of women that WANTED you but you did not think they were good enough for you.
-It sets the frame of being a high value man. You will not compromise. You have integrity, standards, and hold yourself to them even if that means that you're single (which, frankly, is the preferred state of life for me).
-It sets the frame that YOU'RE the one selecting, not her. She's the one that has to get you not the other way around.
-It makes her compete with girlfriends from your past that she makes up in her head. She thinks to herself, I like him, he's picky, I'm sure he's had a lot of options with women (I mean he's awesome, which is WHY I like him), a guy like him has probably dated a lot of beautiful women (you know because I'M a beautiful woman), and he and I are spending time together, we're having drinks, we're fucking, we're playing cards, whatever so that must mean that I'M BETTER THAN THOSE OTHER GIRLS. I WIN!!!!
-Finally, with women, brevity is king. Two little words. "I'm picky." It leaves a lot to the imagination. It gets her thinking. It makes you seem mysterious. It projects value. You don't apologize for being single and having standards, that's just the way it is. Women respect that type of mentality.
This is a serious question on her part and I think you have to calibrate with a serious answer. "I'm picky" is that answer. Now chances are pretty high that she'll ask you WHY you're picky or WHAT does that mean. Now, this is the time to blunt the conversation with humor. A typical conversation:
HB Unknown: "How are you still single?"
Bull Run: "I'm picky."
HB Unknown: "What do you mean by that?"
Bull Run: "There aren't many women that have at least 10 tats, have 5% body fat, stay young looking forever, are willing to stay home all day and care for my kids while I go out on a 4 day bender with the guys, can cook, and will give a blow job on command. They're just hard to find..." Then, you sigh and smile. She'll laugh or call you an ass (which is good), then you're off to a different subject. You basically told her, without telling her, to keep her nose our of your past and that you'll tell her what you want to tell her when you want to tell her. This will make her pussy wet.
This is what a man does. The woman asks stupid questions. He gives an honest, short answer and does not elaborate. She probes him. He uses his wit to tell her to shut the fuck up, without saying "shut the fuck up." She gets the hint. He moves on to another topic. She can't wait to fuck him. Done.
You're welcome.
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by Guest » Fri Jan 21, 2011 4:49 pm
Gotta agree with the Bull here. And Yes, after thinking long and hard about this subject I have to agree "I'm Picky" is no doubt the golden answer to the question. I appreciate the responses but will no doubt put that one into my repertoire.
I am glad you threw out the explanation Bull Run. I think that will help a lot of people see why it is such a great response.
I am glad you threw out the explanation Bull Run. I think that will help a lot of people see why it is such a great response.
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