Hitting the Inner Game Rock-bottom

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I write this post to yall only because I dearly respect every last one of you...knowing that the things I will right...will be well heard by everyone of you because everyone has had horrible inner game..if not..then you wouldnt be on this site....

Guys...i have hit rock bottom..in my head atleast...this has prolly been one of the worst years of my life..why you ask..well lets recap the fucked up things that have happened to me when I got out of the Navy 13 months ago shall we...


-found out my girlfriend was cheating on me while I was on my second 6 month deployment..PicturePerfect..you should know what a deployment is like...not only was she cheating on me, but the dude she was with gave her cervical cancer..

I started my online gaming quest with Hotornot.com...which i was on during my military career...all horrible horrible connections in Cali
so i started it here with that site...and other such sites as myspace...facebook, eharmony, Jdate..u name it....banged a few chicks that never got higher than a HB5...until i met this one girl from montana that was a legit HB8...thought we were in love...when she came here...reality soon kicked in and found out almost immediatly that we were definteily not meant for each other...which hurt me even more..


I bought my dream car in Febuary...a 2002 Lexus IS300 with the money i saved up from the deployment...I then got in a HUGE wreck this past August which totalled it completely...did not have full coverage on it...so lost that in a blink of an eye..good thing about that...no one got hurt

This past summer i thought i found my dream job as insurance salesman at Northwestern Mutual...i thought since its all about going out meeting people..it could help me out with my inner game for PUA stuff...but never went out and gamed..cause you know..i have horrible inner game...so didnt work out...i really do not have to work cause im getting my GI BIll and unemployment...anyways

I met this other girl on the internet...i bang her once in September...regreted it since she was a HB4 but needed to lay someone...two weeks later..she tells me she is pregnant...I stressed to her that she needed to get an abortion...I felt sick for feeling this way..felt sick that i wanted to kill my own offspring...but with all the stress that was put on to her..she had a miscarriage...never talked to her again...

Through two semesters at school...there were atleast 10-12 different girls i was interested in...but was put right in the friend zone...as you all can recall...i was the one that was posting advise about gaming these girls at school...well...nothing ever happende with any of these girls...I am also stressing over some of these girls because the AFC in me completely dominates the PUA in me...I feel that bad luck travels with me like a shadow...everygirl i try to game is either taken...or just getting more an EX...

I started getting into PUA ever since the first Pick up Artist season aired...i then read The Game...I spent like over 2 grand on Mysteries DVDs...(if anyones wants them...ill let you borrow it for free) the info on there is absolutely amazing...my results? Nothing..Why? Never went out...Why? Horrible Inner Game...When i did go out...id number close here and there...I had a make out close once...but did i open any of these sets? nope..Why? horrible Inner Game....have I opened any set with any opener? nope...why? horrible Inner Game....Everyone knows that frozen feeling going into a social gathering...that feeling that a shell is like..created over you and is afraid to do anything...why do i feel this? Horrible inner game...I feel the AA mainly because...i dunno...im afraid to get laughed at by other girls..and guys too...looking down on me and my lame attempt to pick up a beautiful girl...I know deep down inside I should not feel this way....I know deep down inside Id make an amazing pick up artist...i know its not the looks that kill me...i feel that i am a very good looking guy...but i like the little things bother me...ie I am short..I am skinny..I weight no more that 130 lbs
...someone might ask me...if this is eating you up so much...why still stress over it?...that is because i WANT to be a PUA...not for finding that special someone just yet...but for the sport of pick up...to feel accomplished in something that EVERY man wants to accomplish...to be successful with women...so why do i not go to the community gatherings? Horrible Inner game...will i ever change...yes i will...i feel that once i break that shell thats over me...i can become one the better PUA's in this wonderful city...not to take away anything for ya'll...i consider everyone here equals...i believe not one man is better than the next...working as a team is so much better than doin it solo...especially in Pick up...

So...all in all...i have a up hill battle in my quest to conquer my inner game...becausei like i said..i hit the Inner Game Rock bottom...i know you all feel me...and i know you all will support me...the next community event...ill try to be there...if i am not there...and you ask...'Gunner..why werent you there???'...Horrible..well you know what...

Keep it real in the hood homeys...

