Dallas PUA

I know many in the community are adverse to getting into a LTR but my ultimate goal is to get married and have a family so it is what I am hoping to eventually achieve.

All that being said, I have been in many LTRs over the years and they all have ended for one reason or another.

With my last LTR, she asked me to go to couple's counseling to work on our issues together. Counseling helped me realize that she wasn't the one for me but also helped me recognize some of the foibles I had stepped into with past relationships. The counselor recommended a book that I have found to have a profound perspective. I highly recommend that anyone who has been in a LTR or wants to get into a LTR read this book. "Hold Me Tight: Seven Converstations..."

Sounds interesting. What are these 7 conversations about?

from bn.com

[QUOTE][B]Synopsis[/B]

Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and companionship. But sometimes we need a little help.

Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Johnson shares her groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships.

The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. Dr. Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship - from Recognizing the Demon Dialogues to Forgiving Injuries - and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations. These conversations give you insight into the defining moments in your relationship and guide you in reshaping these moments to create a secure and lasting bond.
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thanks for this info.

will check this book out.

I encourage you to go to therapy by yourself as well...I've been doing that recently and it's been very eye opening. So much so in fact that I'm in the process of making HUGE changes in my life that I was unwilling to make until recently...

Saw a different counselor who recommended the same book. Amazing! Anyone who is struggling in their relationship should check this book out

[QUOTE=Twitchy;32962]Saw a different counselor who recommended the same book. Amazing! Anyone who is struggling in their relationship should check this book out[/QUOTE]

i'm ordered it and just started...will report back

Wish I had know about this book a few months ago maybe I could have turned things around in my last LTR.

Damn jast, havent seen you in a while.

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Yeah I have a tendency to fall off the map once I get in to a LTR something I really need to change. After this last one I don’t think it well be a problem for awhile. [/FONT][/COLOR]