Dallas PUA

So there is this girl that I have been talking to. I haven't really run any game on her, I have just been myself and let it play out naturally, and it is/was working good. Met her on fb and she is really physically attracted to me and I am kinda disinterested in her but think it amps her attraction towards me and now I am kinda thinking she could be a possible fbuddy or summer fling.

We have been texting all day and she told me this: "I don't think Im ever going to be over Jockthatgraduatedthesameyearasme, well not completely I guess. Idk.. I don't know what I want anymore lol. He is still a huge part of my life and always will be. He is one of the reasons Im going to A&M,, and the only reason we ended things is bc he left for school but things are kinda the same I just don't get to see him as often"

I kinda went AFC on this and told her she seems kinda cool and I would like to get to know her still.

She said "I wanna get to know you too but I couldnt promise anything bc of the situation"

I said "Well let's just keep getting to know each other and whatever happens, happens." Then she agreed and I stopped texting her.

Here is how I perceive the situation: She is "in love" with Jockthatgraduatedthesameyearasme and wants to see him everytime he comes down to Rockwall. He lives wherever A&M, which is 3 hrs away and she goes down there sometimes she says. Ok looks like they are trying to keep whatever they had alive, that's fine, but I also know all girls will cheat under the right circumstances. I don't even think her doing stuff with me would be cheating as long as I keep the emotional part away from it and keep it physical, but that'd be quite the struggle because girls are so emotional. We have had "text sex" within the last week. I honestly just want a summer fling with this girl. I will talk to other girls and she can see Jockthatgraduatedthesameyearasme as much as she wants. The thing is, if I know Jockthatgraduatedthesameyearasme, I know he is cheating on her. Honestly, for the most part, long distance relationships like the one she shares with him do not work and I do not see it working.

Ok so now for the questions.
What do I need to do to set up a summer fling with this girl? I really do not want to use a boy friend destroyer because I do not agree with stealing her from this guy, if it comes between me and him I would tell her to chose him. I don't care about her enough to do a bf destroy. Is there a way I can see her w/o getting in between her and her "relationship"? This guy is considerably bigger than me, at least twice my weight, and I want to avoid confrontation at all costs lol.

We are going on a "date" Wednesday, possibly tomorrow too, and I am going to push the kino heavily, try for a kclose.



What're your thoughts on this?
I would prefer to stay away from "blah blah blah drop that hoe! shes not worth it" because while I agree, I also think something physical between me and her would be fun this summer. She is kinda cute. Between HB7 and HB8.

Interesting...

You said that you don't want to use a boyfriend destroyer because you do not agree with stealing her from her 'guy,' yet you are willing to have a summer fling with her?

That's bad logic. Seriously.

Having said that, I wouldn't even mention the other guy. It's of no concern to you. If she starts talking about him to you, just change the subject. If you let her, she'll immediately begin to think of you as a girlfriend.

Young girls are tricky because they have the handicaps of being emotionally charged (hormones), irrational (they are women), and completely and totally stupid with respect to how the world works (young girls are some of the most naive creatures on the planet).

The fact that she's off to college this Fall works in your favor because she's not going to be at all concerned with maintaining her social status to carry over into the next school year. So, she's going to be more willing to do things that she may not otherwise have done...i.e. have a fling with a random dude (you).

Of course, he's down there and she's up here so that helps you. Proximity is a killer.

He's probably playing the field down there. She may or may not know this, I don't know. If she doesn't know it and she finds out, guess who she's going to fuck?

On the other hand, she's got it in her head that when she goes to A&M this Fall that her and her ex, or whatever he is, will get back together. You know, the fairytale ending. The more she denies this, the more she believes it but doesn't want to get her hopes up.

Another disadvantage is her mental and sexual maturity. Most women don't learn how to have a purely casual, sexual relationship until they get to college. It's one of the rites of passage that they go through while they're there.

I would also not give her a very high priority in my carousel of women. By that I mean that you need to devote your time and energy to more viable candidates. I would simply consider her a 'side project.' By doing this, you're going to appear to be aloof and not interested in emotional connection...she may very well come to you with such a game plan.

