Sexual Tension

[Guest]

Just wondering if you guys can explain it and say how to build it.

Here is what I currently think it is, tell me if I am correct or not.



You act like you are about to kiss her, you tease her with it. You don't actually give her the kiss(right away), you go in for it and pull away. You make her want it. Say "I wish I could kiss you, I really want to, but my mom won't let me til I'm married."

or

You tell her to sit on her hands because she is looking at you like you are a huge ice cream cone and she just wants to lick you up and down. It would make you feel better if she sat on her hands. Now go sexual in conversation. She will want to use her hands when she talks, but she can't because she is sitting on them. She kinda feels repressed and tied up. Then after a few min, tell her thanks for sitting on her hands, you feel a lot more comfortable now.

What IS sexual tension and how is it created?

[Guest]

Wasn't explained too well in person...but anyway, a simplified version is to get the target to think sexually about you and then not follow through with that she is planning on you doing?

[Guest]

Just/Us

Sexual Tension is huge. It's hard to quantify it in a post. There are SO many ways to build it that it's hard to pin down. It can be numerous things. Some things I do early to build some tension.

-playful ass spanks. I do this all the time, very often very early in an interaction. (Caveat: you have to do this with good BL and confidence or you will/can get blown out)
-once you're in conversation in set, a little lingering eye gaze, or bedroom eyes type of thing
-if it's a loud bar, brush their hair away from their ear, but hold it back and graze their neck and hold it, whisper to them and then go back to normal conversation.
- If i'm on a day 2 i tell them ...don't look at my ass... when i go to the bathroom (go first and SET THE FRAME for this). When they get up I tell them..."good ...now i'm going to look at your ass. ;) ) Spank it for good measure.

man there are tons of these. These are just quick example. it's a huge topic...and just requires developing a feel for.

so what is it? it's escalating sexually in a way that is subtle and/or at a place it can't be continued at that time. It's a way to be planting those seeds, but yet doesn't escalate defenses in your target since she doesn't need true LMR. It's playful banter. It's exuding confidence in your sexuality and being comfortable with her sexuality.

[Guest]

sexual tension just exists. if it seems to be absent, then you have bff'd the situation. sexual tension can be amplified and muffled. Those techniques bring it to the foreground. Its a matter of finding the appropriate times to stimulate that tension. So the real question should be "when and where do I account for sexual tension?"

[Guest]

Here is my take.

If you are sleeping with the girl already then sexual tension probably doesn't exist. If you are building anything it is horniness.

With that said I believe for the most part sexual tension involves a girl who you HAVEN'T slept with. Since this is the case there is going to always be this question of curiosity. Attraction has already been built and is still increasing. You have not plateaued by any means. A cross between comfort and attraction continues to increase while this sexual tension is increasing as well.

Yes you will do and say things during this time period. Depending on the setting it can and should be sexual. It can be sexual undertones as well.

I could go in like I am about to kiss her and then just go right to the side of her head and smell her hair. I would be discreet about the smelling of the hair but I would still be doing that motion while giving her hair a slight tug. Then push her away telling her to get away from me.

We can go on and on with techniques here. I'm sure we can get an awesome list going.

But to define your question.

Sexual tension is a way of bringing her WANT FOR SEX or more importantly HER WANT FOR YOU up to an extremely high level. It will and should eliminate all LMR since she is wanting it just as bad as you. It makes sex an almost given. And it no doubt heightens attraction.

Enough ramblings from a madman at 4:30 AM.