Important: Text game stages

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So yeah I was wondering and wanted to hear from all of you dallas puas here!!
How's ur text game like? As u know, my text game isn't super strong. It did improve a lot thx to Sal Paradise and others.
However, needs to work on it more.

I usually do few banters and have her laugh. After exchanging 5-10 texts, I try to get her to go out with me. I don't always try to set anything up in a day with texts. I usually text her and wait few days text with random comments and a bit. Then I ask her out. Am I doing this wrong? I mean instead of asking her out with text messages, should I set my goal to get her on the phone ans set up a date? I guess this sounds more reasonable.
I usually say "I'm free thu and sun, come out with me." "I'm goin shopping on wed. Come with me." "I'm going to xx bar, you want in?"
Is few banters not good enough to take her out? wtf seriously. They usually tell me "i got work." "i'm busy those days."

How do you guys work ur texts? Is there steps u guys check and procede foward? Is few banters and askin her out not good enough?
I mean I know I need to work on comforts and rapport a bit more. But yeah, putting them aside...
Let the discussion begin!!

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I look for responsiveness.

For example:

PC: Hi
HB: Hey!

That is a pretty damn good response. So even if I ask her out and she says she is busy I know I can still pursue this later.

Also don't send your first text that is asking them out.

Your first text should be harmless...like: Hey Shy Girl! Hey Dork! Or something like that. Then she can be like hey...then you can be like how are you doing blah blah. I have noticed the results sky rocket when you do that.

When you see guys who post their text game and it looks really good. It is because the girl was into it. Anyone can be good when the girl is way into it.

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Depending on how the close took place, I'll either send a quick smirk-inducing text that night before bed, or the following evening.

If she responds, it has to be hella obvious that she's jonesin' for a bonesin' soon, otherwise I won't text back until the following day.

"Delayed response...I got caught up in *insert cool activity here*. " and normally toss in a small comment about something talked about the night before.

You must keep your texts pretty short...normally about the length of hers, best if slightly shorter. And as all guys here on the forum agree, mirror her response time. You send that delayed response and she takes 2 hours to respond to it? Do the same. Don't respond to a text or two every now and then. Always seem positive and occupied by something else. You're the shit...and people who are the shit are always doing shit.

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I wrote about this a long time ago, got tons of this stuff I've never posted but keep for myself...I suspect we all do:

Texting game is crucial to a PUA because girls never answer their phone any longer. Generally speaking, I only call a girl to get or give directions to their or my place or to a venue. I will however call them at work before I’ll ever call them at home or on their cell. It’s a nice change of pace and catches them off guard, also you have a built in false time constraint, you are at work after all and you should be working (then again I’m writing this at the office so I suppose it’s not totally applicable).

Texting is the preferred method of communication now primarily because we all have busy lives and texting is more convenient. A phone call requires a certain level of time investment that most people simply can’t make. This holds true in the dating world, girls don’t want to be stuck on the phone with some random guy they just met. As a PUA, you have to respect this and act accordingly. So, you’re going to have to tighten up your text game. Based on my experience I’ve crafted some techniques and tactics centered around text game:

1. Time mirroring – This is important to subcommunicate to her that you are a busy person. Essentially the way this works is that you have to mirror the time between your responses to her based on her responses to you. For instance, if it takes her 20 minutes to respond to your text, you should wait AT LEAST 20 minutes to respond to hers. If it takes her 20 minutes to respond to you and you respond within 2 minutes then you look like you’ve got nothing else going on in your life than talking to this girl. It subcommunicates eagerness, desperation, low value (you should be doing something), and that she’s already become a priority in your life.

2. Content mirroring – Similar to time mirroring, content mirroring is when you the length of your responses are similar to hers. If she sends you one sentence, you have to do the same. By sending anything more, it implies that you’re making a bigger investment in her than she is in you. Always, always try to craft shorter messages than her.