But, when you're with her, here's how I would play it. Set the frame that you're not looking for anything serious. Just some fun and a great, casual summer (you've done this already). When you're with her, you have to make it abundantly clear that you want her to view you as a sexual partner. So, I would give her the full court press. The first thing you do when you see her is break the touch barrier with a hug. If she starts talking about her BF, just change the subject. If she keeps it up, comment on some hot chick you just saw OR make it obvious that you're not listening and you're checking out some hottie. Don't spend too much time on her. You could easily waste the entire summer and not get any play.

If she ever asks what are you looking for. Make sure you say you have no interest in a relationship. This will make her feel at ease as she probably doesn't want to start anything major either. Girls love it when you say that.

This chick is into you it seems and she is looking for something/someone to take her mind off of her BF. You are that person.

I respect how you feel about the BF destroyer. I personally think that is admiral and I feel the same way you do about the situation. I don't think it is necessary here to use one. Even if it was if you need a BF destroyer to get a girl you should move on.

I would start kino with the guy handshake. You when you give your buddy sorta like a mix between a handshake and a five. Then if you want you can pull her into you and give her a side hug. This way you don't come off as needy.

Goodluck

alright so hanging out today couldn't happen. tomorrow we are seeing a movie. it should be ok if i just grab her hand to hold when she gets there right? i am a little nervous about Kino, but i think that'll show alpha-ness. its either that or i get it all awkward and grab her hand in the movie. your thoughts?

btw i'm typing this on my phone and am too lazy to hit the shift button. sorry about the lack of capital letters

I'd avoid grabbing her hand in the movie. Do it before.

Why a movie bro?

There has got to be something else fun to do during the Summer...

Don't be afraid to kino. If you're afraid it comes off as creepy. If you're uncomfortable, it comes off as awkward. Your reality is her reality.

PS, it's good to think about stuff but don't put TOO much thought into what you intend to do. Just calm down and go with the flow.

A movie because Rockwall just plain sucks lol. Probably movie and ice cream. Definitely not a pick up artists idea of a "date" but it is all there is in Rockwall.

I will just kino kino kino. Seems from what I have read that you rarely push kino too far, if you are calibrated(correct use of words?).

We are seeing a chick flick, Ghost of Girl Friends Past, because I personally do not care what we see and she really wants to see this movie.

A girl I am friends with has told me before that chick flicks are like porn for women. It kind of makes sense to me because they usually have wide ranges of emotions: fear of loss, excitement, anger, pity maybe, sweet-ness, love and many more. Now obviously if I was watching a porno with a chick and she grabs my dick in the middle of it and starts rubbing it I am going to like pounce on her and it will be on like Donkey Kong, but is there any possible way I can use watching a chick flick with a girl to my advantage? That might be kind of a long shot thought, but I think if a woman that I did not want to fuck put on a porno than that would be a huge advantage to her. I am not expecting much to happen in the movie, just maybe there is some anchoring I could do during the movie. For instance maybe I could squeeze her hand during all of the positive parts in the movie and then when I do it outside of the movie she will associate positive feelings to that. Idk.

I don't think that women react to chick flicks the same way a man reacts to porn.

doesn't rockwall hold some kind of thursday public outdoor concerts? In fact i think i'm going this thursday.

perfect outing

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I don't think that women react to chick flicks the same way a man reacts to porn.
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Well, they get all emotional and shit. I have read many a time that "emotional is better than horny for women". Idk I just thought there might be something I could do during the movie. Never heard of a chick flick being used to your advantage but can't hurt to ask :)










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doesn't rockwall hold some kind of thursday public outdoor concerts? In fact i think i'm going this thursday.

perfect outing
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YES! As a matter of fact I am thinking of asking this same chick to be there so we can hang out Thursday too!


Are you sarging? I have been wanting to sarge there but have only opened a few sets there, but I think it is a good place to sarge. I haven't exactly asked any of the girls there age but there seems to be tons of 16 and 17 yr olds. Lots of parents. Maybe a lot of single moms. Idk lol. You should try it out. If you are sarging I will find something outrageous(but still cool) to wear so you will be able to recognise me.