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dammit!...i thought that id get over having a one-ities but this girl i met in my class that sits next to me is sooooooooooo hot and just my type...AND shes from Ukraine...and what did Hugh Heftner say about Ukraine women???...they are the hottest women in the world!! and on top of that im russian too...so its really pissing me off that i put myself in such a emotional state with her knowing that she has a BF...but with the convo we had...it seems like they will not last long....I could ask yall what I can do to steal her away, but i dont wanna be evil about that and produce sometype of hurt for her even tho ill be her savor lol....or i can not be SO GOD DAMN AFC about it and move on to bigger and better things like a PUA is supposed to do, but damn guys...i know all of yall had the one-ities before...the one girl that you look at be like DAMN! I WANT THAT!

I know yall will prolly tell me to get her out of my mind and stop being a chode and get the next girl but my emotional circuitry is still not strong enough to get over her and move on....i guess i just need to work on the most important part of PU....inner game....my god i need to work on my inner game...i have the knowledge of being the best PUA...but with a weak inner game...i cant do shit...it sucks and hopefully one day...i can walk into ANY social gathering...and be the man...cause i know deep down...i can be that person. Like always guys i cant thank yall enough to have this forum so i can vent and get advice from the best PUAs in Dallas! respect

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Same girl as that "classroom sets" thread, eh? :)

You don't study music theory and piano techniques for one day and expect to win Van Cliburn. You can't read one book about fitness and expect to look like a bodybuilder. Likewise you can't get the ability to get a really high-quality girl by posting one post.

I think you've nailed it, man. You need to work on who you are before you worry about who you're going to get. Friend her, get comfortable talking with her, meet other women, and who knows she might just change her mind about you later.

Or you can go ahead and pursue her against our advice. Even if you do get shot down, it's no big deal. Just more motivation to work harder to become who you want to be. No one ever changes unless they get hurt really badly. Just make sure her bf's not a triad or something

Good luck!

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inner game rocks... it is paying dividends for me at the moment and well worth the investment... if your inner game is on, you will naturally act in a way that's congruent to a lot of the PUA stuff

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Just talk to her. And don't put her on a pedestal. and pay attention to the signals she gives you. and by all means pursue other women....just think of her as a work in progress.

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Oh yeah, also, don't get pissed off or upset at yourself. Just take it as it comes, be happy, be cool. Don't beat yourself up for doing AFC things, just remember not to do them next time.

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I'll say it again: RELAX

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Rembrandt has the right idea.

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Study hard in your class and make the best grade.
Focus in your class... you already paid a bunch of money to get educated.

Please correct me if I am wrong.... But you can show your passion for hard work and success in class... and it will be attractive to her.. along with the right PUA skills.

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No offense Imager, but she won't give a rats ass if he does well in school. When I was in college I used to be covert about my grades, especially in my core classes (which had the same people in them throughout college). Everyone thought I was big fucking idiot because I'd show up either drunk, hungover, or drinking in class. Senior year it came out that I was routinely the best student in these classes, and generally responsible for blowing the curve. Everyone was pretty shocked. Point is that girls didn't like me before and they didn't like me after. It made zero difference to them.

What does however make a difference is being calm and relaxed. Not being intimidated and not being overly aggressive with come ons and such. Sure, girls want a smart guy but if you can't calm down and be yourself then she'll never know because she's not going to pay attention to what your grade was on XYZ paper or exam.

Listen to Vector, just relax. She's just another girl, there are literally millions of them out there. I'd almost treat her as if she were your little sister. Tease her every chance you get, but be funny about it and subcommunicate with body language, tonality, and a smile that you're just kidding. Something I learned about teasing women, they love it but they hate it when you say "I'm just kidding." So tease them but tell them you're kidding through non-verbal cues.

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Easier said than done.
i think i asked bout similar question my last semester of UT back in April... I had a crush on that girl. People told me to be non-reactive and relax and etc. You know these and you heard the experience guys advices, however, u can't help it but still be nervous.

My guess is that you probably won't get this girl. I didn't get my girl either. I am not saying that you won't this girl coz I didn't get mine. I am just sayin from the past experience of similar case. I could be wrong. You might be a lot better than me and be able to get her. However, as long as you have one-itis with her, your chances are slim.

I would like to recommend to work on inner-game.
and again, it is easier said than done. It is hard, but you have to work on ur inner game to bring out the confidence and other edges. Altho, it took few month for me to develop decent inner game... I think inner game is somethin that u figure out in long run... It also has ups and downs. I had 0 confidence when I graduated and moved out of Austin. Until I got my ass up and tried to figure out what the fuck I am doin and who I am.

Update:
what i mean by ups and downs of inner-game is that ur confidence lvl goes up and down by time to time.
I had 0 confidence before I learned about game.
When I was first learning, I had 0 confidence still...
I went out and did few sets and my confidence was little higher, but not too much.
I got involved with austin PUAs, and sarged with them. My confidence gotten higher.
Soon I graduated and moved to Dallas. I beat myself up for not getting the best job out there and living with parents...
I thought myself was not worth to have good times. So I never bothered attending dallas meetings. Confidence lvl = 0 again
I went out to austin and got my old confidence back and more. High confidence.
I have fairly been tryin to maintain that confidence by goin out at least once a week. Monday nights at Finns with u guys.
Confidence lvl right now is not where I would like to be at the end, but lots higher than before. :)
Ups and downs... lots factors are out there to affect your innergame. :o