3. Thread cutting – This is when you simply drop the thread. You don’t respond to something she said for a couple of hours or a day and when you re-engage in conversation you pick up from where you left off as if you’ve never left. This technique can also be useful as a conversation shifter, you cut the thread, then re-engage with a completely different subject. Again, this technique implies that you’re a busy person, with a lot of social options (i.e. high value), and that she’s not a priority to you just yet but you do want to get to know her.

4. Emoticons – Because texting and e-mails are mediums that lack non-verbal cues such as body language, tonality, and eye contact you have to make sure to point out your tone and emotional state. The only option you have is an emoticon. If you tease her about something, you have to follow it up with a smiley face of some type.

5. Time Bridge – Make sure to bring up things you talked about while you were closing her in person. This helps to spark the way she felt when you were picking her up, it gets her in the state she was in during the pick up (i.e. attracted, enamored, intrigued, etc.). It also subcommunicates that she has at least enough value so that the interaction the two of you had has some level of staying power in your world. I know that seems kind of AFCish but sometimes it’s OK to stroke her ego just a little bit AND this is more of an action ego stroke as opposed to a cheesy verbal ego stroke (i.e. instead of telling her, you showed her).

6. Random Brandon – I came up with this term based on some of the texts I would get from one of the PUAs in Dallas. This guy would send the most random shit. Funny stuff too, the randomness made it funnier actually. And, I’m proud to say that I’ve incorporated this into my text Game. The fact is that you can say just about anything and as long as it’s unique and has some kind of hook the girl will more than likely respond. It’s also good to use as a ‘change up’ while the two of you are throwing ‘fast balls’ during an ongoing text battle. A lot of times you can use this technique as an opener on a dead thread…these openers are what I refer to as What the Fuck Openers and they are scary effective.

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Dammm thx guys these are really GOOD advices!!
I am def. saving yall's responses on my comp. so I can get back to it later and read again if I forget.

Bullrun, i never seen u yet. i want to sarge with u sometime soon man. you seem like an amazing pua.

-sleek

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[quote1218746329=Sleek]Bullrun, i never seen u yet. i want to sarge with u sometime soon man. you seem like an amazing pua.[/quote1218746329]

Thanks bro, but I assure you that I'm not really all that good...if I was, I wouldn't still be here.

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Time Mirroring...

I used to believe so heavily in this...and I still do. I have lately been experimenting with this though.

I had this one girl who would always take FOREVER to respond. Then I would have to take FOREVER to respond to her since I was mirroring. But I decided to give something a try. I started 1/2 mirroring her. She would take 40 minutes to respond I would take 20. And bam all the sudden she would take 20. Then I would reduce that again and bam she would follow suit.

I would only recommend it though if a girl takes forever. If a girl is already responding to you in a timely fashion who cares. But this girl would take anywhere from 30 Min to 2 hours to respond which was just annoying.

If I run into this again I will certainly do the same thing and see what happens.

Content Mirroring:

I have never agreed with this statement. Now sure I want to keep my texts short and to the point but...have you ever heard of the 90/10 rule?

Yeah when you are in field you are basically doing all the work(hopefully it goes to 50/50 quick but not right away). Everything I have seen on text is pretty much the same. You number closed. You send her a text. She responds with something super short. Guess what you have to send something of relevance to continue. So yeah at least in the beginning you are saying way more than she is.

That is what I have seen. That is what I have done. And I don't look back on my text game and be like...fuck...I suck.

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Time Mirroring:

I like that technique. I'm going to give it a try sometime. I've never ran into anyone that takes that long though so it's never been an issue with me.

Content Mirroring:

I can't think of a single time in which I've had to carry the interaction to the same degree as the initial approach (i.e. 90/10 rule). Usually, they're pretty well teed up by the time I start texting them.

But, I see your point. Still though. If she gives you a one word response, do you write a freaking book? No.

I think with all techniques there is a some wiggle room to challenge the technique, to push the limits...there's nothing wrong with getting a one sentence text and then responding with two sentences.