Questions about Valentine's Day and a response to DTR

[Guest]

I have been out with this girl 5 times (will be 6 tomorrow) and we are still in the undefined stage. I am not going to bring up "the talk" I plan on letting her do that.

However, Valentine's Day is next week (either Fri or Sat) and I feel as though I am in an awkward position. Should I ask her to do something that day if we are still undefined and if so I feel like I should keep it pretty low key. What would you all do in this situation?

Also, if and when this girl brings up "the talk" I am slightly unsure of my response. I am probably overthinking things but I am so used to FBs that just agreeing that we should date seems odd. In other words, I suspect it will go something like this:

Her: "So, we have been hanging out a lot"
Me: "Yeah we have, it is fun"
Her: "Where do you see this going?"

Here I have 2 options: I can be honest and tell her I want to date her or I can play coy and put it back on her. Any thoughts?

[Guest]

Good question... I wonder how many pua-relationships valentine's day has killed. Cuz if you don't take her out, she may second guess it... and if you do, then she'll probably wanna have the talk.

I would say you should definitely be low-key if you try to impress her that is more likely to build her interest in a real relationship.

I'm sure others may have better advice, but I am thinking you just got to say you don't know where it's going, but you like her, you're having fun and you want to see where it leads, but you're not sure you're ready for anything too serious... pretty much the traditional answer for this question :)

[Guest]

I'd just get her a rose tied to a balloon. Maybe order some Pei Wei and take it back to your place for a movie. Something low key definitely.....But just enough specialness so she can tell her friends how great you are. Silly hookers!

For damn sure no $100 Dozen roses bullshit.

I think its always smart to try and keep your cards close to your chest with these girls. I'd leave a little mystery out there to help keep her interest and the fact that you are still a challenge. She still needs to prove herself to you before you show any sort of commitment to her. 6 dates is still pretty early.

I was presented with this same situation a few weeks ago and kind of kicked myself afterwards. I realized that I got a touch needy and signed myself up for a little commitment. Afterwards I thought, what was the point in that. This verbal commitment wasn't going to change anything between us at that stage. It was just going to create a warm and fuzzy feeling, thats about it.

So if I was in your shoes and you want this girl, then tell her you like what you've seen out of her so far and hope to see more. Its positive, tells her you are interested, and kind of dangles the carrot out in front of her. Keep her working for you! And best of all you aren't signing up for anything you don't need to sign up for!