The Dam and Reservoir Example
Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 4:33 amI’m sure that there are many similar examples out there about the way women try to break down your frame through a variety of tests. In the past few months I have slept and had an opportunity to spend time with many beautiful women. I noticed that there is a definite pattern of tests which they throw at you from time to time.
People hate to feel as though they are being cornered and must feel that they have the freedom to do as they wish. Every girl I have been with so far has brought up the subject of jealousy and control. The most definite indicator of low status individuals is the need to control women secondary to their jealousy and insecurity of loss.
The other day I was at a bar party with a girl. A guy approached her and started hitting on her and running pretty good game. He asked her for her phone number, which she gladly gave to him, and even made sure to look me in the eyes while she was doing it to see my response. She even invited him to come eat Sushi with her. If I didn’t know any better, I would have gotten upset. What I did is take the situation like a high-value male and simply smiled and ignored it all together. Surely enough, a few hours later she brought up the subject of jealousy and asked me if I ever get jealous. I told her that I am only human and do sometimes get jealous, but don’t really care about it.
The girl is the water in the reservoir and she is trying to find cracks in your dam which represents your frame. If she can find any sort of insecurity or controlling behavior in you, she will keep pushing the button over and over until the dam finally cracks and creates a major leak (this is where your relationship is in trouble).
However, if you do not show her that her behavior is effective at causing any emotional stress to you, she will have no reason to keep doing it. Girls are programmed to prod your frame all the time to keep themselves sure that you are a viable mate who has strong frame and self respect. The second she sees that she can push your buttons is the second she will start looking around for someone stronger.
The pitfall here is if you show no vulnerabilities at all she may assume that you simply do not care about her enough. It is important to show a little bit of discontent, but not through direct confrontation. Perhaps you should go talk to other women to make her feel the same emotions as she made you feel. The most important thing here is not to confront her directly about that behavior as it is only meant to test you. Women like men who have control over their emotions, and if you explode at her you will completely lose your value.
Comments are welcome!
-TheRussian
People hate to feel as though they are being cornered and must feel that they have the freedom to do as they wish. Every girl I have been with so far has brought up the subject of jealousy and control. The most definite indicator of low status individuals is the need to control women secondary to their jealousy and insecurity of loss.
The other day I was at a bar party with a girl. A guy approached her and started hitting on her and running pretty good game. He asked her for her phone number, which she gladly gave to him, and even made sure to look me in the eyes while she was doing it to see my response. She even invited him to come eat Sushi with her. If I didn’t know any better, I would have gotten upset. What I did is take the situation like a high-value male and simply smiled and ignored it all together. Surely enough, a few hours later she brought up the subject of jealousy and asked me if I ever get jealous. I told her that I am only human and do sometimes get jealous, but don’t really care about it.
The girl is the water in the reservoir and she is trying to find cracks in your dam which represents your frame. If she can find any sort of insecurity or controlling behavior in you, she will keep pushing the button over and over until the dam finally cracks and creates a major leak (this is where your relationship is in trouble).
However, if you do not show her that her behavior is effective at causing any emotional stress to you, she will have no reason to keep doing it. Girls are programmed to prod your frame all the time to keep themselves sure that you are a viable mate who has strong frame and self respect. The second she sees that she can push your buttons is the second she will start looking around for someone stronger.
The pitfall here is if you show no vulnerabilities at all she may assume that you simply do not care about her enough. It is important to show a little bit of discontent, but not through direct confrontation. Perhaps you should go talk to other women to make her feel the same emotions as she made you feel. The most important thing here is not to confront her directly about that behavior as it is only meant to test you. Women like men who have control over their emotions, and if you explode at her you will completely lose your value.
Comments are welcome!
-TheRussian