What to do with the ex...

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[size=15] So let me just tell you the whole situation and then let me know how you would respond. I broke up with my ex a month ago. We dated for 6 months and had great sex, but the chemistry for a long term relationship just isn't there. The last week she had been trying to contact me via email and i responded politely. Just today she asked if i wanted to get together and just hang out and i agreed. I was getting a new dining table and used that as an excuse to get her over to my place. She showed up around 5 and started drinking. She was dressed in pajama shorts and one of those "University of Pink" shirts girls are wearing right now. Obviously she wasnt' dressing up for me right? She suggested going to a bar for drinks which we did and later had drunken mexican food. She drove me back to my place where i thought it would continue but she said she was gonna go home. I didn't want to argue the point so i thanked her and said good night. Now... what do i do with the ex? I obviously dont want to get back together but i wouldn't mind a late night rendevoux now and then. How should i approach this situation? Oh and she mentioned that she had no plans Tuesday night. Thank you everyone in the community for the advice.[/size]

[Guest]

Ex's can be tricky man. She came over most likely to guage some feelings she still carries for you or honestly she may have just wanted to get laid, but you failed to initiate. Either way it doesnt matter what she thinks. It's what you want right?

You say you want to have her on the line for a lil bootycall action every now and then. Chances are of that happening for any extended amount of time will probably be small. Ex's make difficult bootycalls as far as consistency. So you just need to decide what you want. If you want to lay her Tues night then replay Sunday's scenario but then do more than suggest sex. She's you're ex right. I'm sure there's lil things she does that turn you on so accuse her of doing that and then caveman her. Honestly my experience tells me that in that type of situation, women just wanna be fucked, not made love to.

So if it's friendship you want then go out and enjoy her company and part ways at the end of the night. But if you wanna some action then throw her against a wall and make her remember why she came over in the first place. ; )

[Guest]

more like you want to get back together, but you're kidding yourself. Just find another chick, there are millions out there.

What do you do with the X? Easy, find another chick and if she needs you, she can chase you down.

[Guest]

What everybody else has offered is good advice. I imagine you still have some feelings for her. The more time that goes by, the less likely you'll want to have sex with her. You'll figure out that there are lots more girls to play with like Isoc Cheese said.

However, if you still want to try and have sex, I'd put her on IGNORE the next time she tries to contact you. Make her work for you, not you working for her. Thats the only way it works with these silly hookers. Then when you do hook up again, take her out to some place she's never been, tell her all the right bullshit, get some liquor in her, then get her back to your place, rip your shirt off and go after her.