Text convo

[Guest]

Alright, So this is a convo I had with a girl earlier through text messages. There are a few shit tests in here and I was wondering if I handled em correctly. Feel Free to comment and give advice if so inclined.


her: hey sexy
me: hey! What have you been up to?
her: nothing you? I really really really wanna see you
me: I want to see you too...Only thing is im a bit sick right now, sneezing, sore throat. Im sure you dont want my cooties...
her: haha I wouldn't care! I never get sick. You could be all over me and nothing would happen. Its been a year since I have been sick.
me: oh, bad girl! haha you are naughty. Well when are you free this week in the evening/night?
her: All. Haha. Depends.
me: depends huh? Well why dont you let me know when you are and we will have some fun ;)
her: I didnt say fun! haha maybe cuddle but remember Im no fun
me: ha, ya you are right, you are no fun, you are boring! How could I forget?
her: okay then. I guess we wont hang
me: haha! liar. You know you want to see me more than anything.
her: Maybe. But you dont wanna
me: I dont wanna what? See me. You are not making much sense, I see myself everyday.
her: No you dont wanna see me
me: No, I said I'll give you a chance as long as you're not too boring.
her: define boring
me: Well im at work now so I dont have a dictionary with me, but I could look it up when I get home.
her: omg ur a dork! You dont want me :(
me: That is so rude, you just called me a dork. Thats like the 48th thing you need to make up to me!
her: No! You're so mean to me. You need to make it up to me. You're breaking my heart.
me: I don't call you mean names like dork. That hurt my feelings. You owe me like 45.23 times more than I owe you...and you know it. dont lie!
her :( Im sad
me: Well you should cheer up, its a sunny day. And you might get the chance to see me soon...there is a long waiting list for that!
her: Oh im sure

[Guest]

Low self-esteem she is

[Guest]

fishing for compliments she is

[Guest]

IMHO,

You first made her uncomfortable with the overt sexual suggestions and then overnegged when she gave a bad response... If you just were cool, vibed a bit, etc, it could have been better. You don't always have to play AGAINST the girl, maybe try playing WITH her at your game.

Because dude she seems aLL OVER YOU at first, all you had to do assuming you do want to meet up with her is just... be normal. You know? 2c

EDIT: although I think this girl is still gonna wanna meet up... haha I agree with the others above

[Guest]

I don't think he went too sexual. She was actually feeding to it. She just wanted more princess ego stroking

[Guest]

yep, she was already given you massive IOI. all you had to do was lead and set the meetup, but instead put a hoops out for her to jump through, and some mistimed C&F attempt at the end after she's already given IOIs

a lot of those techniques are to generate initial attraction. after you have that, you need to calibrate a little better...

good luck, hope you can still keep her... let us know!

[Guest]

I think you handled it pretty damn well for a newbie. Alot better than most that have not been in the game long. Honestly... She was definately wning you to stroke her ego everytime she said I'm sad or you don't want to see me, you don't like me. She kept wanting you to say, "I DO wanna see you" or "I DO like you". Yo did great by not giving her what she wanted.

I also think that you kept up the thread with her a little too long though without setting something in stone.

That is definately a fuck if you just continue to do whatever you did to build her attraction for you to begin with.

Keep it up buddy...

[Guest]

agree, just lead, she already told you she wants your penis. give it to her. be a man, drop the bit, and set the time up. She wont flake.

[Guest]

thanks for the info guys. Was I wrong to assume that the "I didnt say fun! haha maybe cuddle but remember Im no fun" and the "okay then. I guess we wont hang" statements were shit tests? I figured they were, thats why I went to the c&f.

[Guest]

First one I definately don't think was one. Second one possibly was but I am moreso getting the impression that she just is a woman of low self-esteem and is wanting validation, for you to stoke her a little...