Count their blinks
Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 4:11 pmThis is from a book I'm reading "How to Talk to Anyone"
"A Boston center conducted a study to learn the precise effect. The researchers asked opposite-sex individuals to have a two minute casual conversation. They tricked half their subjects into maintaining intense eye contact by directing them to count the number of times their partner blinked. They gave the other half of the subjects no special eye-contact directions for the chat.
When they questioned the subjects afterward, the unsuspecting blinkers reported significantly higher feelings of respect and fondness for their colleagues who, unbeknownst to them, had simply been counting their blinks."
I just read it but visualized doing it and when I did I noticed I blinked less myself :)
PS - This book also confirmed the slow smile study posted the other day.
"A Boston center conducted a study to learn the precise effect. The researchers asked opposite-sex individuals to have a two minute casual conversation. They tricked half their subjects into maintaining intense eye contact by directing them to count the number of times their partner blinked. They gave the other half of the subjects no special eye-contact directions for the chat.
When they questioned the subjects afterward, the unsuspecting blinkers reported significantly higher feelings of respect and fondness for their colleagues who, unbeknownst to them, had simply been counting their blinks."
I just read it but visualized doing it and when I did I noticed I blinked less myself :)
PS - This book also confirmed the slow smile study posted the other day.