Is the Community a primary or secondary group for you?

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A Primary group is a small social group whose members share personal and lasting relationships. Whose members typically spend great deals of time with each other and engage in a wide arrange of activities, and typically feel the know each other pretty well.

A Secondary group is a large and impersonal social group whose members pursue a specific goal or activity. I most cases relationships are weak emotional ties and little personal knowledge of one another where they begin and end with little significance.

Groups are always structured like this. It could be a group at the office where you are closer to your departments employees and everyone else in the company is just someone you know, or at the gym where you always workout with the same people and while you may know others names you don't have a vested interest.

Chances are there is a small group within the community you feel more associated with and you consider these people a primary group. Whereas the rest of the community holds little in terms of sway or emotion for you. This concept can also be used in game or in set.

A secondary question is: When interacting with people in public, do you try and pursue a primary relationship first or a secondary relationship when first meeting someone?

Most times, when people first start pick up, an aspiring PUA will try and immediately establish commonalities with a prospective pull/set. While this is necessary, there is a certain way to go about doing so and contrary to popular belief it is not on the first onset of meeting someone.

When out "gaming" having you ever analyzed how you approach a "set"? Usually it is best and less creepy to approach the set as a secondary group because who wants to be the guy that goes into a group and acts like he knows everyone? If you go in with secondary group notions and then have your "routines" or off the cuff game set to transform it really fast into a primary group game will flow a lot smoother.

When you take a macro-level group theory approach instead of the micro-level approach commonly associated with game, you'll find it's easier to manipulate frames, thus controlling the interaction, you'll find you have less trouble coming up with something to say and thus the conversation flows smoother and has a more natural tone to it, and the over all in-congruence factor is extremely diminished and you seem more congruent to others.

The way you take a macro level vs. micro level position is ask yourself 1 key question: Is how I am acting/What I am doing, fitting into a macro or micro level? (based on the above definitions.) (and then compare it to the situation and environment.)