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You mention inner game a lot. That's fine, that may well be a big part of the problem, BUT I would say don't focus on it so much. If you focus your energy on negative inner game, it will get worse. Instead visualize a positive future and focus on what you are going to do to get there. I think that would be a healthy start

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Self Doubt

You sir need to erase this. And yeah sure I just throw it out there like it is easy or something. It isn't but you can if you try. It will take time. But start with trying to block any self doubt out of your head.

I will tell you a little story.

I started dating this girl. I will call her an HB9. She is by far the best looking girl I have gotten. I will look at her and her body and just be like whoah why the fuck is she with me. I don't have a nice body. How could she like me. See that is the homo inside of me coming out. The little guy in my head throwing out that self doubt.

After a few seconds of these thoughts I start to think about why she is with me. Then I realize whoah wait a minute I am a pretty damn good catch.

Feeling sorry for yourself will do you no good I can promise you that. You need to change your mindset. Just look at all your positives you have. And if that doesn't help just go to Walmart or something and look at all the people walking around who have it worse than you do.

Be Thankful...

- Erase your self doubt
- Change your mindset
- Your inner game will blossum
- Your confidence will rise
- Your results will improve

From here it should snowball.

If you do decide to come out I don't think any of the guys at the meet up will bite. And seeing others and talking to them who have a similar mindset will really help you. I was a little scared going to the first meet up. Yeah sure it was akward at first. But that went away pretty freaking quick.

Good Luck

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no where to go but up then.

I lurked for a long time before heading out to meet up. There's some good guys in this lair, and look forward to the nights out. Just make that next step.

Hope to meet up with you at the next addison one(i'm too far from the bedford/FW meetup nights and enjoy too many tasty beverages to make those)

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You know what I bet your problem is... You are trying to tackle way to many parts of your game at one time. Start by just breaking your AA, approach strangers, just talk to people without getting numbers. Then start on learning how to plow. Then get # closing. Then get kino involved. Learn your day2. Don't think of PUA as a holistic endeavor because its not. You know how they say the best defense is a good offense?

THE BEST INNER GAME IS A GOOD OUTER GAME.
and vice versa.
but until you get your outer game solid, you have to fake it. learn the routines and theories behind them.

If you truly think that you hit rock bottom then you can only go up from here, man. Living in depression sucks. Try to think positively. You just mentioned all your negative shit, and look around you. You are safe, sheltered, healthy, and a PUA. Damnit man you have quite a lot to live for.

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Gunner, I see potential in you.......

First, you've realized that there are some "points" you can improve upon. And second, if you are at the bottom it can only get better! They didn't build Rome in a day and there isn't a guy out there who turned into some PUA super star overnight. Take a look at your military career and I bet the most successful servicemen were those who had a strong inner game and projected confidence.

Everybody here will help you out, thats what this brotherhood is all about. Decide what it is you first want to start working on and don't bite off too much.

One of the first things I did was start approaching random old people at the store. They are easy to approach and usually delighted that you opened them. Helped me break down anxiety.

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Thanks guys..I really appreciate the support...I do realize that the inner game is controlable...i know that I can be a great pua..and have greatt inner game if i choose too..and now i def. feel like the freinds i have around me...are guys i really dont trust as wingmen....so i do need a new set of a sociall circle...why not be of the guys that has the same common goal...so ya'll should be seeing more of me...i wanna learn it all...i wanna be good at this..and i know i can be good...cause i will admit...I am..currently...a keyboard jockey..i know alot of the thoeries and the steps of attraction and comfort...but when i am thrown into a situation...i will not perform...so...i need ot get this inner game taken care of..its just a matter of time i guess

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Gunny, sounds like u are on the right path Bro'. You recognize where u need some assistance. Think positive like all say. Be open to learning from EXPERIENCE. Hang out with the right "social circle " of new friends u just mentioned. We are all here for the same purpose, and most have come from where u are now. Dont be shy about hitting up "friends" for help. We've all been there. Friends help u thru your shit man. Thats what they do.

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Yea that pretty much is the definition of friendship...and the friends i do have right now at the moment...have HORRIBLE wingmenship, and for the position i am in rightn now...i need a strong wing base..im an EXCELLENT wing...i just can never GET winged back u kno?..it needs to be mutual

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Hey yall...after reading this post...i do regret putting it up for the simple fact that im not depressed like it seems...i just had a rough couple weeks...ill be at dukes tonight to finally meet all yall...gotta see the pros work it!